Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Too often, the focus of self-improvement is to react to a crisis. I propose a new way of thinking:
Peace and piece,
RJ
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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Some people are loners who for reasons of their own, can’t or won’t let anyone in their lives. They feel better without anyone around.
Some people choose the “single life” as a proactive choice for how they go through life. There’s a whole movement around this.
And some people feel they can’t be happy if they don’t have someone in their life. Sometimes they enter or put up with real-hate-shun-ships by default rather than be single.
A student of mine reported the following:
> I cant seem to be happy on my own, theres always a part of me thats a little lonely and a little upset all the time. When I have success with a girl the feeling is replaced with joy, but when i screw up and things don’t work out it really gets to me.
RJ here again. Look at how you are languaging it.
If you had a dear friend, who was having trouble with women, would you allow HIM to keep repeating to HIMSELF, “I can’t seem to be happy on my own.”
How many times have you fed your mind that suggestion?
If you mind accepts that suggestion, on a deep level, what do you think will happen to your attempts to be happy on your own?
You need to un-tangle these two things:
“I feel lonely” and “I can’t seem to be happy on my own”
One of them is true, sometimes. The other one is a belief that you are adding power to every time you say it. It’s actually making the problem more acute, not worse.
Look: every human has a need for human company and connection. It’s totally ok to have that need/desire/want DIRECT your behavior.
The problem is when that need/desire/want gets tied in with self-programming commands like, “I can’t seem to be happy on my own”.
So how could you go about separating the raw feelings of loneliness from the story you are attaching to it?
Hmmmm…
Peace and piece,
RJ
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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,
It’s easy to say that women who are mean to you, or who act in ways that don’t hold up to logic, are mean, psycho bitches.
Have you considered the role self-esteem plays? Think about it.
Most women have dealt with some previous wanker boyfriend / husband / boss criticizing her, her friends backstabbing her, things not going her way, getting her heart broken, getting cheated on, etc. Or some of the above. Or ALL of the above, where her wanker boyfriend cheated on her with her backstabbing best friend, thus breaking her heart, which means things did not go her way.
The result? What do you THINK? Internal low self esteem. Externally, these wounded souls evolve into perpetrators of bitchiness.
They frequently have a bad attitude. The “drama” is trauma based – tantrums, making up stories that are obviously lies, being rude about others, etc etc. They are only happy if other people feel worse than they do, and often do all they can, including blatant manipulation, to create a situation that makes them feel better and puts them at the center of the universe.
Here’s how many girl-getting maestros will approach this:
Disarm her and show her you are unaffected. Turn it on her in a humorous fashion. Ignore her with a smile. But if you can’t, then it’s “Exit, Stage Left.”
Problem, though: this only works for a while. She’ll revert back to the drama/trauma frame over and over.
Look: if you were to daily, ritually, synergistically and synchronistically be guided to and have guided to you, women who were happy, open-minded, grounded, loving life, contributing, supportive, who, when they receive love, welcome and return it…maybe, just maybe, after clearing up whatever of your OWN “stuff” might be drawing you to the drama/trauma crowd, you might start bumping into more and more such women.
Just like light can be measured as either a particle or a wave, depending on HOW you look for it and measure it, problems can be met at the level at which they come up, or you can go deeper, wider, or even “to the side”.
I want to suggest that BOTH approaches are required; train oneself to see the truth behind “bitchy” behavior and not to react to it, but also train oneself to expand the possibilities and to draw MUCH better where these “problems” will just not occur.
It IS possible.
Peace and piece,
RJ
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Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,
The dreck that’s pumped out into the mass media by the “romance industry” would have you thinking you have to look like a movie star, sing like a rock star, be chiseled like an Olympic star, and have enough money to take a space shuttle ride to an actual star, to get the babes you really want.
This is why so many guys resort to the 5 Bs – bullying, begging, buying, BS, and booze. And also why many guys put off their girl-getting game for years while they hunker down in the gym building the “sixth B” – biceps.
Frankly, it has me SEEING stars.
Look: I’ve taught thousands of guys how to apply Speed Seduction® to cut through the “dating game” and score with women who, up till now, you thought would never give you the f@@king time of day. I practice what I preach and… I’m 51, lanky and ugly as sin dipped in shit and I am never hard-up for women.
But it wasn’t always this way.
Where do you think I was when I started all of this, 22 years ago?
Didn’t stop me, though.
Chances are, things are “less than perfect” with you. So f@@king what?
Let me ask one question: what would it be like if it just so happens that “one thing” about yourself you really don’t like, happens to be THE thing that gets many women hot… but you didn’t know because you didn’t take charge, fire up your girl-getting game, and FIND OUT?
Peace and piece,
RJ
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