Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

There are some scenarios that can (seemingly) put the kibosh on Sarging, even if you are skilled at approaching a group of women, approaching a group of people, or have made approaching women as they go about life part of who you are and what you do.

You’re at a wedding reception. Every woman except one is there with her husband (not borefriend – not “has-been-d” – devoted, loving, husband!) The only one who isn’t, she’s 7 months pregnant, texting her husband who couldn’t get off work, brushing off the people in the room right now.

Maybe you live in a small town with only one or two places to hang out (usually bars), full of the same people you couldn’t stand back in high school, either.  Even if (or perhaps because) you’ve scored with several of the “regular” women, for reasons that, up until now, you haven’t quite fathomed, that empty well has now left your bone dry.

My entrepreneur students go to seminars (hot spots for hot women) yet report challenges connecting with women on a Sargy level.  Schedules run late.  Presenters run overtime with their pitchfests and it cuts into lunch hour and the networking reception – forbid presenters actually being told to stick to schedule and lose their chance to empty your wallet!  When session FINALLY ends, people beeline to their cell phones to check in with home/work/life before you can get in a word.

Normally I’d call bullshit on all of it.  Normally I’d tell you to get off your “can’t do it” ass and go out there and DO IT.

Actually, I AM calling bullshit and I AM telling you that.

Rather than sit and make excuses…GO for it…down the path of least Sargy resistance.

Got the small town blues?  May I suggest that you locate the nearest large town/city near you. Book a cheap room somewhere. Then go to venues there and practice.  Give yourself a change from that small-town dive.  Path of least resistance, guys.

In the city, hit the larger hotels where they do weddings/parties/conventions. Lots of puss eager to get rammed! 

There for a seminar?  Usually there will be 3 or 4 seminars happening at the same hotel or convention center at the same time.  Lots of women milling in the hall, at the bar, all around.  Here in Los Angeles at the LAX Corridor, there are a couple dozen hotels within walking distance or a 2-minute cab ride of each other where on any given day there will be 3 or 4 seminars going on at EACH hotel.

That’s a LOT of women, many of them now in a place where nobody knows them and they can just totally let go.

The dry-desert wedding reception you’re at might be right next door to the other wedding reception…. where 25 single women are rushing toward the bouquet at this very moment.  Their gal-pal just got hitched and they’re wondering when THEY will encounter a “great guy.”  Ummmm….paging…YOU!!!

Let me close this lesson with an opener you can adapt as needed: Walk up to a woman and say, “Hi, I’m (new to town / from out of town / attending one of these for the very first time), so I’m just saying hello to all the more gorgeous women.”   Note the implied compliment.

The women are waiting.  Now what in the name of Holly’s hot-sexy halter-top are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Has anyone ever offered to “hook you up” with a friend of theirs? Have you ever asked someone to do this for you?

A student of mine’s cousin (let’s call her Bianca) wanted to “hook him up” with a “cute” co-worker of hers (we’ll call her… you guessed it… Debbie).  Bianca’s idea was this: “You and a couple of your friends come out and hang out with us one night, and you and Debbie can meet.”

Internally he knew that whole scene would zap his Sargy energy.  He’d be in a situational disadvantage with Debbie, since she’d feel under the microscope and would be putting up extra resistance.  In declining the offer, he told his cousin Bianca “I would not be comfortable in this scenario and this is just not how I meet women.  I won’t put Debbie in this situation either.”

Bianca snorted and said, “Gee, too bad, how the hell do you expect to find a girlfriend?  Your loss.” But the way Bianca wanted to “hook him up” with Debbie was uncomfortable for him.

So if my student knew who Debbie was and thought she was hot and might be worth a shot, what would be a better way than having Bianca explicitly “hook him up” with her?  What could YOU do?

I would actually say that you have to add some value to their lives if you expect them to add value to yours (eg, intro you to chicks).

For example, let’s say you are friendly with the woman who sits next to you at work, and she is pretty damn hot.

Treat her like a friend, because you like her as a person, genuinely. She’s a good person and you are friendly and are cool with and to each other.

You likely won’t move it past that if you “don’t shit where you eat.”  Yet you know she has cool, HOT female friends (you’ve seen her Facebook page) and sooner or later she might introduce you around to her social circle as a genuinely cool guy, if you know her well enough to pal around at the Friday after-work happy hour.

So, what value are YOU providing to this female friend?

Don’t expect her to “hook you up” but rather aim at having her introduce you/include you in her social circle.

And treat their social circle like a National Park. You don’t go into Yellowstone and shoot the deer, dump beer cans in the river, piss on the trees, etc. etc.

Treat her friends well, don’t piss in the pool or you won’t be invited back.

Do it right, and her friends will talk about how great you are in bed and you’ll be in hot demand. Rather than be greedy when that happens, actually REFRAIN from doing all the deeds you will indeedy do be doing.

Get it?

You can be strong, hot, challenging, fun, outrageous and STILL respect the vaginal environment. Play responsibly. Replace and replenish as you go.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Once you meet her friends, it isn’t just suggestive language that will get them joining you on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle  – it’s also the clever way in which it’s structured to seem like a perfectly ordinary conversation! Learn how this is done in Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A student of mine recently shared an interesting problem he’s been having with picking up women.

During his AFC days he frequently faced rejection by women who outright said, in various words, that they’d never condescend to being seen in public with the likes of him.

But in today’s world he often gets resistance from women who have a hard time handling a man like HIM – as in, they’re not used to a man of his caliber showing interest in them.

Here is a typical thing that a woman might say:

“You really have it together, you’re successful, you’re going places, and I know you’re the kind of man who knows how to make his woman happy.  But you have to understand, I’m just not used to guys like you being interested in me and I’m uncomfortable with this whole thing.”

My student also says that women, in the same vein, say they feel “intimidated” by him, which he doesn’t understand because in the same breath they say how easy-going and fun they think he is and how much they enjoy being around him.

Okay: part of what we’re seeing here is a by-product of how much this student has improved his girl-getting game.  These same women, who would have looked down their nose at him just two years ago, now aren’t sure if they could handle a man as GOOD as him in their lives?  Could be, the forbidden fruit has become the low-hanging fruit.

Another question: what do Warren Beatty, Jack Nicholson, Gene Simmons, Donald Trump, Francois Mitterand, Wilt Chamberlain, George Clooney, and Julio Iglesias have in common?

First, they’re each credited with having slept with hundreds, if not thousands, of women.  Second, not ALL of the women they took to Cape Carnal-Veral were famous or even well-connected actors, singers, politicians, supermodels, or business magnates.  Third, I’m willing to bet at least some of their bedmates, to THIS DAY, can’t quite figure out why any of these men would have been interested enough in HER to go to bed with her.

So when a woman poses this sort of resistance – ask yourself the following questions:

• Could it be that what she’s really saying is “I don’t think I really deserve a good man?”
• Maybe she’s throwing up resistance because she realizes you just may be the man she’s always dreamed of, and she recognizes that if she take a new direction with you, it will change her life dramatically?   All forms of change are scary – even GREAT ones – because they probe unfamiliar territory.
• What can you do right now to reframe the experience?  Does negation apply here?

Now let’s explore it from a different angle:

• There was a time when this woman would have put you down for having “deluded yourself” into thinking you had the “right” to ask her out.  Now, here she is, saying you might be too good for her.  How are YOU handling it?
• In showing interest in this woman, has the forbidden fruit, indeed, become the low-hanging fruit? Does this mean you could “up” your choice in women?  If she’s someone you are truly interested in for reasons that are right for you, then great, GO FOR IT.  But, check in with yourself, are you “settling” or looking for the validation of an “easy score”?
• What internal resistance might be stopping you from taking a bold step forward?

Please, share your thoughts and comments in the form below this post.  Tell me what YOU think.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Have you ever encountered a “man hater”, a woman who is closed and has deep “man issues,” or a woman who you reasonably believe is only one slight nudge away from becoming a schlong slicer?

Are you one of those guys who seem to be a love-hate figure with the ladies?  Meaning, some women strongly enjoy being around you and others instantaneously hate you, everything you stand for, and everything you like just because you like it?

Well, before worrying that you might have to change your name to Bobbitt, consider this.

Behind every angry response, look for the resentment, or jealousy or even most commonly, THE FEAR.

Maybe this woman who “hates” you has had pain from her past attraction to men whom she PERCEIVES you are like.

She associates pain to that attraction she felt to you because, in the past, men whom she PERCEIVES you are like, caused her pain (and/or she caused herself pain by her automatic reactions to these men, expecting more from them than they wanted, or something different than they wanted.

Just like the AFC chump/nice guy EXPECTS women to be attracted to his niceness and then is disappointed and angry and fearful when they don’t!

Congratulations on discovering something: women are human.

THEY HAVE AUTOPILOT RESPONSES and FALSE perceptions, just like us guys! They see things through the filters of the past and ASSUME that what they perceive is accurate and real.

In her mind, the possibility that you could have many of the attractive characteristics of these guys from the past, WITHOUT being arrogant or cruel or hurtful DOESN’T OCCUR TO HER.  She only sees the potential to be hurt YET AGAIN.

And probably concludes, in addition, that she is DOOMED to be hurt and can NEVER find a guy she could be attracted to AND who will treat her well.

So, it goes back to her fear. If she was utterly neutral about it and didn’t have any charge on it at all, she would care less about you, one way or the other.

We OFTEN fear what we are attracted to, because that attraction can make us feel out of control. Or can remind us of past pain. It’s not hate – it’s F-E-A-R.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Those of you who devotedly follow Ross Jeffries Uncensored have heard me say a few very important things about the words “dating” and “friendship.”  Let me recap three of them:

“Dating” is what you do with a woman AFTER you have slept with her.

When you’re in the “friend zone” you have what I call the “insider’s advantage” to Sarge your way right into her bed.

But the last thing you want to do is get F-bombs (as in, “we can talk as fr–n-s”) dropped on you by the women you want to get with.

I’m reminded of a note I got from a student in one of my discussion groups a few years back.  He said that, despite all of this, he had come to the “key realization” that it’s important to be a friend.  “Friends first” were his words.

According to this student, if he went in trying to be Don Juan, with the smoothest lines and the strongest male energy in the room, he’d blow them out (as in burn them out).  Rather, he wanted the woman to feel absolutely comfortable and safe talking to him about anything, and also for him to feel the same way about her.

My response?

No. NO. N-O.

The alternatives are NOT “strongest male energy in the place” and “blowing them out” OR this “friends first” pish-posh.
Remember that one of the cornerstones of Speed Seduction® is using what she gives you in terms of the vibe she puts out there.

CALIBRATE to the woman in front of you. You don’t need to blow ANYONE out if you CALIBRATE, use THEIR responses, etc.

Now, I understand gathering enough information about her and how sometimes you need a couple of meetings to get her in the sack.  That’s still Speed Seduction® in my book as long as you’re not playing the mastur-waiting game (wait before calling her, wait before asking her out again, wait until Date No. 3 or 6 or 8 before hitting the mattress with her, etc. etc. etc. ad nauseate-um).

But don’t label it “FRIENDS”. THAT IS DANGEROUS AND DESTRUCTIVE. And furthermore,  when you do this you are making HER reluctance (if it is even there at all) into YOUR reluctance.

Let me translate: when YOU don’t know how to feel comfortable patterning this girl, you project THIS discomfort onto her, rather than embracing the skills you need to learn.  You fall back on old ways (this whole “friends first” business).

What did that Rabbi say? Some of the seeds fell on bad ground, and immediately the birds of the air came and ate them.

Now, I have more on this “friends first” topic, but I’ll save it for another day.  That day cometh soon, so keep your antennae and your browsers tuned into RJU.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In all areas of life, a key ingredient to success, whatever your definition of that word, is persistence.

Now let’s say you’re persistent, but something keeps going persistently wrong?  Or, looking at it another way, if something is persistently tripping you up or blocking you from claiming your results?

Let’s hear from a student who seems to be able to Sarge only in bars (ironic, I know, given that’s one of the hardest places to Sarge and one of the least recommended places as far as I am concerned):

> Im not afraid to approach women, I’m having trouble getting from right after
> hello and going into pattern at will, Also trouble with state control. I bring
> me old self with me it persistently stays. It sucks, I have had success but only
> in bars mostly that where I’m more anchored in good feeling and in a bar it
> the right place to sarge but outside going along with everyday tasks its
> difficult. Breaking state Im having trouble understanding.If I can get to
> patterns I got em but getting Im having trouble.

So what’s the “big idea” here?The big idea is this: you probably don’t need to add anything in. You probably just have to subtract out whatever internal processes are getting in the way.

You’ve got good feelings and no problem in a bar which is where MOST guys have trouble! So what is NOT going on in your head, in a bar, that DOES go on in your head, elsewhere? Or, what goes on in your head, outside of bar, that is ABSENT when you are in a bar?

What you need to do is subtract out what is getting in your way, when you are NOT in a bar.

Once you identify that, you’re one step closer to no-holds-bar-red success with the women you truly desire.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When it looks like she’s pushing you away, could be something else is happening.  As a follow up to what we discussed Tuesday about fractionation, watch this clip from a recent seminar where I explore in more detail:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the more common scenarios I get presented with is students who are good at some of the stages of seduction, but tend to choke at “the closing”.

That is, they are good at the pick-up, good at the middle stage, even good at getting a lady to make out with them.

But somehow, when it comes to “going for the goods”, they drop the ball.

In fact, just recently,  I received the following email from a student:

“Ross,

I have had your home study course for a while, but have been tripping over my own dick for the last year.

I feel like I am developing rapport and getting women in the state of mind that I want them, but I have also missed opportunities because I am used to being “shy” to make the move.

My most recent missed opportunity occurred with a nice looking 18 year old.  I did the discovery channel pattern with the daughter and she kissed me.  I still didn’t close the deal!!  Sounds pretty sad huh?

This kind of interaction has happened time and time again, even before I bought your course.

The strange thing is that most of these women seem upset after the fact.  I am willing to do what you outlined in the newsletters in order to become a more calm and confident version of myself, and realize the opportunity when it happens, and not after the fact.

Am I the only student you have had that can’t close the deal when the girl kisses him?

Thank you in advance for your response.”

Ok, let’s get this clear: just because a woman is kissing us and making out with us, does NOT mean she is sufficiently turned on or ready, in her own mind, to “dip the donkey”.

In fact, I have learned that many women need alternating periods of being heated up, then cooled down, then heated up even more strongly, when it comes to getting physical.

We call this fractionation.  Simply put, you put someone in a trance, then take them out again. When you put them back in, they go back in deeper than the previous time.  Each time you take them out of the trance it builds potential to have a stronger trance response when you put them back in.

I think many, if not MOST women, are this way, with being physically turned on. If you make out with them, raise them to a plateau of excitement, then slow down and back up a bit, they will be FAR more receptive when  you turn the heat back on.

So usually, when you start making out with a woman, it’s actually a good idea to get her sizzling for about ten minutes, then drop back down a level. If you are at “third base” back off to light kissing. Even take a break, go to the bathroom, and come back. Or move her to a different part of the house, and then resume.

We men are like rockets with our excitement: we take off straight up. Women respond better with zigs and zags.

Now, as for why this student didn’t “go for it”, I think often it is because we are shocked that the patterns actually work, even more so on women that are hotter and younger than we are used to getting.

Over the years I have seen this happen with many students: the first few times they try Speed Seduction® they do NOT expect it to work! And when it does, they don’t know quite what to do. As if suddenly you are holding a ten million dollar lottery ticket in  your hand and you are staring at the numbers because you can’t believe you won!

I remember one story in particular, about a student who had just gotten his copy of Speed Seduction® and used some patterns on an attractive woman at his church social.

She insisted they go out to the parking lot and then she jumped all over him, performed some “oral fun” on him, and then said, “Bang me. Put me on the hood of the car and bang me.”

The student said, “But the pastor is going to be coming out with the congregation any minute!”

She said, “I don’t want the pastor to bang me! I want YOU to bang me!”

Now, this guy was so shocked, Mr. Pee Pee wouldn’t do the job, so he wound up having to take a raincheck!

The bottom line is, you need to mentally rehearse success! Literally act out what you will say and do in response to a woman really wanting you, indeed insisting on having you.

Peace and piece
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Let’s get into that age-old saying “Nice guys finish in their hand.”

Is it true?  How often has the phrase been spoken: “I would treat her like royalty, why does she keep going back to that jerk after how he treats her?”

After a while, some guys get jaded and think, “hey, if being a jerk is going to get me the girl, then I’m going to start being a jerk.”

A student of mine asked a provocative question: can he use the skills in such a way where he would be “hard” on her at first (which is what she expects from men) and then slowly change her comfort zone to reach for good feelings, open up her heart, and blow her mind?

Briefly, because this is territory fraught with pitfalls:

First, foremost, UPPERMOST, MOST importantly:

DETACH from the outcome. “I like this young lady, but then again, I like a lot of people, and I have to detach from the outcome; turn down my desire to bang her, make a difference, etc. It is basically an experiment, take it or leave it. I am not attached, but nor am I disinterested.”

Second, and this is key: it is NOT enough to give a person a new/better/more pleasurable experience, because THEY WILL NOT KNOW HOW TO INTEGRATE IT.

So, be careful to ALWAYS, when you demonstrate something to her, to have her VERBALLY ratify that she has enjoyed it and have her VERBALLY ask for more.

Why is this seemingly (SEEMINGLY) inane bit of dialogue SO important?

By ratifying..by SPEAKING out loud how much she is enjoying it, sometimes measuring on a 1-10 scale, by having her RATIFY it and SPEAK that she likes it…

…SHE IS MAKING IT REAL FOR HER!

Not just a passing experience, but something REAL.

By having her ratify… what is accomplished?

She is reaching for more of what you have. Naturally, her conclusion is, it MUST be something of value, since she has to reach for it to get it!

I’ll say it again. SHE CONCLUDES IT MUST BE SOMETHING OF GREAT VALUE SINCE… SHE HAS TO REACH FOR IT TO GET IT!

Have you ever noticed you seem to want the things you can’t immediately have?  That you spend lots of energy working for it, if you really want it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the biggest blocks to mastering the skills and claiming your results with the women you truly desire is just that – having blocks.

Maybe you’re overweight and thinking you need to lose a few before women will find you attractive, so you’ve stopped Sarging till you tip the scale a bit less.  (Question: did you know that many hot women specifically like larger men?  Why are you denying them the chance to bring pleasure into your life?)

Could be that you aren’t having women over to your place because you’re worried they’ll think you live in a dump.  (One of my students had this worry, then he discovered that women love the view from the balcony of his 1-bedroom apartment.)

Or, could it be worry that women might not give you the time of day because you don’t have much coin in your pocket at the moment?

Let’s hear from someone who has the money concern:

> Hi Ross,

> First off thanks for the legendary seduction pack, it is a must read for EVERY guy, no if buts or maybe’s!!
>
> I’ve done my homework in reading your books and hearing the live seminar sessions, from there its easy to see and understand that you don’t need a ‘massive wad of cash’ to get laid and even on an extremely tight budget, this does not stop me from meeting the women i want…. It restricts my options when i try to escalate because i end up with an eye on the numbers and the most dominant thoughts on my mind just bring themselves to the front which kills my states from within every time and annihilates my chances with her… but I have to be real here, we live in a capitalist world, and a lot of things revolve around money… My cash flow crisis is a temporary mid term setback, but a man still has needs that he shouldn’t have to pay to get….
>
> Anyway moving on swiftly to matter at hand….The long and short of it is i have been successful at bringing the kind of women i want into my life applying the 3 S’s but escalation is proving a major stumbling block on empty pockets, or at least i just haven’t learnt how to skip over that one yet… I have applied all the advice in the seduction pack into my daily routine, and meeting new women is a fun process for both me and the girls i have tried it on……not to brag but I have not yet had a woman slap me for starting a conversation….no matter how crude the chat up line….
>
> What advice can you give me for handling this , ” I’m broke, no woman will want to come near me” mentality or similar scenarios you may have encountered?  RJ if you’ll forgive the pun…..I need to know how to turn these women out with turning my pockets inside out and looking like a charity case to these modern independent women that will gladly treat me, if only i know the right way to put it…..
>
> help
>
> down but not out

RJ here. I can’t tell what you mean by “escalation”. And if a woman is hot for you – if you’ve captured and led her imagination and emotions in the right way – escalation can be, “why don’t we go somewhere a little more quiet where we can relax and focus in?”

You don’t have to spend money on a date – that’s all crap in your head. And if some women DO want a guy with $$$ to go more than a few rounds with them in bed – oh well.  There are plenty who won’t care so much.

The women are waiting.  So what in the name of Ben Franklin are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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