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When You Can’t Get Her Off Your Mind (Even Though You Know Better)

Posted by Ross Jeffries on February 28th, 2010
 When You Cant Get Her Off Your Mind (Even Though You Know Better)

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever had it happen where for some reason, you just can’t stop thinking about a particular chick?

Like, you spend hours visioning what your next meeting (or even phone call) will be like, exactly what you’re going to say?

ca 63290464 180 When You Cant Get Her Off Your Mind (Even Though You Know Better)Then, you find yourself agonizing over the right time of day you should call her? Suddenly worried that she might see what you put on your Facebook wall and fretting that she might interpret your status a certain way (that keeps your willy dry)?

Normally I ask, when I get questions like this I ask, first, foremost, uppermost, and important-most,

Is she the ONLY succulent, amazing woman
on the whole freaking planet???

However. in this case I think you realize that she isn’t. It’s just that there’s something inside of you keeping you fixated on this one chick.

First, you’re probably placing too much importance on this one chick. Have you f@@ked her yet? (It’s a yes or no question; either your Junior Explorer has explored her woman cave, or it hasn’t.)

Next
, define “importance”. Importance as in sexually wanting her, or importance is in her being someone you connect with on an emotional/caring level?

I’d be VERY careful about connecting too strongly with women, emotionally, unless you are well into f@@king them. Most guys underestimate their need to care for someone and emotionally connect with.

A lot of times guys find their “stuckness” can be exacerbated by being confused by that woman’s emotional 180s, fluctuations between wanting you and pushing you away, contradictory signals, sudden loss of interest and other deeply frustrating and seemingly (to you) irrational actions. Sound familiar?

Sometimes I feel I stand at the fulcrum between two things: the living wall of fire that it is my lust and the flood of water that is my compassion and my need to connect and care. Can make things at times confusing, yes?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. RIGHT NOW is the time to leave all that behind, to get “unstuck,” and instead gain a comprehensive understanding of women that helps you put it all perspective.

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RE: “My Friends Aren’t Around, So I Can’t Meet Women”

Posted by Ross Jeffries on February 20th, 2010
 RE: My Friends Arent Around, So I Cant Meet Women

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

OK, so it’s time to hit the town… but you’re sitting home alone.

Maybe all your pals are married or in committed relationships (or perhaps “real-hate-shun-ships by default”) so you don’t have a wingman to help you approach the “b#%ch-packs.”

Could be you have no one to go out with (did you actually try asking people, or are you ASSUMING everyone’s busy or not interested?) and you feel awkward going out alone. Maybe you’re out of town and it feels weird going out alone.

Any way you look at it, you’re not out there meeting women. Instead you’re doing something else, involving a word that sounds like “meet.”

The (Likely) Real Reason You’re With Rosie And Her Sisters Tonight
Instead Of Making Out With Dazzling, Delicious Debbie

Perhaps you’re tried Sarging on some hotties, but having gotten the brush-off more often than you expected, you’re coming up with any dang ol’ excuse to stay planted on your Seduction a$% instead of taking to the field.

The easiest one is “I hate going out alone.” Well, join me as I show you …

… Three Surefire Places To Find And Flirt With Fine Women,
Without A Wingman Or A Pu#$y-Pulling Posse

Here are three places you can start looking, right now:\

  • Street / store sarging. The best places to meet women are not “meat markets.” Get into the Sarging zone by talking to everybody. Before you know it, approaching a hot woman, anytime, anywhere, will be just a day in your life, not an “event” that you prepare for.
  • Organized Social Events. What do wine tastings, dance classes, cocktail parties, party cruises, and networking events all have in common? Lots of hot, exciting women. You already have an “if all else fails” ice-breaker because you know you have at least ONE thing in common.
  • Plan Your Flight, Hotel… And Sarging Zone. If you’re going to be out of town, do some advance research before you travel so you know the hot spots to hit while you’re in a new town. Are there organized social events in that town that strike your fancy? Get on Google and let your fingers do the walking. You’ll find something.

    Let me do the math for you… New City + New Women = New Adventures.

Get good at mixing it up and talking to everybody when your friends aren’t around. Then, when you meet cute, available women, your social wheels will already be turning and you’ll be the master of your girl-getting game.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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“Why Can’t I Say Bye-Bye To My Inner Shy Guy?”

Posted by Ross Jeffries on August 22nd, 2009
 Why Can’t I Say Bye Bye To My Inner Shy Guy?

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Meeting and succeeding with hot, sexy women has its ups and downs – and not all of them are in bed, or on the couch, or at the beach.

fotolia 351333 small Why Can’t I Say Bye Bye To My Inner Shy Guy?No matter how how much scoring with hot babes is a natural part of who you are and how you approach life, some Sarges just won’t work out. That’s to be expected. You “exit, stage left” and Sarge on the next hottie.

Some guys get thrown for a loop though when they approach women – the unexpected gets in the way, or they get a response they weren’t counting on, and the “shyness” factor kicks in. Case in point: this note I got from a student.

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I would like to know if an “anti shyness” solution is good for the situation I’m in, as I’m sure that alot of guys have the same problem.

When I go out Sarging, I can pretty easily get myself to act and talk in the way I like to. But whenever the girl reacts in a way I wasn’t expecting, or when the unexpected happens, I will usually DROP BACK TO MY OLD SELF. Inevitably, I ruin the “first impression” I made on her.

The last time this happened, I was getting a good reaction from the girl, and she said “OMG I am blushing, you say stuff very well.” That made me say something stupid like “Yeah, I’m blushing as well.” Someone who passed by heard us and laughed, and then I laughed and went back to my old self – and started to act in a silly way. This woman shifted from being very charmed into being uninterested, very fast. Ross, what can I do when this happens?

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This is pretty common and easily addressed. It’s just an old flow of fear, linked to an old belief that says, “I can’t win”.

The trick is to become consciously aware of and MASTER the very emotions and flows of feeling that have been blocking and stopping you for years, hiding just outside your conscious awareness.

All strong emotions, including negative ones like worry and fear can be re-channeled into AMAZING SOURCES OF POWER. The very same energy/feeling flows/and complexes that have kept you blocked, once mastered, become incredible sources of power and ability, lined up to help you achieve what you want.

Wouldn’t that feel great??? I bet it would sure beat a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. This fear, manifested as shyness, can creep up at ANY stage of your Sarge, whether it’s the initial walk up, the mid-game, or the final “closing her-getting naked” stage!

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