Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A great way to teach you how to succeed with women is to let you see how it works in real-time.  A student of mine asked me to critique a recent supermarket pickup he did.  Watch and learn:

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Peace and piece,

RJ

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

“Linkage” is using gestures to make sure that the great states we create in women through the Sarging process are linked to us.

Watch this video where I expound in greater detail:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

There are some scenarios that can (seemingly) put the kibosh on Sarging, even if you are skilled at approaching a group of women, approaching a group of people, or have made approaching women as they go about life part of who you are and what you do.

You’re at a wedding reception. Every woman except one is there with her husband (not borefriend – not “has-been-d” – devoted, loving, husband!) The only one who isn’t, she’s 7 months pregnant, texting her husband who couldn’t get off work, brushing off the people in the room right now.

Maybe you live in a small town with only one or two places to hang out (usually bars), full of the same people you couldn’t stand back in high school, either.  Even if (or perhaps because) you’ve scored with several of the “regular” women, for reasons that, up until now, you haven’t quite fathomed, that empty well has now left your bone dry.

My entrepreneur students go to seminars (hot spots for hot women) yet report challenges connecting with women on a Sargy level.  Schedules run late.  Presenters run overtime with their pitchfests and it cuts into lunch hour and the networking reception – forbid presenters actually being told to stick to schedule and lose their chance to empty your wallet!  When session FINALLY ends, people beeline to their cell phones to check in with home/work/life before you can get in a word.

Normally I’d call bullshit on all of it.  Normally I’d tell you to get off your “can’t do it” ass and go out there and DO IT.

Actually, I AM calling bullshit and I AM telling you that.

Rather than sit and make excuses…GO for it…down the path of least Sargy resistance.

Got the small town blues?  May I suggest that you locate the nearest large town/city near you. Book a cheap room somewhere. Then go to venues there and practice.  Give yourself a change from that small-town dive.  Path of least resistance, guys.

In the city, hit the larger hotels where they do weddings/parties/conventions. Lots of puss eager to get rammed! 

There for a seminar?  Usually there will be 3 or 4 seminars happening at the same hotel or convention center at the same time.  Lots of women milling in the hall, at the bar, all around.  Here in Los Angeles at the LAX Corridor, there are a couple dozen hotels within walking distance or a 2-minute cab ride of each other where on any given day there will be 3 or 4 seminars going on at EACH hotel.

That’s a LOT of women, many of them now in a place where nobody knows them and they can just totally let go.

The dry-desert wedding reception you’re at might be right next door to the other wedding reception…. where 25 single women are rushing toward the bouquet at this very moment.  Their gal-pal just got hitched and they’re wondering when THEY will encounter a “great guy.”  Ummmm….paging…YOU!!!

Let me close this lesson with an opener you can adapt as needed: Walk up to a woman and say, “Hi, I’m (new to town / from out of town / attending one of these for the very first time), so I’m just saying hello to all the more gorgeous women.”   Note the implied compliment.

The women are waiting.  Now what in the name of Holly’s hot-sexy halter-top are you waiting FOR?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction Student,

When you are mastering your skills with women, it’s critical to have a process that makes the concepts real and valid for you.

Click “Play” for an introduction to how this works for you:

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The other day, I shared with you the story of the student who decided to implement a “friends first” policy in his girl-getting game.  I can think of a few F-words that go along with this policy, and I can pretty much guarantee that fornication is NOT one of them.

All too true in this particular student’s case, because now I’m going to show you how he not only didn’t get laid, but then he committed a Sargy sin.

First, the result he got when he actually did something Sargingly decent, but then allowed “friends first” to stop him from taking it to the next level:

> Just to take a sidetrack, I did some SS patterns and techniques with a girl I met at work. We were hanging out one night, talking, and we were just talking about ourselves and relationships, and somewhere in the conversation I threw in “yea, that’s why I always go for it, even if the girl does have a boyfriend…because who knows if the guy really is what she’s looking for or if she wants more…but I’m honest with myself. I have to believe that I really am better for her than her boyfriend. Then I have no problem.”

This apparently set off something in her head (she had a bf at the time, although he was far away), because that night she kissed me on the cheek from her own volition.

WOW! A KISS ON THE CHEEK! STOP THE PRESSES!

I am mocking this for a REASON.

I want him (and you, if you consider this a big score) to be slapped awake. YOU are viewing HER as the rare prize to be waited for.

WHAT STOPPED HIM from escalating when SHE initiated?  What was he waiting for, if he thought this set off something in her head that could have gotten her giving HIM head?

Spend some time thinking about rapport and calibration. What are you doing right with these?  Where could you improve to get the results YOU want?

YOU have the gift. You can create these feelings now whenever you like wherever you go. SO MOVE ON.

OK – here’s the part where he Sargily sinned:

> Well, one thing I know I’m doing right is getting feedback from one
> of my female friends. She and I are really good friends and
> understand each other very well. I ran the story of this girl by
> her, she made me realize that I should start off being the friend and
> then move in.

OH MY GOD! HE IS BEING LED ASTRAY! Why would he believe the advice this chick gave him on how to win a woman?

Sinner, please believe in your future. Believe and envision being able to create these powerful feelings as a common, every-day thing, NOT a rare event.

She isn’t the gift for RESPONDING. YOU are the gift for GIVING.

YOU are the rarety; a man who evokes powerful feelings. SHE is the common, a woman who feels strongly when you speak.

So move on. BELIEVE in finding someone more open. And Goddamn it, calibrate to her responsiveness and program in getting physical. YOU CAN DO IT!

Back when I responded to this post, I included this Sargy mantra for him to remember every time he felt compelled to implement Friends First:

Silently Sargy is watching and waiting
Come home, sinner, come home
Walking the back fence
He’s calling you homeward
Come home, sinner come home

He wandered the alleys
And danced on the rooftops
Come home, sinner, come home
So you could get pussy
And pull out all the stops

COME HOME, SINNER, COME HOME.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If you, too, have found yourself astray, let me personally lead you to scintillatingly sweet Sargy success.  See me in Copenhagen in a couple weeks.  Or see me in London two weeks after that.  If you can’t make either of those, see me in Montreal, Sydney, or Melbourne this fall.  But for the sake of your Sarge, see me at a 3-day seminar!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Only one thing pleases me more to hear that a student is kicking ass and taking names when it comes to scoring BIG with the ladies.

What could please me more than that, you ask?

Hearing that a student is actually helping out a fellow student to get amazing results.

Look: when I think back to what an incredibly tongue-tied, nerve-wracked, chicken-chokin’ loser I used to be with women, it makes me want to cry.

So, when a student gets marvelous results, and then helps another student achieve the same, well, I’m proud, delighted beyond delight’s sweet delight.

So, imagine my good feelings when I read the following email, from an attendee of a previous 3-day seminar in London, UK (note: the DVDs he mentions are all inside the Speed Seduction@ Power Pack):

Hi Ross,

I thought the story of what happened last night might be interesting for Some of you – especially the newer SS students.

After the London seminar the Irish lads decided that we should get together and start to really push these skills forward.

After a number of bars we were all off the mark and had already got some great responses. Things  were off to a great start – the guys had gone from not being able to open, to using blurt-outs, intuitive openers, humorous approaches, and some great sincerity, which we learned from the Gold Walk Ups DVD.

The more women that were opened, the further the old beliefs faded. THE WOMEN LOVED THESE CHARMING  GUYS.

I helped one student, Dan, with some of the exercises on your Fear Into Charisma DVD.

Here is the REALLY INTERESTING THING – he got some great smiles, some kino from these women, and out of about 50 approached women, only 2 semi negative responses. The energy was grounded before going out, and his state, energy, and awareness were totally controlled and supercharged.

After this, women were approaching  him, and there was no more fear of approaches – he hit the 100 openers’ mark by the end of the night.

Then came Selig.

This guy was amazing, he really got into the ritual before hand, and we reversed  some of the energy surrounding his former fear of clubs when we arrived at the place.

After a little while Selig had hit 60 approaches. At this stage there was no stopping him.

Selig had moved from being afraid to speak to women, to a guy who was magnetic, charming, intuitive, and dynamic in a little under 5 hours. He broke the 100 approaches mark by the end of the night.

I’m sure the guys will have their own stories to post in more detail, but suffice to say, approaches are no longer a problem.

John Stein – Cork, Ireland

RJ here again.  John, what can I say? A huge “right on” for helping out your fellow Speed Seduction® students.  May you always find women with warm hearts, firm bods, and lots of moist pink relief!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Want to overcome YOUR fear of approaching women and know the 4 different ways to meet them anytime, anywhere, and never worry about what to say?  This is one of many topics we’ll be covering in our Speed Seduction® 3-Day Seminars.

P.P.S. For the “in the box” version that gets you in HER box more often, you’ll want Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Either way, let me know when you top meeting 100 women a night!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Take a moment and play this video clip from my January 2011 3-Day seminar in Los Angeles.

Watch and listen as Brother Matthew explains how, within 24 hours, he achieved lift-off in the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle with a woman he rescued from a car accident!

matthewbangsrescuegirl.mov

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Note how Matthew used specific Speed Seduction® tools to sidestep the mastur-dating and mastur-waiting nonsense and instead claim his results with this woman.  This is but 5 minutes.  Imagine what 3 days will get you when you join me this weekend in London, or any of our other cities this year.

http://www.seduction.com/blog/2011seminar/

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As I once told a friend of mine who asked me how I could take being “rejected” by women, “I never get rejected. I just discover if a woman has good taste!”

Now, I admit, that’s a pretty extreme reframe. But notice the fun state of mind it created for me.

My actual attitude in any situation involving women is: “I will either get what I want (or better than I imagined) or I will enjoy the process of learning what I need to get what I want or better than I imagined”.

Now, just imagine holding THAT belief in front of you as you consider approaching a woman you’d like to meet.

What it comes down to is the MEANING you assign to approaching women that determines what you will be able to do.

Here is an example:

I have had SO many students tell me they can’t even talk to a beautiful woman.  I always ask them the following question.

“Ok. Suppose that stunningly beautiful woman you “can’t” talk to was standing there and I guy was coming up behind her with a knife raised in the air, about to bring it down on her and stab her. Could you talk to her then and at least yell, “Hey lady! Look out!”

Every guy I have ever asked that has at least said “yes” and many of them have said they would go on to try to take the knife away from the guy.

I always say,

“Congratulations. That’s talking to a beautiful woman!”

They always look at me kind of funny and say, “well, that’s different. I would be doing something good for her, in that case”.

Wow. As if talking to a woman and giving her the chance to possibly enter your world ISN’T A GOOD THING?

Really the only difference is the meaning YOU assign to it.

Instead of the woman being the judge of your value or attractiveness what if you just viewed talking to her as a way to enjoy seeing what she was like and even to see how much fun you could have playing with her?

Or you could go really nutty with your imagination, get really playful, and imagine she was suffocating and there was air in your sac!

I admit that’s extreme, but it sure beats viewing talking to a girl as a life or death situation.

The bottom line: rejection cannot exist in a properly directed mind. There is only the meaning  YOU assign!

Hey…that sorta rhymes! Now write it down, 100 times!

The key here is to stay playful, have fun and assign the right meaning, the meaning that serves you, rather than the one that stops you in your tracks.

When you stay playful, your life will be “playful”.

Ha ha ha. This is fun.  But the rhyming is done. (OOPS!)

Here is an email from a student who let that playful attitude serve him very well:

I really have to thank you for all of your hard work and dedication to redressing the balance in the power of men and women

I have been a student for over six years now and have had some mind blowing results, but the most important thing to me is the fun you can have doing this when rejection no longer even exists in your PREVIOUSLY negative mind.

I’m hope there is no need to give you specific stories as there really are to many to mention and “doing the thing” with women within just an hour of meeting them was unimaginable, until I had your coaching . . .it then became the norm.

I believe that students need to adapt it to their own culture and environment, but that goes without saying and thankfully you give your students the tools to do this.

I have actually found my ideal partner in life now and because of your material it was totally by choice not because it “was the best I could do”.

I am 39yrs old with no money [ too lazy there ] I would say I was only OK looking too , but my partner is just 21 and a HB 10, she has an amazing mind too  [very important]. . . people are all ways in awe and ask ” how do you do so well with women”.

So thanks again and please keep up the amazing work so that you can help people to make themselves as happy as you helped make me

I hope your students never give up on having FUN with this and how easy it becomes with practice (not for the lazy ass or people shut down to fun).

A million thanks
Dave, England”

Dave, you are welcome. And let me say that the key here IS to keep it fun. If you start taking any of this too seriously, you will cut down the power of the techniques and get in your own way.

If you have ever seen me teach, I am constantly joking around but I take what I do very seriously. I just don’t have to approach it in a serious way.

I also very much appreciate your point about having found a life partner totally by choice and not because it was the best you could do.

When men come from true power and choice, that is when they can be truly loyal to a woman. Not because they gave up, but because they at last had the tools to STEP UP to the quality of woman they have always truly really wanted.

Peace and piece
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the most frequent questions I get is, “What happens if she x’s when I run a pattern?”

X could be “laugh” or “look bored” or whatever “negative” response you might think of.

A fundamental principle of any kind of persuasion (and seduction IS a sub-set of persuasion) is,

“USE WHATEVER RESPONSE SHE GIVES YOU”

To put it more clearly, I have a set of beliefs I come from:

1. I never take her first response as written in stone. It’s just a reflection of what she is thinking feeling or believing in THAT moment(or the part of her mind she is coming from) and it is always subject to change.
2. Anything she offers me is just a toy for me to play with.
3. Anything she offers me is just information I can use
4. Anything she offers me is just energy to be redirected
5. She can do whatever she wants: I CONTROL WHERE MY ENERGY GOES.

So let’s say a woman “laughs” at you or with you when you run a pattern.

The first thing to realize is, they are NOT laughing it off.  They are laughing it IN. Oftentimes, what you are getting is the laugh of recognition, not the laugh of resistance.

But let’s say she IS resisting a bit. Remember this: resistance is just a sign she is responding strongly to what you are offering and is scared of how strongly she is responding.

What she is seeking is some safety and a measure of feeling a bit more in control.

In that case, simply change the subject.  If you are describing an incredible connection, and you see she is in to it, but suddenly she does a 180 and looks a bit uncomfortable, BACK OFF.

Simply change the tone to something lighter or something funny.  Point out something going on in the environment around you, “Oh my God, did you see what your cat just did?” Give her a chance to regain some comfort, then go back to the direction you were going.

We call this “fractionation” in traditional hypnosis. Each time you go into a trance and then are brought back out, you go progressively deeper in the next time and the time after that.

The other aspect of this is self-control: keeping your state solid and steady and grounded, even when she APPEARS to be unresponsive or responding “negatively”.

Remember, it is the meaning and interpretation you give things, along with how you direct your body’s energetic flow that determines what will happen. The more you can stay relaxed in the immediate present, without referencing your past or worrying about the future, the more you can bring your power and skills to bear in even the diciest situations.

Now, things will not always work out as planned; you will still find situations that don’t go as you like, but you will have stretched yourself into new areas of learning and be more capable for the next wonderful woman(or whacked out witch) who comes your way.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

One of the patterns I teach is the “Boyfriend Destroyer” which you’d use when you approach a woman and she tells you she has a boyfriend.

This pattern has some naysayers.  Here are a couple of them:

“Doesn’t that make you a small man, having to go after someone else’s woman?”

“Why would you want to spend time on a woman who’s going to lie to you within 3 minutes of meeting you?  Why would you want to be with a woman who cheats?”

“Why would you waste your time on a woman who is taken or says she is?  What about these tens of thousands of women you say I can get?”

Well, today I call bullshit on the naysaying with a few facts about “boyfriend destroying.”

It’s just a sad fact that many women who SAY they have a boyfriend either are lying outright, responding out of auto-pilot, or they are stuck in real-hate-shun-ships by default.

The reality is, most very attractive women ARE probably going to be with someone.  Most women regardless of their place on the HB scale are “seeing someone” – but does that mean it’s “exclusive?”

If you wait until you find girls who are totally officially “single” you may be waiting a long time.

Think about this:

You can use fire to heat your camp at night. Or you can use it to burn down a building.

You can use a knife to stab an innocent person in the heart. Or you can use it to cut someone’s bonds and set them free.

I believe that not caving in to a woman’s first “knee-jerk” response is a good thing.

I’m creating a space for her to have a new choice, to respond with more freedom and act differently.  By doing this, I serve HER.

Listen: if she really, REALLY loves the guy, she will let you know and you aren’t going to get anywhere anyway.  So you “Exit, Stage Left” but she’ll probably think you’re a nice guy.  Maybe nice enough she’ll introduce you to her actually-single friends.  But what you WILL get EVERY time is the practice that sharpens the skills that will get you your next ten successes with women.

Is THAT such a bad thing?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If you want to learn how to meet women easily, anytime, anywhere, and totally have them eating out of the palm of your hand (and the  fly of your pants) despite her “I have a boyfriend” opening statement, just click here.

You’ll be doing you, and her, a service.