Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I recently received this e-mail from a student of mine about how Speed Seduction® helped him “up” his game with women this past New Years’.  No resolution, just motor-vation to success.

Let’s hear him share, in his own words:

Ross, I owe you a huge thank you for all of your free materials. I have never had any consistent luck with women and now it is fantastic. I have been following all of your rules and beliefs when approaching women and they have worked every time. I often find myself grounding a lot more often and this really seems to keep my focus and balance in check.

My New Years Eve started off great. I was at my third and final stop of the night when I say a gorgeous waitress across the room. I got her attention by snickering at her.  Your rule saved me from the start. “When in doubt take a bold step forward.” So I did. She asked me “What are you snickering at me for?” I replied “Because, I think you’re really cute.”  She said the same about me and then promptly said “Don’t go anywhere.” and she returned with her number.  Since the next day we were texting then in the bed room…..

If it was not for your free segment on “shutting down last minute hesitation” I would have been done. She said that “I just met you and we shouldn’t be doing this.” I then stopped to a breath and gently whisper to her “I understand and see your point. I too only want to do things that we are both truly comfortable with.” and bang it was on since then. She has been texting me nonstop and wanting to hangout. The other cool part of the story is we don’t even have much in common, I just seem to keep the patterns that I know working.

THIS IS A TRUE TESTIMONIAL TO ROSS’S TEACHING: She just graduated from a Major big name college with a psychology degree and can read me like a book. But Ross’s patterns slip right through all of her constant analyzing and work every time!!!!!!! This is great! Man I only wish I could view the entire new course, if one video made my new year perfect.

Ross, a true thanks from a grateful fan.

Al Levy
Council Bluffs, Iowa

RJ here again.  Did you catch that last part?

For those of you who still (misguidedly) think that top-notch, intelligent, sophisticated, intellectual women will not get wet, will not be irresistibly aroused, will not want to push forward in a new direction – that’s just not the case.  In Al’s case, the woman is specifically trained to pick up on patterns, persuasion techniques, etc.

The women are waiting.  What in Suzanne’s silk nightie are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The good news is – you can have my brand new course.  It’s called “Sexual Aggression Mastery” and it’s chock full of mindsets, skills, and techniques to get you through when resistance (either hers or yours) appears at the “moment of truth.”

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Talk about a buzz kill.

How many times does it happen – you’re back at her place, snuggled together on the couch.  You’re making out with her.  Things are heating up, in every sense of the word.

Somewhere in the back of your mind you hear the train whistle (“Full Steam A-head!”), the crack of baseball bat hitting ball (“HOME RUN!!!”), or even a scanning of your personal inventory (“Did I remember the condom?”)

But then you hear a screeching noise.  As in, to a grinding halt, usually signalled by an abrupt end to the grinding.

So what just happened to your sexual agenda, your aggression, your desire? Where did it go?  Now SHE’s the one who turns it on and off, because suddenly she’s not comfortable. You, in turn, become uncomfortable and you shut yourself down.

Then what do you do? You wait for an engraved invitation. She has to write in gold letters “Please f@@k me now” and sign it.

Are you a recovering nice guy? 

If what I’ve just described sounds familiar (as it does to millions of smart men the world over) I’m willing to bet that one of your issues is you’re so emotionally in tune to women, when they start feeling something, you feel it for yourself.

Part of untangling this issue of being sexually aggressive is this ability to stay grounded in your body, see where she’s at, but not have to go there for yourself.

I didn’t say: you never go there or you can’t go there if you choose to.  If you’re making love with your woman and she’s feeling an incredible sexual desire, yeah, you want to go where she is. But it’s that matter of choice.

Dominant has nothing to do with having big muscles or pushing people around or any of that. That’s the imitation of dominance. That’s the counterfeit of dominance. That’s the impersonation of dominance.  That’s being a jerk.  Jerks literally cannot feel what their woman is feeling.

True sexual aggression mastery makes you a leader in every phase of your relationship to women.  It lets you see where they are at without having to go there yourself, so you can stay in the emotional lead.

Now, that sure beats a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If you’ve ever found yourself “choking” at the moment of truth, backing away from being sexually forward, or easily put off by the slightest “resistance” offered by a woman, my new Sexual Aggression Mastery course will untangle all that for you.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A question that comes up from time to time with my students: should you discuss your interest / study / involment in / the very existence of the seduction community, with the women you’re with?

An important point to ponder, and particularly so in the age of the internet and social media.  What if she Googles your e-mail address?  What if she scrolls through your Facebook friends list and finds 20 or so friends of yours who are in the seduction community, and puts two and two together?

Some might say, set your privacy settings to the max and only use a pseudonym online.

Others might balk such a suggestion and ask why they should feel the need to be anyone other than the person they truly are.

Well, I have a different answer, since this is what I do for a living!

Some women have STRONG, negative responses to it; they get furious. Others are cool with it, depending on how I present it and HOW I PRESENT MYSELF. If I present myself as a cool, fun, non-threatening guy who knows some stuff but can walk if they don’t want to see it, then the fun, cool ones are ok with it.

Some women are wary and express reservations; of these, some can be managed into being cool with it as they see it as a good thing. Others can’t.

Now let’s circle back to the original question and how it applies to you.

If she can experience amazing feelings with you, beyond anything she’s had before, she’ll keep wanting to come back to it and what you do in your spare time or whatever becomes more of a non-event.

Make sense?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Are you now getting, or have you ever gotten, pushback from a female interest that goes something like this:

“Wow, I want to get involved but I think you’re just going to leave me hurt”

or

“You’re something, but I don’t think I could live up to you.”

Is she intimidated by you?  Does she lack self-confidence?  Are we seeing past trauma in her life rearing its ugly head?  Perhaps a little self-doubt in her mind, “I don’t deserve this man”?

Could be any, or all of these.  Or something else.

Let me point out the piece that I think is missing: having HER reach for it, having HER confirm for herself in her OWN thinking and her OWN behavior that:

• She WANTS to reach for more.
• She MUST reach for more or she will lose you.
• If she DOES reach for more, she WILL get a great reward with you (you will NOT reject her if she DOES reach for more, but reward her instead).

There are many Speed Seduction® tools to help accomplish this, but one thing to emphasize above all is the attitude that you do not and WILL not overwhelm her; that at some point, SHE has to qualify herself “in”, and if she does not, you will walk away and not feel anything other than, “Ok, let’s draw someone better”.

[Hint: the tools would be ratification, meta-stating, measuring. Also screening, both actually screening for certain personality traits and giving the appearance of being screened.]

And of course, fractionation.

If you are always, always, ALWAYS moving forward then she literally CAN’T move toward you. Where are you energetically, physically, etc. pulling back a bit and seeing if she moves toward YOU?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In the initial phases of seduction, a little “tension” can be good.  “Give her a little of what she wants, then pull back and make her work for more” is a generalized way of putting that.

But what if you’re the kind of person who, when shown affection or appreciation, responds with higher levels of the same?  What if you do so to the point where the other person gets burned out on your presence?

This can be challenging indeed when resisting the urge to be affectionate is difficult, or otherwise no fun.

So, what to do? 

I would say, first and foremost, get a full experience of the actual physical feeling of giving affection and apreciation.

What is the feeling flow in the body?

Pour all of your attention into that, turning off the internal talk and imagery.

Every few seconds, note out loud if the feeling is the same or if it is changing.

Feelings can change in many ways: intensity, shape, duration(short bursts or long waves), direction of flow, continuous or separated by patches of empty or much lesser intensity.

Do that for a couple of minutes.

This will give you great awareness so that when the feeling/urge begins to arise you can have awareness and choice.

Also, look at how much of your desire to nurture, give affection is done because it is more comfortable than say, being commanding or aggressive or strongly sexual.

Don’t get me wrong; you can be tender and affectionate in your sexual expression too.

And, above all, look for women who will lap it up. There ARE women who want kindness and connection and safety rolled into and surrounding and perfusing through their sexual connections.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The “same and changing” technique is taught at our live seminars, along with numerous other live, interactive, get-hands-on-now demonstrations and exercises.  To get your hands on over 60 hours of this kind of teaching, instant-access, in the comfort and privacy of your home, click here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the ideas I keep returning to is this: “I seldom take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone. It is almost always just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or believing in that moment, and almost always subject to change.”

Now, this idea is central to my skills with women, and not just in the initial approach.

It also applies to that dreaded but common female syndrome: Last Minute Resistance (or LMR).

(If you’ve ever been getting it on with a girl, making out like crazy and suddenly she appears to grow fearful, cold or uncertain and stops you with a “This is going too fast” or something along those lines, you’ve experienced LMR.)

I Had Her Buck-Naked, And Dripping Like A Leaky Pipe,
When She Suddenly Brought Up The “Boyfriend”

So let me tell you about this one weekend where I had a lovely lady in my hotel room and we were both in our birthday suits getting all hot and bothered.

I pulled her to the corner of the bed, slid on my “Willy Wonka Wrapper” and had her legs in the air when she pushed me away and said, “No … My boyfriend. I just can’t do this to him.”

Now, listen: I had no idea this lovely lass even had a “boyfriend” as it had never even come up before this moment. So all of you absolute moralists who want to write me hate mail, feel free-but you are as wet as she was on this one.

What I Did With Her “LMR” That Had Her Hopping
On My Turgid Meat-Pole

Immediately, I stopped what I was doing and lay down on the opposite side of the bed from her, to give her some space and diffuse her discomfort.

“Hey, I understand,” I said. “I don’t want to do anything that we aren’t both comfortable with and I want you to be certain, YOU WANT TO DO THIS.”

(By the way, I meant that. If she was not certain, I was no longer interested. I never force, pressure or push women-it’s disgusting and low-class. I’m a seducer, not a brute.)

Then a thought hit me.

“How about if I put on my shorts? That should take off the pressure” I said.

So I jumped up and dramatically pulled on my boxers, which got a laugh.

“Tell you what, let me get dressed completely.”

And that’s what I did. I got fully dressed then lay down on the bed, while she was laughing hysterically the entire time.

“Wait a sec,” I said. “Let me put on my coat. That should help you feel extra secure.”

So I did exactly that, and buttoned it up too.

By this time she was in hysterics, laughing. She kept saying, “Stop, stop! You can take your clothes off if you want.”

But I wasn’t done.

“Let me put on an EXTRA pair of pants. That will really render my c**k harmless.”

And that’s what I did-I took a pair of pants I had draped on the couch and pulled them over my jeans.

“There,” I continued. “Now you are really safe. But I’ll get under the covers while YOU stay above the covers and don’t think about sex.”

At this point she was crying with laughter and said, “You are sooo funny. God, I’m turned on again.”

Then She Did Something That Shocked Me

In between gasps of laughter she managed to blurt out, “This is really turning me on.”

Then, I kid you not, she spread her legs wide, spit on her fingers, and diddled herself dripping until she moaned out, “F-me”.

And so I did – after all, a gentleman doesn’t refuse a lady’s amorous requests, however crudely worded.

What Are The Lessons You Should Learn

Let me summarize the essence of my adventure:

1. Sometimes a woman’s objections may feel very real to her. I don’t think this girl was faking her temporary distress.
2. If she is uncomfortable at any point, don’t go pressing on. Pressure is for brutes and the clueless. Stop and give her space, physically and emotionally. Seducers NEVER pressure, although we do test boundaries. The difference can be subtle but the difference is sometimes quite clear.
3. A master seducer improvises. I had not ever used the “put your clothes on in exaggerated fashion” move before.
4. By taking her need for safety and exaggerating my response, it allowed her to dis-appate her anxiety through laughing her ass off.
5. Fractionating a girl between starting and stopping and starting and stopping really works. If you don’t do it, she’ll often do it to herself and stop herself. Throw laughter into the mix and you have a potent poonani pulling cocktail.
6. “Boyfriends” often mean next-to-nothing.

Peace and piece,

RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

[This is "Part 2" that follows up on my recent post "Untangling Your Deepest Fears With Women: A Farming Analogy"]

We left off last time with a question: what can you do to start “unpacking” this great big ball of less than useful energy-to pull out the individual strands and then convert them to USEFUL energy, a very attractive USEFUL vibe that will have these women wanting you NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO?

As with any personal change, there are the tools like guided visualization, belief change, personal coaching/group feedback, setting goals, etc.

All of these have value. All are useful. Some more than others, and for each of these, I’ve got modifications to the more standard stuff out there that I think makes my versions far more useful and effective.

However, I believe that when a person is “entrenched” in limiting and engraved ways of thinking, feeling, responding and acting, what is first and foremost needed is some “mental spaciousness”.  A place of clear, unprogrammed awareness and calm from which to use all the other tools and do all the other change work.

In any area of change there are those processes/things that:

1. Need to be subtracted out. They just don’t serve at all. They are just “noise” in the line.

These could be:

a) internal dialog that gets in your way
b) beliefs about yourself that are useless and contain no real information (I am ugly, I always fail)
c) energetic overloads-you are so amped up around women that you can’t hold still. (These can also be diminished or transmuted).

2. Things/processes that need to be added in. These could be:

a) simple skill sets (knowing how to physically make moves on women, knowing how to elicit trance words, do walkups, etc)

b) beliefs that power the skill sets, (I never take a woman’s first response to me as written in stone; it’s just a reflection of what she is thinking, feeling or responding in THAT moment, and it’s always subject to change).

c) different mixes of energy/vibe: strong, playful, intuitive, sincere, challenging. In other words, it could be an issue on the vibrational/energetic level.

d) simply doing more repetitions: some people just need to do more of what is working. They need self-monitoring/motivation skills.

e) skills for learning from mistakes without getting stuck back in them and having an INFORMED enthusiasm. (I’ve developed a protocol for this that is truly amazing-I call it “The Extractor”.

3. Processes/things which need to be increased. That could be any of what I’ve just mentioned in 2. Things which you already do well, that contribute to your success, that already work. The increase could be in frequency, or intensity, or precision or even joy of use!

4. Those things which are useful, but need to be diminished, either in frequency or intensity, or only used in the right sequence or correct proportions with other things, or used in the right context.

Again, that could be any of the items in #2 or anything else that actually is useful that the person already does that can serve in the right
proportion or context. So you could diminish the frequency, intensity, etc.

5. Finally, there are those things which represent great sources of mental energy that neither should be diminished or eliminated, but instead transmuted and refined and then used as pure energy for the achievement of 1-4.

Note: I did NOT say “clearing”. Clearing is better than having them blocking, but transmuting takes all that energy and puts it to use.

Just imagine if all or 90% of the energy/emotion that has been weighing you down, blocking you, enfearing you, were converted to raw energy for your peace of mind, joy, discipline, creativity, etc.

Now, the women are waiting.  What, in the name of Tammy’s tights, are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

There are some scenarios that can (seemingly) put the kibosh on Sarging, even if you are skilled at approaching a group of women, approaching a group of people, or have made approaching women as they go about life part of who you are and what you do.

You’re at a wedding reception. Every woman except one is there with her husband (not borefriend – not “has-been-d” – devoted, loving, husband!) The only one who isn’t, she’s 7 months pregnant, texting her husband who couldn’t get off work, brushing off the people in the room right now.

Maybe you live in a small town with only one or two places to hang out (usually bars), full of the same people you couldn’t stand back in high school, either.  Even if (or perhaps because) you’ve scored with several of the “regular” women, for reasons that, up until now, you haven’t quite fathomed, that empty well has now left your bone dry.

My entrepreneur students go to seminars (hot spots for hot women) yet report challenges connecting with women on a Sargy level.  Schedules run late.  Presenters run overtime with their pitchfests and it cuts into lunch hour and the networking reception – forbid presenters actually being told to stick to schedule and lose their chance to empty your wallet!  When session FINALLY ends, people beeline to their cell phones to check in with home/work/life before you can get in a word.

Normally I’d call bullshit on all of it.  Normally I’d tell you to get off your “can’t do it” ass and go out there and DO IT.

Actually, I AM calling bullshit and I AM telling you that.

Rather than sit and make excuses…GO for it…down the path of least Sargy resistance.

Got the small town blues?  May I suggest that you locate the nearest large town/city near you. Book a cheap room somewhere. Then go to venues there and practice.  Give yourself a change from that small-town dive.  Path of least resistance, guys.

In the city, hit the larger hotels where they do weddings/parties/conventions. Lots of puss eager to get rammed! 

There for a seminar?  Usually there will be 3 or 4 seminars happening at the same hotel or convention center at the same time.  Lots of women milling in the hall, at the bar, all around.  Here in Los Angeles at the LAX Corridor, there are a couple dozen hotels within walking distance or a 2-minute cab ride of each other where on any given day there will be 3 or 4 seminars going on at EACH hotel.

That’s a LOT of women, many of them now in a place where nobody knows them and they can just totally let go.

The dry-desert wedding reception you’re at might be right next door to the other wedding reception…. where 25 single women are rushing toward the bouquet at this very moment.  Their gal-pal just got hitched and they’re wondering when THEY will encounter a “great guy.”  Ummmm….paging…YOU!!!

Let me close this lesson with an opener you can adapt as needed: Walk up to a woman and say, “Hi, I’m (new to town / from out of town / attending one of these for the very first time), so I’m just saying hello to all the more gorgeous women.”   Note the implied compliment.

The women are waiting.  Now what in the name of Holly’s hot-sexy halter-top are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Has anyone ever offered to “hook you up” with a friend of theirs? Have you ever asked someone to do this for you?

A student of mine’s cousin (let’s call her Bianca) wanted to “hook him up” with a “cute” co-worker of hers (we’ll call her… you guessed it… Debbie).  Bianca’s idea was this: “You and a couple of your friends come out and hang out with us one night, and you and Debbie can meet.”

Internally he knew that whole scene would zap his Sargy energy.  He’d be in a situational disadvantage with Debbie, since she’d feel under the microscope and would be putting up extra resistance.  In declining the offer, he told his cousin Bianca “I would not be comfortable in this scenario and this is just not how I meet women.  I won’t put Debbie in this situation either.”

Bianca snorted and said, “Gee, too bad, how the hell do you expect to find a girlfriend?  Your loss.” But the way Bianca wanted to “hook him up” with Debbie was uncomfortable for him.

So if my student knew who Debbie was and thought she was hot and might be worth a shot, what would be a better way than having Bianca explicitly “hook him up” with her?  What could YOU do?

I would actually say that you have to add some value to their lives if you expect them to add value to yours (eg, intro you to chicks).

For example, let’s say you are friendly with the woman who sits next to you at work, and she is pretty damn hot.

Treat her like a friend, because you like her as a person, genuinely. She’s a good person and you are friendly and are cool with and to each other.

You likely won’t move it past that if you “don’t shit where you eat.”  Yet you know she has cool, HOT female friends (you’ve seen her Facebook page) and sooner or later she might introduce you around to her social circle as a genuinely cool guy, if you know her well enough to pal around at the Friday after-work happy hour.

So, what value are YOU providing to this female friend?

Don’t expect her to “hook you up” but rather aim at having her introduce you/include you in her social circle.

And treat their social circle like a National Park. You don’t go into Yellowstone and shoot the deer, dump beer cans in the river, piss on the trees, etc. etc.

Treat her friends well, don’t piss in the pool or you won’t be invited back.

Do it right, and her friends will talk about how great you are in bed and you’ll be in hot demand. Rather than be greedy when that happens, actually REFRAIN from doing all the deeds you will indeedy do be doing.

Get it?

You can be strong, hot, challenging, fun, outrageous and STILL respect the vaginal environment. Play responsibly. Replace and replenish as you go.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Once you meet her friends, it isn’t just suggestive language that will get them joining you on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle  – it’s also the clever way in which it’s structured to seem like a perfectly ordinary conversation! Learn how this is done in Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A student of mine recently shared an interesting problem he’s been having with picking up women.

During his AFC days he frequently faced rejection by women who outright said, in various words, that they’d never condescend to being seen in public with the likes of him.

But in today’s world he often gets resistance from women who have a hard time handling a man like HIM – as in, they’re not used to a man of his caliber showing interest in them.

Here is a typical thing that a woman might say:

“You really have it together, you’re successful, you’re going places, and I know you’re the kind of man who knows how to make his woman happy.  But you have to understand, I’m just not used to guys like you being interested in me and I’m uncomfortable with this whole thing.”

My student also says that women, in the same vein, say they feel “intimidated” by him, which he doesn’t understand because in the same breath they say how easy-going and fun they think he is and how much they enjoy being around him.

Okay: part of what we’re seeing here is a by-product of how much this student has improved his girl-getting game.  These same women, who would have looked down their nose at him just two years ago, now aren’t sure if they could handle a man as GOOD as him in their lives?  Could be, the forbidden fruit has become the low-hanging fruit.

Another question: what do Warren Beatty, Jack Nicholson, Gene Simmons, Donald Trump, Francois Mitterand, Wilt Chamberlain, George Clooney, and Julio Iglesias have in common?

First, they’re each credited with having slept with hundreds, if not thousands, of women.  Second, not ALL of the women they took to Cape Carnal-Veral were famous or even well-connected actors, singers, politicians, supermodels, or business magnates.  Third, I’m willing to bet at least some of their bedmates, to THIS DAY, can’t quite figure out why any of these men would have been interested enough in HER to go to bed with her.

So when a woman poses this sort of resistance – ask yourself the following questions:

• Could it be that what she’s really saying is “I don’t think I really deserve a good man?”
• Maybe she’s throwing up resistance because she realizes you just may be the man she’s always dreamed of, and she recognizes that if she take a new direction with you, it will change her life dramatically?   All forms of change are scary – even GREAT ones – because they probe unfamiliar territory.
• What can you do right now to reframe the experience?  Does negation apply here?

Now let’s explore it from a different angle:

• There was a time when this woman would have put you down for having “deluded yourself” into thinking you had the “right” to ask her out.  Now, here she is, saying you might be too good for her.  How are YOU handling it?
• In showing interest in this woman, has the forbidden fruit, indeed, become the low-hanging fruit? Does this mean you could “up” your choice in women?  If she’s someone you are truly interested in for reasons that are right for you, then great, GO FOR IT.  But, check in with yourself, are you “settling” or looking for the validation of an “easy score”?
• What internal resistance might be stopping you from taking a bold step forward?

Please, share your thoughts and comments in the form below this post.  Tell me what YOU think.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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