Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

On a recent “Ask Me Anything” calls for members of the Speed Seduction® Coaching Program, one of our students shared a story about how just a few simple words moved a woman from “I’m Aroused” to “It’s On”.

It went something like this.  The student had been spending time with her and had used Speed Seduction® to get her to the point where she went around naked in the room when they were hanging out, but nothing else had happened – no kiss, no nookie, no ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

He called a friend on the phone, and the friend gave him this advice: “Tell her to take her clothes off, get on top of you, and shut her f@@king mouth.” So my student said to the woman, “My friend tells you to take your clothes off, get on top of me, and f@@k me right now.”

Seems all of the work he had done building connections got her turned on, but when he just gave her a command… within 30 seconds, they were f@@king.

Now, let me make something clear: If you’re doing all the patterns, you’re in the driver’s seat and she’s sitting there passively listening, you can’t expect her to suddenly take the wheel.  The deeper in they go, the more you have to be the one who strongly takes the action.  On the flip side, women who are knowingly teasing you really need to be told to fuck off. They need that strong hand.

Here‟s the way I’ll paint it for you. What this student was doing up until then DID get her turned on.  She was responding and walking around naked, right?

First of all, get this understanding. Any girl who is walking around naked in front of you but won’t make out with you is teasing. She wants you to tell her to fuck off and do as she’s told. Do you understand that?

Now get this.  I’m going to get criticized by people who deliberately misquote me. So let me be clear.

I am NOT saying that all women want you to rip their clothes off and tell them, “Get on top of me, shut your mouth and f@@k.” I AM saying that if a woman is walking around naked in front of you and has taken her clothes off, she knows she’s teasing you and turning you on.

If she’s teasing you by taking her clothes off and parading around naked but won’t make out with you, you have the bull by the horns. You can either tell her to get the f@@k out or climb on top of you. That is clearly a case of teasing. She needs to know that you’re strong enough to say, “Get lost!”

Listen to this also: I’m sure this kind of woman is turned on. She’s turned on by the fact that you’re turned on by her teasing, but she’s also turned on by the patterns.

Just because she’s turned on doesn’t mean “it’s on” now. She can be extremely aroused, but what pushes her from very aroused to “It’s On” is a display of strength and not caring on your part. That’s for this specific kind of woman.

Now, let me unpack that and make it very clear.

For some women, doing language patterns and then touching and kissing them is enough to get them from, “I’m aroused,” to “It’s on.” You need to understand that just because a woman is aroused doesn’t mean it’s on and she’s ready.

For some women, doing patterns and being mildly aggressive is enough. It’ll move them from aroused to, “It’s on.”

For other women, they won’t be moved to, “It’s on,” even if they are aroused, unless you show that display of, “Fuck you! I don’t care. Please me.” That’s a subset of women.

I’m willing to bet, in this case, this woman is either very young, has very low “self-esteem” or both, if she’s in that category. She’s excited by displays of dominance and power. I want to make it very clear. The patterns were turning her on, but it wasn’t enough because of her psychology.

Make sense?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. What you have just witnessed here are how various levels, volumes, and varieties of sexual aggression can move different types of women from being aroused to “It’s On.”  You need to calibrate which applies to any situation you find yourself in.  At our upcoming 3-Day LIVE Speed Seduction® Seminar in Montreal, I will part the curtains on my latest and greatest teachings on Sexual Aggression Mastery, along with Showing Up Attractive and MUCH more.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A huge part of mastering your girl-getting game is not only understanding and recognizing the “AFC” behaviors that, up until now, have slowed your surge to success; but also having in place a set of tools and practices to quickly set yourself back on track if one of these behaviors ever tries to rear its ugly head.

Let’s hear from a student who attended our most recent 3-day seminar, who shares a major breakthrough he experienced…in his own words:

Hey Ross,

I have had some of the Speed seduction material ever since some of the early work, and been learning the SRT concepts, and had some success; but I have not been implementing it as I should, CONSISTENTLY…but I have found how great the vague language is….that sort of shit really works guys!

For now, I want to say a personal thank you to Ross for the transformation work he did with me up front on the Saturday morning at the London seminar. I had been stuck approaching those 10+ girls, because my legs simply wouldn’t take me over to them, even though, I am quite able to do it if an opportunity arises and they are standing next to me!

This ‘cold approach’ was defeating my ability to walk…Ross did his magic on me, and trust me, I was not faking it!!!! I struggled to get the feelings exactly to begin with, because I was out in front of the group, and I’d told myself, no way am I humiliating myself out there in front of anyone, before I came to the seminar.

But then, here I was at the seminar, sharing those deepest darkest thoughts in front of the whole room…yet as I managed to overcome that, and concentrate on what I was being told, suddenly something started to change and without much warning, the sensation changed, and as I said out loud, ‘I Claim MY success, with MY smoking hot women, who please, satisfy and delight me NOW’ my fear flushed out of me and I was left with incredible confidence!

Guys, believe me, I’ve thought some of this stuff may be the guys performing for the camera…I will say it again, this actually happened and it was REAL!!! And here’s the best part!  It lasts!!!!

I was walking along the road yesterday and an HB10+ walked out of an office, right in front of me, normal reaction, I would have averted my face and wished I had the balls to at least say ‘Hi’.  But as I felt the tiniest hint of the old self, I simply repeated my phrase to myself, smiled broadly and say ‘Hi’, she gave me a terrific smile back and I watched her head get thrown back and you could see her pleasure at just being acknowledged…now yes, I could have followed this up, and I will…but I just wanted you to get that I could do this in a heartbeat when the tiniest hint of the old behaviour started and it changed me in an instant…if that isn’t magic I don’t know what is!

Trust in this stuff, but as Ross says, you have to do the work, practice, practice, practice, out there in the real world, not in your head all the time! Even just getting to the first stage of talking to them is a step forward and then you can add in steps, but just do it!

And, remember the lesson I learnt, get to a seminar, put your hand up, tell your story and if you are lucky, Ross could help you to get over any stuck points you have…in the meantime, do the practice, get out there and have fun, you won’t believe how many times I hear girls say, it’s so refreshing to meet a guy who is this open and can talk about this stuff, and this is usually just after we’ve done the deed!

So go on, get out there today, your life and those girls are waiting!  For you to take hold of them and lead them off into the land of adventure!

James Hill
London, United Kingdom

See what life can look like for you when you take a bold step forward?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Our Fall 2011 Speed Seduction® seminar tour takes us to Montreal, Sydney, and Melbourne.  If you haven’t yet attended a seminar in 2011, you still have options, but as they say, he who hesitates, mastur-waits.  Will YOU take a bold step forward and join me this fall?

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A student told me how he wants to get sexual with women, but something comes up that’s so strong, and he just can’t.

In this video, I make a suggestion:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. This is just a sampling of the live, real-world teaching, in direct response to real situations with women, that takes place at my 3-day seminars.  For a full schedule of upcoming dates and cities, click here now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Have you ever encountered a “man hater”, a woman who is closed and has deep “man issues,” or a woman who you reasonably believe is only one slight nudge away from becoming a schlong slicer?

Are you one of those guys who seem to be a love-hate figure with the ladies?  Meaning, some women strongly enjoy being around you and others instantaneously hate you, everything you stand for, and everything you like just because you like it?

Well, before worrying that you might have to change your name to Bobbitt, consider this.

Behind every angry response, look for the resentment, or jealousy or even most commonly, THE FEAR.

Maybe this woman who “hates” you has had pain from her past attraction to men whom she PERCEIVES you are like.

She associates pain to that attraction she felt to you because, in the past, men whom she PERCEIVES you are like, caused her pain (and/or she caused herself pain by her automatic reactions to these men, expecting more from them than they wanted, or something different than they wanted.

Just like the AFC chump/nice guy EXPECTS women to be attracted to his niceness and then is disappointed and angry and fearful when they don’t!

Congratulations on discovering something: women are human.

THEY HAVE AUTOPILOT RESPONSES and FALSE perceptions, just like us guys! They see things through the filters of the past and ASSUME that what they perceive is accurate and real.

In her mind, the possibility that you could have many of the attractive characteristics of these guys from the past, WITHOUT being arrogant or cruel or hurtful DOESN’T OCCUR TO HER.  She only sees the potential to be hurt YET AGAIN.

And probably concludes, in addition, that she is DOOMED to be hurt and can NEVER find a guy she could be attracted to AND who will treat her well.

So, it goes back to her fear. If she was utterly neutral about it and didn’t have any charge on it at all, she would care less about you, one way or the other.

We OFTEN fear what we are attracted to, because that attraction can make us feel out of control. Or can remind us of past pain. It’s not hate – it’s F-E-A-R.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. When you know what to look for and how to use a woman’s emotional responses, she will actually provide almost all of the energy for the seduction.  This is just a sliver of what we’ll cover in our London 3-day seminar, which starts just seven days from now.  You in?  Click here to get your seat before it’s too late.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

What’s the difference between an Average Frustrated Chump (AFC), a Seducer, and a Master Seducer?

Click “Play” to find out…

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I stand by the quality and value of the teaching I deliver in my 3-day seminars so strongly, that I offer a guarantee my competition would never, ever DARE.  Want to know more?  Click here to find out, and to claim your seat (next stop London, June 24-26!)

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Have you added “claim my results with the women I truly desire” to your bucket list?

If not, don’t you think it’s high time you did?  If you wait till tomorrow, the only thing that makes tomorrow different is the 1,440 minutes that will pass between now and then.

Listen to this student, who has made the decision to not let another day go to waste:

Dear Ross,

My name is Demetrius Dasilva.  I’m  38 years old from Deerfield Beach, Florida.

At 22, being an introvert, extremely shy, lacking self-confidence combined with not knowing what to say to women to be accepted made me a very lonely man and drove me to an unstoppable quest for a solution.

This goal led me to a magazine ad for Speed Seduction® and thus, I bought your paperback.

Candidly it was a tad unstructured but the message was effective and I got the gist, went on to invest in the blue book which had some fundamental patterns, then a few videos (one with the Indian guy, hehe priceless) and cds.

The more I read your material the more I realized how miserable men’s lives are without a predictable and proven technique to persuade women (also applicable to business – I’m in sales)

Obviously I kept it a secret and reaped a bountiful harvest of fresh peaches, the kind that has that smooth fuzz and heavenly scent ~wink~ not to mention the melons hehe. You can say, I became a farmer.

Inevitably I’ve developed a passion for NLP and hypnosis thanks to you as well.

Nowadays, my communication has a purpose and it’s extremely effective.

People say I’m eloquent…then I say: oh you just like my charisma honey

I also thank you for finding my princess (Paola) who I love very much. She is only 5′ but she is the most beautiful woman in the world. (Mexican + German mix)

When I met her she was 17, (I was 32) she was at the beach I drove by and called her over, started using patterns on the spot.

2 days later, still an SS beginner, I already had her going in and out of trances, it was unreal.

Her family didn’t authorize our marriage then so we waited until she turned 18 and married on her birthday. I can say I lived a fairy tale.

My baby was intoxicated with me, it was a fantastic feeling then it went to my head. (Newbies please refrain from allowing yourself to fall into this)

Unfortunately, despite loving her I started being unfaithful and obviously using my newly mastered technique on every woman who would listen.

At the same time, I started being abrasive to my wife, treating her with disrespect and because of my over confidence, I thought I’d never lose her.

Well I was wrong, 4 years into the marriage she had enough of my abuse and left me.

I’m working on getting her back and it’s now an upstream swim but it’s all my fault.

You guessed it, I’m leveraging SS again to win her back but this time I won’t hurt her because she’s the one for me.

Needless to say this is the ultimate test for me and for SS and you can rest assured you’ll be kept abreast of any progress made towards my goal. (I said “abreast” NOT breast, relax!!) Lol

My bucket list has “attend Ross Jeffries live work shop” listed on there but last time I checked you were going to be in London so…let me know when the next one is in the U.S.

Your devoted student & eternal advocate,
Demetrius “DAHOOK” Dasilva
Love you RJ, you changed my life

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Demetrius is right about this: I WILL be in London, next weekend (June 24-26).  Will you spend 3 days with me, live, doing on-the-spot changework that will create your new life story of vaginal victory and tight trim triumph?  Click here and don’t miss out!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Mastering the skills means you can always do better.  Just click the Play button and listen to Tom, one of my great students for over 12 years who has studied my courses and attended multiple seminars, explain in his own words:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Part of what attracted Tom to Speed Seduction® was my “You Don’t Get Laid, I Don’t Get Paid” guarantee.  When you attend my 3-day seminars, you’re covered by a guarantee that my competition wouldn’t DARE offer.  Learn how you can get me, live, in-person, when you click here right now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The other night I was hanging out with the Swedish  ex-room mate of my Swedish ex-girlfriend.

Let’s call this gorgeous, 5 foot 10,  25 year old, buxom Swedish lass, “Inge”.

Anyway, Inge and I were sitting over coffee at the Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf on Wilshire and 9th when we struck up a conversation with a Persian woman in her mid-thirties.

This lady was talking about a recent date with a guy who seemed so romantic and wonderful over dinner. But then, as soon as they got back to her place, he aggressively jumped on her.

She asked him to slow down a bit.  “This is going too fast,” she said she told him. “Can we slow down and talk a bit?  A woman needs a bit of talk first.”

This just pissed him off.  “We did our talking at the restaurant,” he said.   Then he got more aggressive.

When she insisted he slow down and talk, he got up and left!

This lady shook her head and said, “Doesn’t he understand? Women want to talk a bit first. I was ready for him but I wanted him to talk and make me feel a bit special.”

After we left the Bean, Inge said to me, “That woman was so full of shit, generalizing like that.  I’ve got lots of sexual confidence and if I want to fuck a guy enough to invite him back to my place, I’m perfectly fine with getting to the fucking!”

(Hey-do you still wonder why I love the Swedish people?)

Here is the point of the story:

1. While it’s often safe to have general rules to follow, every woman is different, and you have to calibrate to the unique woman in front of you. (And if you are anal enough to write to me about generalizing about Swedish women, fuck you very much.)
2. Almost never take a woman’s auto-pilot responses at face value. In the case of the Persian, her real emotional need was not to talk or to feel special, but rather, to feel comfortable letting go of control.

The guy took it personally and permanently, rather than saying something like, “Of course.  Let’s just do what we only both feel comfortable with. Why don’t you give me a little tour of your place?”

His next move?  After about half an hour of chat, to say, “I’ve got to make it an early evening. Can you walk me out?”

As soon as he gets to the door, turn around, pull her in, and kiss her passionately.

(By the way, I’m working on a new course on Effective Sexual Aggression And Creative Closing For The Former Nice Guy. Stay tuned for more, because I’ll be going into great depth about how to master this stuff.  It’s still a fundamental sticking point for too many guys).

I’d like to hear your comments on this subject and this post.

Peace, piece and hooray for Inge and her lovely countrywomen!

RJ

P.S. Speaking of all lovely things Scandinavian, two weekends from now (June 10-12) is our next 3-day seminar, located in Copenhagen, Denmark.  Claim your ticket to immerse yourself in 3-days of total Seduction mastery teaching by clicking here right now.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The other day, I shared with you the story of the student who decided to implement a “friends first” policy in his girl-getting game.  I can think of a few F-words that go along with this policy, and I can pretty much guarantee that fornication is NOT one of them.

All too true in this particular student’s case, because now I’m going to show you how he not only didn’t get laid, but then he committed a Sargy sin.

First, the result he got when he actually did something Sargingly decent, but then allowed “friends first” to stop him from taking it to the next level:

> Just to take a sidetrack, I did some SS patterns and techniques with a girl I met at work. We were hanging out one night, talking, and we were just talking about ourselves and relationships, and somewhere in the conversation I threw in “yea, that’s why I always go for it, even if the girl does have a boyfriend…because who knows if the guy really is what she’s looking for or if she wants more…but I’m honest with myself. I have to believe that I really am better for her than her boyfriend. Then I have no problem.”

This apparently set off something in her head (she had a bf at the time, although he was far away), because that night she kissed me on the cheek from her own volition.

WOW! A KISS ON THE CHEEK! STOP THE PRESSES!

I am mocking this for a REASON.

I want him (and you, if you consider this a big score) to be slapped awake. YOU are viewing HER as the rare prize to be waited for.

WHAT STOPPED HIM from escalating when SHE initiated?  What was he waiting for, if he thought this set off something in her head that could have gotten her giving HIM head?

Spend some time thinking about rapport and calibration. What are you doing right with these?  Where could you improve to get the results YOU want?

YOU have the gift. You can create these feelings now whenever you like wherever you go. SO MOVE ON.

OK – here’s the part where he Sargily sinned:

> Well, one thing I know I’m doing right is getting feedback from one
> of my female friends. She and I are really good friends and
> understand each other very well. I ran the story of this girl by
> her, she made me realize that I should start off being the friend and
> then move in.

OH MY GOD! HE IS BEING LED ASTRAY! Why would he believe the advice this chick gave him on how to win a woman?

Sinner, please believe in your future. Believe and envision being able to create these powerful feelings as a common, every-day thing, NOT a rare event.

She isn’t the gift for RESPONDING. YOU are the gift for GIVING.

YOU are the rarety; a man who evokes powerful feelings. SHE is the common, a woman who feels strongly when you speak.

So move on. BELIEVE in finding someone more open. And Goddamn it, calibrate to her responsiveness and program in getting physical. YOU CAN DO IT!

Back when I responded to this post, I included this Sargy mantra for him to remember every time he felt compelled to implement Friends First:

Silently Sargy is watching and waiting
Come home, sinner, come home
Walking the back fence
He’s calling you homeward
Come home, sinner come home

He wandered the alleys
And danced on the rooftops
Come home, sinner, come home
So you could get pussy
And pull out all the stops

COME HOME, SINNER, COME HOME.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If you, too, have found yourself astray, let me personally lead you to scintillatingly sweet Sargy success.  See me in Copenhagen in a couple weeks.  Or see me in London two weeks after that.  If you can’t make either of those, see me in Montreal, Sydney, or Melbourne this fall.  But for the sake of your Sarge, see me at a 3-day seminar!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you “assume” it makes an ass-of-u-and-me.  What happens when you “insist”?

Watch this short video where I share two great attitudes that will help you meet, seduce, and succeed with the women you truly desire:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. This clip is from our April 2011 3-day seminar in London.  Our next seminar dates are in June, and are in Copenhagen and London.  Don’t miss out, click here for details and to sign up now!