Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As I once told a friend of mine who asked me how I could take being “rejected” by women, “I never get rejected. I just discover if a woman has good taste!”

Now, I admit, that’s a pretty extreme reframe. But notice the fun state of mind it created for me.

My actual attitude in any situation involving women is: “I will either get what I want (or better than I imagined) or I will enjoy the process of learning what I need to get what I want or better than I imagined”.

Now, just imagine holding THAT belief in front of you as you consider approaching a woman you’d like to meet.

What it comes down to is the MEANING you assign to approaching women that determines what you will be able to do.

Here is an example:

I have had SO many students tell me they can’t even talk to a beautiful woman.  I always ask them the following question.

“Ok. Suppose that stunningly beautiful woman you “can’t” talk to was standing there and I guy was coming up behind her with a knife raised in the air, about to bring it down on her and stab her. Could you talk to her then and at least yell, “Hey lady! Look out!”

Every guy I have ever asked that has at least said “yes” and many of them have said they would go on to try to take the knife away from the guy.

I always say,

“Congratulations. That’s talking to a beautiful woman!”

They always look at me kind of funny and say, “well, that’s different. I would be doing something good for her, in that case”.

Wow. As if talking to a woman and giving her the chance to possibly enter your world ISN’T A GOOD THING?

Really the only difference is the meaning YOU assign to it.

Instead of the woman being the judge of your value or attractiveness what if you just viewed talking to her as a way to enjoy seeing what she was like and even to see how much fun you could have playing with her?

Or you could go really nutty with your imagination, get really playful, and imagine she was suffocating and there was air in your sac!

I admit that’s extreme, but it sure beats viewing talking to a girl as a life or death situation.

The bottom line: rejection cannot exist in a properly directed mind. There is only the meaning  YOU assign!

Hey…that sorta rhymes! Now write it down, 100 times!

The key here is to stay playful, have fun and assign the right meaning, the meaning that serves you, rather than the one that stops you in your tracks.

When you stay playful, your life will be “playful”.

Ha ha ha. This is fun.  But the rhyming is done. (OOPS!)

Here is an email from a student who let that playful attitude serve him very well:

I really have to thank you for all of your hard work and dedication to redressing the balance in the power of men and women

I have been a student for over six years now and have had some mind blowing results, but the most important thing to me is the fun you can have doing this when rejection no longer even exists in your PREVIOUSLY negative mind.

I’m hope there is no need to give you specific stories as there really are to many to mention and “doing the thing” with women within just an hour of meeting them was unimaginable, until I had your coaching . . .it then became the norm.

I believe that students need to adapt it to their own culture and environment, but that goes without saying and thankfully you give your students the tools to do this.

I have actually found my ideal partner in life now and because of your material it was totally by choice not because it “was the best I could do”.

I am 39yrs old with no money [ too lazy there ] I would say I was only OK looking too , but my partner is just 21 and a HB 10, she has an amazing mind too  [very important]. . . people are all ways in awe and ask ” how do you do so well with women”.

So thanks again and please keep up the amazing work so that you can help people to make themselves as happy as you helped make me

I hope your students never give up on having FUN with this and how easy it becomes with practice (not for the lazy ass or people shut down to fun).

A million thanks
Dave, England”

Dave, you are welcome. And let me say that the key here IS to keep it fun. If you start taking any of this too seriously, you will cut down the power of the techniques and get in your own way.

If you have ever seen me teach, I am constantly joking around but I take what I do very seriously. I just don’t have to approach it in a serious way.

I also very much appreciate your point about having found a life partner totally by choice and not because it was the best you could do.

When men come from true power and choice, that is when they can be truly loyal to a woman. Not because they gave up, but because they at last had the tools to STEP UP to the quality of woman they have always truly really wanted.

Peace and piece
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

There’s a big argument/debate on whether you can ever be “kind” to women.

Could she view this as a sign of strength (you are confident enough that you present yourself from a place of kindness and warmth) or weakness (that it makes you a pushover, an AFC, or worse)?

My answer:

Uh uh uh…depends Depends. Depends.

If it reeks of need or pressure (aka desperate supplication or other AFC behaviors), they don’t want it.

If it’s freely given or given from a place of abundance AND you have established authority and respect, it’s usually a-ok.

Most unappreciated “kindness” is unappreciated because:

1. You didn’t establish respect/authority or get any investment from her in the interaction/transaction BEFORE the kindness.
2. She’s a twist and just doesn’t trust any kindness. Ok. They are out there. Best to run away or play the villain only a VERY short while. But aware, please: if you stare into the abyss to get your cues and clues on how to respond and behave, the abyss also stares long and hard into you. And what it gazes at it molds and shapes. So don’t look long. You can glance briefly at the sun but I wouldn’t look too long nor make a habit of it. Get my metaphor?
3. It wasn’t really kindness but need or pressure.
4. She’s a super-twist and not only doesn’t trust kindness, she WANTS to be punished. Run, RUN, R-U-N away.
5. She doesn’t like the psychological pressure of having to live up to the ideal you think of her as; putting her on a pedestal gives her cramps, a nosebleed and a nasty migraine, so she kicks you in the face as she steps off to be human.
6. You are giving her the kindness you THINK she wants or that you enjoy giving and not what the kindness she really needs. If she craves physical affection and you buy her gifts it isn’t her fault that you aren’t paying attention.

Given the right context and a reasonably ok psyche (and it isn’t that rare) most women will soak up appropriate, NON NEEDY, NON PUSHY kindness.

Some are twists.

Some just crave excitement and drama and dominance more than the cuddlies, wuddlies and warm fuzzies.

The most confusing ones crave one over the other depending on their mood of the day or time of the month.

So, women, any given woman, are/is as unpredictable as each is unique in her own way, but there are some ground rules that always apply.

1. Screen your woman.
2. Establish boundaries, self-respect/authority in her world.
3. Those who require punishment or who never trust kindness need to be left behind.
4. Get a good initial read, if you can, on whether they more strongly prefer excitement, drama and being dominated to being cared for and looked after, or in what proportion they want each. I prefer a woman who is a good mix of both; if she doesn’t like excitement she’s probably a lousy fuck. If she can’t take kindness, then I can’t open my heart to her and the sex becomes nothing more than an energy dump; fun,but numbing and draining.

Hint: Learn to read the chakra at the hara or t’an t’ien. which relates to power and will issues and you will get an idea of where they are at. And EXPECT the unexpected because with women, it IS going to happen.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

There’s a common saying in street fighting that 95% of all real fights wind up in a clinch and go to the ground. Could that really be true? Frankly, I don’t know. But I will say this: 95% of the time, a woman will test you by the second meet, or sooner, to see:

1. If you’ll take her bullshit.
2. How hungry you are for her attention (remember: those who look hungry, never get fed)
3. Just how much control she can exert over you and/or the relationship.

You CAN pass those tests – and do some testing of your own. Believe me, this is important.

If you’ve ever been dumped for being “too nice”, or have been told, time and again, “let’s just be friends”, it’s because you haven’t learned to recognize when you’re being tested or just haven’t yet learned how to properly respond.

You thought you would get points for being “co-operative” and “helpful”, and instead you just got the fuzzy end of the lollipop.

Why She Tests You: The Search For Strength And Certainty

Look: one of the primary things that women are looking for from a man is security; the feeling that someone is stronger than they are. When you put a woman in her place, when you set rules and boundaries for her to follow, it lets her know she can relax around you and feel comfortable and secure.

This search for strength is the single most important reason why she tests you.

The other factor is ambivalence, or what I call the “make up my mind for me” syndrome. You see, often a woman just isn’t that interested in you one way or another. Maybe you aren’t exactly the physical type she goes for, maybe she just got burned in a bad relationship, or there’s some unseen competitor who she’s waiting to hear from.

Whatever her reasons, you can tell this is happening when you hear something like, “Uh…well, I’d like to go out with you Friday, but why don’t you call me late Friday afternoon and I’ll let you know for sure?”

Finally, there is the fact that sometimes, modern women just get overwhelmed with eighty billion things they are trying to do at once. And, when overwhelmed, they flake on commitments that occur during the peak of the overwhelm.

Now, stay with me… in my next post I will show you just how to handle it.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

So, you are in the course of Sarging and seducing a woman.  Everything seems to be going great – as far as you can tell, you’ve captured and led her interest, now you’re getting ready to buckle up for a rip-roarin, snatch-soarin’ ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

Then, like out of nowhere, she starts flaking, going cold, losing interest.

“What happened?!?!?!” you ask yourself as you vision the cold winter sea water of a seduction-sliding-south engulfing you as things sink faster than the Titanic.

It’s Time To Take Stock, Not Slip Into Shock

Here is a “quicksand-stopping checklist” you can work through when, despite your best efforts, the seduction sizzle starts dissipating into soon-to-be-masturbatory fizzle. Learn it, and you’ll find a “jumping back in point” when you need one.

First, you can diagnose according to certain categories…

Add, Increase, Eliminate, Subtract

1. What needs to be added? Is there something you are missing entirely that needs to be put in?
2. What needs to be increased-maybe there is something you need to do more of-more repetitions, more intensity, more volume, etc.?
3. What needs to be eliminated-something needs to be removed entirely?
4. What needs to be diminished (subtracted)-ok to keep doing it, but less of it-less intense, less volume, less frequent?

Next, we need to look at levels.

1. Improve conceptual understanding. Is there a key concept or concepts you are not using or understanding?
2. Energy/vibe-do you need to correct something on the vibe/energy level?
3. Beliefs-is there something needing correction/improvement in your beliefs? Your cognitions about what moves women and what is required to bed them?
4. Tools/behavior-do you need to polish some individual tool or tools? Actions you ought to be taking but aren’t?
5. Analogs-do you need to correct body language, tonaity, volume, tempo?

Look: every girl-getting situation is different, but once you master the skills, you’ll be doing a lot more of it (girl-getting, that is).  The above is by no means an exhaustive list, but it gives some good “quick start” places to look when you’re trying to save a Sarge on the fly.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Just received another success story from a student who has invested in several Speed Seduction products, including the 3.0 Course, the Power Pack, and Nail Your Inner Game, and who has done an in-person consult with me.

As you read, in his own words, how Brian claimed his results with the women he truly desired, consider what steps you will take to blast past whatever stuck points are holding you back and make today the last day of the way you used to be.

I came across Speed Seduction® by Ross Jeffries in February 2009 after past failed relationships where I felt I was settling and not reaching my full potential. I felt stuck and was looking for guidance to be able to choose the women I wanted to be with.

In the last year since I began incorporating these techniques, I have slept with 4 women (2 week fling, 4 month relationship with a “9″, one night stand with a “10″, and a 2 month casual relationship with a “9″). All 4 of these women were the best looking of any girls I have slept with in the past.

This is mainly due to his beliefs (from 3.0 home study course and speed life bonus), response patterns from his various products (specifically the best of RJ coaching), and self confidence techniques from Nail Your Inner Game and Unstoppable Confidence.

The most recent success came from an in-person consult that I was privileged enough to participate in with Ross. I didn’t even use language patterns with this girl. A lot of the attractiveness came from the vibes and attitudes he teaches. Just from avoiding the mistakes that most guys make, not needing to win, and having the confidence in myself not to react to her first responses, and practicing my tonality and pace at which I speak had a “9″ in my bed on New Years Eve this year.

I admire and thank Ross for his passion in teaching, and encourage anyone who is looking to make personal change in their life to participate in Speed Seduction®.

All the best,

Brian Schumacher
Detroit, Michigan

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Once again, I reach into my lovely mail bag and pull out an e-mail I got from a student about… his attempt to e-mail an HB9 he met at a party.

Some of the patterning was good, but it came off…just…BAD because the context was WAY OFF.

> I met this girl HB9 at a party full of people 3 weeks ago. I talked with her only for a few times and for short periods.  We kept getting interrupted by her friends, an attempt by another guy to cockblock me.  She behaved also like a social butterfly talking to different people, breaking conversations fast, etc.  I managed to get her email address just before she left.

Yeah, in what context? In other words, was it done after you and she were into each other, you had captured and lead her imagination and emotions, future-paced spending time together, as in, “It’s too bad we can’t FIND A WAY TO HANG OUT AGAIN AND SEE WHAT WE COULD ENJOY”.

Or did you just say, “give me your email”?

I think it was more the latter, rather than the former.  Anyway, let’s continue.

> My first email to her was two weeks later.  It read:
>
> I am Matthew, I enjoyed meeting you at the party.  It was pleasant and without giving you the impression to be too serious, too early, I learned how much it is rare to find someone funny, authentically sympathetic, nice and charming; but enough about me, you seem to be also a potentially interesting girl
>
> By observing you that evening, I noted that you were rather sympathetic and smiling. At the same time, you showed some reserve when in contact with new people. It is as if there is an interior conflict in you between a natural reserve and a desire to connect with others.
>
> You know, with me, you can feel at ease, be completely yourself without needing to play a social part or without having fear of being judged.  The tolerance, the open mindedness and the compassion for me and the others you showed are paramount values which guide my way of being, thinking and acting.
>
> Could you describe me one of your passions? You know one of these activities in which you feel yourself completely transported, completely absorbed by what you do, where time seems to be slowing, until it stops and where you feel the spirit, the flame in you that shines. And it is in one of these moments, that you feel yourself more alive, that you feel the most passion and that you are more in contact with the spiritual force which is with each one of us and which then appears with the most clearness and beauty. For me, I am fascinated by literature and in particular by poetic creation. If you like also poetry, we could exchange poems and give our respective impressions.
>
> Please answer me,
> Matthew

After trying to salvage the situation by snagging her e-mail address from the clutches of total defeat, why did you mastur-wait for two weeks before dropping her a line?

How do you know she liked you on that first meeting?  From what you described, it seems like you were struggling to get two words in.  How do you know?  And then what? A personality reading? It comes across as begging for her approval, trying to impress her.  Total AFC here.

Next, how was she tolerant, open minded and compassionate?  How do you get all that from a casual chat at a party that kept getting interrupted?

Speed Seduction® isn’t about reciting speeches that have NO relation to the context, the person or anything that you yourself have experienced. These aren’t Magick chants.

Well, She Answered The Following Day

And…it was a doozy.  I knew she’d answer – but I saw this coming before I even read that far.

> hi matthew,
>
> thank you for your message, but, how did you have my email??  you know, I spoke with many people that evening. what did we talk about, at which moment of the evening?  what do you look like?  sorry I can’t remember.
>
> unless you tell me more about you, I am sorry but I won’t be able to talk to you further.

Ouch. She didn’t even fucking recognize who you were. That’s my point. In a seduction situation, email, texting, phone calls, can work, but without a command of non-local influence, you have to put in the work IN PERSON, FACE TO FACE.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

The other day here on my blog, I delved into the difference between a woman deliberately trying to manipulate you, versus her need for safety and control by self-fractionating.

As I explained in that post, there are a few basic things that set up and create her willingness for seduction/trance etc. These factors make any patterning you do much more readily received and usually are factors you generally CAN control.

Now, recently, a few students have commented on my blog posts because they thought I was saying that sometimes, you cannot control the woman’s response. To that I would reply by beginning with: sometimes, factors that are beyond your control CAN work in your favor.

These include:

1) She happens to be among the 15% of the population that are sonambulistic; that is, she will readily accept and make real ANY set of suggestions anyone gives to her. She will sit with her doggy dinner bowl as you recite patterns word for word, go right in to trance and have exactly the responses you want. CAUTION: she also has a loose grip on reality and when she makes YOU her grip on reality, watch it when you try to get that grip to loosen.

2) You happen to match her “checklist”; you have the height, weight, looks, age range, job, status, etc. Given that, any patterning you do will be very well received.

3) She happens to be readily open and looking for whatever it is you happen to present, so it matches her perceived reality; she is looking to get laid that night, you present that opportunity in your patterns, and she jumps on it.

4) She has hidden/suppressed needs and the patterns bring those needs to the surface. You grab on to them and link them to you.

Now What If…

What if none of these factors work in your favor? 

What if she’s not suggestible to ANYTHING?  What if you don’t meet the criteria on her “checklist”?  Perhaps she’s not interested in getting laid at all, and she’s so intent on NOT getting laid she might even catch on to your patterns?  Her hidden/suppressed needs aren’t rising to the surface tonight?

Consider this:

• Despite all of the above, a woman’s current response should rarely be taken as her final answer.  More likely, she’s responding to what’s in her mind and her world AT THAT MOMENT.  That can change…in a moment.
• Why did she pull out her “checklist?” Is it because you took her on a “date” complete with dinner, movie, and a “romantic walk” in the park?  Remember: dating is what you do with women you are ALREADY sleeping with.  Also note, the checklist CAN change.
• Her looks might be hotter than her libido. Look around.  Ask yourself.  “Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman on the whole freaking planet???”
• Remember what I say: “Interested in the girl, invested in mastering the skills.”

Could any of the above apply?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Ever get the feeling that a woman is yanking your chain, just to demonstrate she can?

Like, one minute she’s hot, bothered, and just waiting for you to pick her up and take her to the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.  The next, she’s cold, aloof, and giving you one-word answers while looking away from you.  Enough to make you ask…

…What GIVES?

Is she wishy-washy?  Is she confused?  Is she just a tease who gets off on the attention of men?  Does she like screwing men?

The First Question I Would Ask

In your Sarge, are you moderating, controlling, refining your immediate, urgent, hungry male desire to PENETRATE NOW?

Women sometimes seem to go “back and forth” as a control/safety issue. They get excited, then they catch themselves and think “Oooh, this feels too good. Better slow myself down.” They are not really trying to control you, but themselves.  The trick is: the control part LOOKS like the same signals women give us when they are genuinely un-interested!

I think women usually (usually) are NOT consciously trying to manipulate us. It is mostly an attempt to gain a measure of self-control and/or a means of exciting themselves by SELF-FRACTIONATING.

Yes, women get MORE excited if they pull back and then reinvest in the excitement. If we fractionate them, they will feel that excitement and also safety and they won’t have to do it for us.

There are a few basic things that set up and create willingness for seduction/trance etc. These factors make any patterning you do much more readily received, and these are factors you generally CAN control:

1. Fractionating and pattern interrupting.
2. Demonstrating authority in their world
3. Given them the feeling they are being screened
4. Energetically moving among the vibes they find attractive: funny, showing authority in their world, being commanding and being sincere
5. Non verbally/non locally setting up a psychic/energtic/magick link.
6. Giving them a perceived self-image to live up to.

Armed with this knowledge, you can then re-channel her control/safety needs and help her Sarge her way right into your bed.  That sure beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It’s easy to say that women who are mean to you, or who act in ways that don’t hold up to logic, are mean, psycho bitches.

Have you considered the role self-esteem plays?  Think about it.

Most women have dealt with some previous wanker boyfriend / husband / boss criticizing her, her friends backstabbing her, things not going her way, getting her heart broken, getting cheated on, etc.  Or some of the above.  Or ALL of the above, where her wanker boyfriend cheated on her with her backstabbing best friend, thus breaking her heart, which means things did not go her way.

The result? What do you THINK?  Internal low self esteem.  Externally, these wounded souls evolve into perpetrators of bitchiness.

They frequently have a bad attitude.  The “drama” is trauma based – tantrums, making up stories that are obviously lies, being rude about others, etc etc. They are only happy if other people feel worse than they do, and often do all they can, including blatant manipulation, to create a situation that makes them feel better and puts them at the center of the universe.

You’re Not Out Of Luck, Though

Here’s how many girl-getting maestros will approach this:

Disarm her and show her you are unaffected. Turn it on her in a humorous fashion. Ignore her with a smile.  But if you can’t, then it’s “Exit, Stage Left.”

Problem, though: this only works for a while.  She’ll revert back to the drama/trauma frame over and over.

We Need A Direction Toward Something Better

Look: if you were to daily, ritually, synergistically and synchronistically be guided to and have guided to you, women who were happy, open-minded, grounded, loving life, contributing, supportive, who, when they receive love, welcome and return it…maybe, just maybe, after clearing up whatever of your OWN “stuff” might be drawing you to the drama/trauma crowd, you might start bumping into more and more such women.

Just like light can be measured as either a particle or a wave, depending on HOW you look for it and measure it, problems can be met at the level at which they come up, or you can go deeper, wider, or even “to the side”.

I want to suggest that BOTH approaches are required; train oneself to see the truth behind “bitchy” behavior and not to react to it, but also train oneself to expand the possibilities and to draw MUCH better where these “problems” will just not occur.

It IS possible.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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