Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Mel Gibson should check out some reruns of a TV show called ‘NYPD Blue’

For those of you who have not heard of this show (which ran from 1993-2005), the main character was Detective Andy Sipowicz… who, to say the least, was not an AFC in how he did his job.

Problem was, in his personal life and with women, he was a train wreck.  When we first meet Andy, he’s a longtime alcoholic, about to lose his career and estranged from his son.  He sought solace in booze and hookers.

Now, the Sipowicz story is legendary – bald, overweight, middle-aged Everyman twice marries much younger, hotter women, has several encounters with other hotties between the two marriages, and has women chasing him throughout.  I could write a book.  But for this article, I’m only going to deal with his seduction of Sylvia (the “pissy little bitch” I talk about below.)

In the very first scene, we see Andy Sipowicz humiliated on the witness stand when it’s revealed he slashed a mobster’s tires so he could see in the guy’s trunk without a warrant.  When the district attorney prosecuting the case shares her “concern” with Sipowicz because his misbehavior got her case thrown out, his response to her:

(while grabbing his crotch) “Hey, ipsa this you pissy little bitch!”

After a life-changing experience (getting shot by a hit-man during a tryst with his favorite hooker), Sipowicz gets sober by default (Mr. Daniels and  Mr. Beam don’t work at the ICU).

Now seeing clearly, he gets his career back on track, rebuilds his relationship with his son…and eventually asks Sylvia out to dinner.  When she expresses shock and asks why she would want to have dinner with HIM of ALL people, he says “I don’t know, you do or you don’t.”

She decides she does.

Soon, they become an item, and after several delays due to things that “keep coming up” at Andy’s apartment, she spends the night at his place.

What happens next?

Then it’s time to meet her family.  At a birthday party, where the liquor flows as freely as the laughter.  Testing himself, Sipowicz takes a drink.  Then another.  Cut to later that night when he throws Sylvia out in a drunken rage where all his demons (anger, hate, prejudice, self-loathing – sound familiar?) come out.

Over the next several months, Sipowicz gets more serious about self improvement.  He attends AA meetings and works with a sponsor.  Through persistent outreach he starts rebuilding his relationship with his son.  With the support of his partners, as well as a boss who proves more understanding than Sipowicz expected, he works on his negative attitudes and stereotypes and becomes more open and receptive.

Eventually, he creates another chance with Sylvia.  This time, he doesn’t blow it.  They get married, and at age 48 he becomes a father again.  A second chance at the life that, until recently, he never thought he’d have.

Now, why should Mel Gibson take note?

Here’s why Andy Sipowicz went from “hope-to-die drunk” to fulfilled man with a solid girl-getting game, while Mel keeps sliding in the opposite direction.

• Rather than dwelling on the past and beating himself up, Sipowicz accepts his own past behavior without passing judgment.  He applies lessons from it that help him become a better man.  (Over and over women tell him: “I know who you WERE.  And that’s an important part of how you became who you ARE.”)
• Sipowicz kept postponing Sylvia’s first visit to his apartment because he was unsure of his girl-getting game (he couldn’t remember the last time he had sex sober).  Whatever was tripping his inner game, though, turned out it wouldn’t have stopped her from wanting him anyway.
• Getting sober, and his initial experiences with Sylvia showed him he COULD succeed with women who, up until that point, may or may not have given him the time of day.  He subsequently uses this as an anchor to “pull himself back” when his path to betterment takes an unexpected turn (like when he briefly starts drinking again after Andy Jr., also a policeman, is killed in the line of duty).

Note to Mel Gibson: almost everything I described is in Seasons 1 and 2, which are available on DVD. Check them out.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Andy Sipowicz was not “runway model handsome” and he had a “past” that was less than desirable (with some ongoing areas for improvement) but there are enough women who liked him that it didn’t matter.  It was really his “inner game” that had him “tripping on his Johnson.”  Learn how he turned things around, and how YOU can, too.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

The dreck that’s pumped out into the mass media by the “romance industry” would have you thinking you have to look like a movie star, sing like a rock star, be chiseled like an Olympic star, and have enough money to take a space shuttle ride to an actual star, to get the babes you really want.

This is why so many guys resort to the 5 Bs – bullying, begging, buying, BS, and booze.  And also why many guys put off their girl-getting game for years while they hunker down in the gym building the “sixth B” – biceps.

Frankly, it has me SEEING stars.

Look: I’ve taught thousands of guys how to apply Speed Seduction® to cut through the “dating game” and score with women who, up till now, you thought would never give you the f@@king time of day.  I practice what I preach and… I’m 51, lanky and ugly as sin dipped in shit and I am never hard-up for women.

But it wasn’t always this way.

Where do you think I was when I started all of this, 22 years ago?

1. Living at home, moved back with my parents at age of 29.
2. Uglier than sin dipped in shit. (Age has only made me SLIGHTLY more graceful.)
3. NO money.
4. Driving a beat up Datsun b210 with NO f@@kin’ paint job left to speak of.

Didn’t stop me, though.

Chances are, things are “less than perfect” with you.  So f@@king what?

Let me ask one question: what would it be like if it just so happens that “one thing” about yourself you really don’t like, happens to be THE thing that gets many women hot… but you didn’t know because you didn’t take charge, fire up your girl-getting game, and FIND OUT?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

All too often, I hear guys complain with a variation of this theme:

“I just wish I could find a girl who’s right for me. I’ve had so much bad luck with women that I don’t know if I’ll EVER find a woman I want to be with.”

Or, “I’m never going to have this much fun again with someone so hot ever again” (often uttered right after “losing” the “best” woman you’ve ever had, so you think).

Really, now?

Tell you what: let’s break down some numbers.

As of yesterday (April 9, 2010), the United States Census Bureau estimated there are 6,813,600,000 people on Planet Earth.

About half (or 3.4 BILLION) of them are women.

Now, let’s say that only 1 in 1,000 are available, within your age range, or otherwise Sargeable by you. You’ve still got 3.4 MILLION women.

And let’s assume, conservatively, that you can have chemistry with 1% of these women. All said and done, that leaves you 34,000 women who are available to you.

If you were to approach one woman per day until you approach all 34,000…that’s enough women for the next 93 YEARS.

Have you seen at least ONE hot woman today you could approach? Is there some hottie you’ve wanted to put the moves on, but you just haven’t brought yourself to do it yet?

Look up from above your computer monitor, if you’re in a public area, such as a coffee shop or other place where you’re using the public Wi-Fi. If you’re a student in a computer lab, same thing.

Is there at least ONE woman there, RIGHT NOW who looks like she might be worth saying hello to? If not, there’s a 50/50 chance you’ll see one within the next half hour.

Me, I like those odds. And if I don’t get anywhere with the next woman I meet (or claim my choice that I can do better and “Exit, Stage Left”), I’ve got DECADES worth of women who are still out there.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

In the past 20 years, I can’t tell you how many times a student of mine has told me about a hot chick he KNOWS he could have scored, if only he knew she was single. He’ll tell me has no fear of approaching a woman and knows how to get her hot, and that he would have done it, except he thought she was married or had a boyfriend and didn’t want to “make waves.”

Look: when you claim who you are and what you give to the world, by definition, that makes waves. But sometimes, that’s only in your mind – your worry that by Sarging on a particular hottie, you might cause a problem with someone who actually won’t care one way or the other (in other words, no jealous husband or boyfriend who might want to fight you.)

This just in from a student who will be attending my January 2010 Speed Seduction® 3.0 Seminar in LA:

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Ross, about a week ago I was home visiting my family for Thanksgiving. I went to a party hosted by some friends of the family. The same people host the same party every year over Thanksgiving weekend so it was routine. In fact I knew the Sarging pickings would be slim, so I had about zero expectations. I was there mostly to make an appearance and planned to leave early so I could hit the club and up my odds for the night.

Anyway, one of the women at the party is someone I always thought was hot and I always got along with. Mutual acquaintances tell me that she asks about me all the time. Every time I’ve seen her before she was with her husband, who is a friend of the family. Two minutes before she came up to me, in fact, I had been talking to him. Well, I found out the next day that he is now her EX-husband and that he had been at the party with his new girlfriend. So the woman I always knew as his wife…is now his EX-wife. Best part – she was there without a date, just like I was.

Man, I could have banged her, if only I had KNOWN she was single! Why didn’t someone TELL me?

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A better question would be, “why didn’t you find out?”

Were you paying attention to her body language, signals, and the ‘vibe’ she was putting out toward you when she approached you at the party? Did you ask her how things were going, what she was up to, what she had been doing with her life since the last time you saw her? This “sudden” change in her status would have come up in conversation if she is, indeed, interested in you.

When I Sarge on a woman, whether she is someone I’ve just met or someone I know from before. I ask a lot of questions. I do this not to fill gaps in conversation, but to gather information I can immediately use to arouse her senses and get her hot for me, when I want to take her on a carnal carnival ride.

Perhaps, since this was a “family” party and you’re friends with her husband (well, make that ex-husband), using one of my Boyfriend Destroyer patterns might have seemed inappropriate. But dude … there was no boyfriend or husband to “destroy.”

Next time you see her (or any other “blast from the past”), do your homework with her and use my teachings to get an accurate read on the likely success of your girl-getting game – then claim mastery of the game!

Peace and piece,

- RJ

P.S. With insights and practical applications of the fundamental female functioning principle-the “operating system” and “machine language” of the female body and mind – this student would not have needed to ask anyone what her “status” is. He would have known the “coast was clear” and the “water slide was wet” and gotten some.

In my Speed Seduction® 3.0 System, you will learn how to create irresistible POSITIVE challenge that draws women forward and massively magnifies her her attraction to you, from the first word spoken to her last gasp of pleasure – whether you just met her or you’ve seen her a hundred times.

Claim yours today – and don’t let her get away again!

Come to my Speed Seduction® 3.0 Seminar in Los Angeles on January 22 – 24, 2010 and learn how to have the hottest women soaking themselves in minutes … And Begging To Bang You!

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you make the transition from Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) to Amazing Fascinating Champ who approaches, attracts and succeeds with the hottest, most desirable women, you become a powerful seduction master who refuses to resort to what I call the “5 Bs” – bullying, begging, buying, bs or booze – in your pursuit of happiness.

This doesn’t mean that the women you used to settle for – the ones you “accidentally” attracted – won’t still “slip under radar.” A student of mine thought he was picking up a hottie for a fun adventure, and instead found himself seated before the Grand Inquisition. In the spirit of Halloween, check out this “horror story”:

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Saturday night I went to meet a woman I picked up at a local club a few nights earlier. I was going to meet her at her friend’s house, and me and her were going off for a “night on the town.” It was going to be a night she would remember for the rest of her life. I was in my “zone,” ready to claim what was mine.

So I get to her friend’s house. I’m ready to get going but my date wants me to meet “the family” first. I figured I’d spend a minute doing “nice to meet you” and then me and my date would be on our way. Next thing I know, I’m sitting on their porch. My date, her friend, her friend’s niece, and their neighbor are sitting on the porch swing, with me seated on a chair opposite. The friend, niece, and neighbor are giving me the third degree trying to find out if I am psycho or something. This was NOT the “hard time” I expected tonight.

After about an hour of this nonsense “the family” left, and it was finally me and my date alone. She invited me to join “us” at a local bar. I know the place – it’s a dump where I wouldn’t be caught dead. I said “raincheck” and she said, “I’m sorry they put you through this, they just look out for me. Next time, we’ll go out and it will be just me and you.” So we set the next date and time and I was on my way.

You know, one of the standards I have for women is that she be assertive, strong, and not make life decisions based on what others tell her to do. I thought this was her, but I’m not so sure now. She’s really hot and I enjoyed the first night I met her and our phone conversations. I do want to see her again, but how do I make sure I don’t have to sit through another torture session to be with her?

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She’s sorry about what “they” put you through? First of all, it wasn’t THEY. It was SHE who put you through it. I don’t have to point this out but I will anyway.

And if you would have gone to that s&$%hole with “them” you would have gotten more of the same from more “friends” of hers who “happened” to be there. You would have gotten in a fistfight – her way of finding out if you could “protect” her if you were her boyfriend. You saw this coming, that’s why you called “raincheck” - good on you, for that!

If she was capable of thinking and acting independently, she wouldn’t have brought you to her friend’s house. On the outside, she’s a juicy, delicious goddess-woman who knows how to make you laugh. But her behaviour showed a high-school girl trying to decide if her “popularity level” would go up or down if she was seen talking to you in the hall, much less making out with you at the pep rally.

Next time you are brought before the Grand Inquisition, fake an urgent call on your cell phone, plead “emergency” and get out of there. Or better yet, don’t. Stand up, say you need to go, don’t explain why, and walk out.

Let “them” know that you ain’t playing THEIR games. And since the night’s still young, find yourself another hottie and hit a grand slam.

Peace, piece, and not pieces,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Recently on my Twitter channel, someone asked me, “I just broke up with my girlfriend. How did you get over your break up so fast? Two years is a long time to date someone.”

Now in case you don’t know, this guy is talking about the fact that I recently ended my nearly two year relationship with the wonderful Swedish sweetheart, Pernilla. And I’m already out there sarging and having fun flexing my super-powers.

However, I have to correct what this guy said. I am NOT “over” it. In fact, I miss Pernilla dearly.

Does that sound strange to you? That a Seduction Guru-no, make that THE Seduction Guru-should miss his now ex-girlfriend?

Well, it shouldn’t. I never said you shouldn’t love a girl. Of course I’ve loved Pernilla. How could I not? She’s smart as hell, fun, sexy, sweet and very, very funny.

In fact, I miss her every day. And here is the key. Once I acknowledge that missing, I make a choice about what I am going to do with it.

So I don’t just say, “I miss Pernilla” although that’s true. I add something to it. What do I add? I add, “and, I claim my ownership and management of that missing to the point where I stay happy, focused, grounded and productive, continuing to draw awesome women into my life who love and please me sexually, emotionally, mentally and physically”.

Let’s parse over that huge mouthful for you a bit:

1. I don’t stop with the feelings. I don’t stuff them or fight them, but they are not the end of it and they aren’t what controls the situation. I start with them. I don’t end with them.
2. I add in my “and”. Not “but”. “AND”. Saying “and” acknowledges as true what comes before it as remaining true, but not the end of the story.
3. I then go on to use a powerful word: “claim”. That means I am making a choice from power, not reacting from pain. You could also use “choose” or even “create”. I like “claim”. As in claiming a prize, or claiming your car from the valet. (Note: I’m not saying that there isn’t pain. I’m saying I’m not reacting from it. Get the distinction?)
4. Then I go on to use two more powerful words: “ownership” and “management”. Now what does it mean to have “ownership” and to have “management”? These words indicate that I am in charge of my missing and that I am directing what I do with it. It opens the mind circuits to expand outwards and make some smart choices.
5. What’s next? “To the point where” This means that the ownership and management is directed to an outcome. It is going to produce something good for me.
6. Finally, a good, fairly specific description of the outcome. Note I don’t just talk about being happy and productive. I state what that is designed to do for me, what the outcome of that direction is: having more great women who please me. Please me how? I state the various ways. Being specific like this gives the mind even better directions on what to do with the thoughts and feelings to produce results in the world.

Now listen: in addition to this, I do my daily meditation practice. That really helps handle whatever raw feelings come up. I can watch them come and go, feel them, but not spin stories around them or buy into them or identify with them. I don’t suppress but I don’t identify either.

And that, my friends and students, is real power and choice. It is true emotional freedom that sets you free to live your world from the emotional truth and from choice into power.

You can learn to transmute your difficult thoughts and emotions into true freedom, power and choice right here.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Make no mistake: I still have some tough moments. I’ve loved Pernilla dearly, loved the great times we shared, and will always honor her as one of the best friends I have. She’s earned that love from me many times over.

P.P.S. It’s a good feeling to practice what I preach. What I practice and preach is right here.

P.P.P.S. As a person of integrity, I have to acknowledge that I learned this skill set of language mastery that I’m conveying here from the work of Robert Tennyson Stevens. I don’t like some of Bob’s “biblical” fascinations, but his work about consciouslly using language is unsurpassed. I recommend his Conscious Language CD course. You can find it at http://www.masterysystems.com. I absolutely hate it when people take or teach from my work without acknowledging their source, and I’ll be damned if I behave that way. So go check out Bob’s work for yourself, even if it costs me money, it’s the right thing to do.