Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

The other day, I shared with you the story of the student who decided to implement a “friends first” policy in his girl-getting game.  I can think of a few F-words that go along with this policy, and I can pretty much guarantee that fornication is NOT one of them.

All too true in this particular student’s case, because now I’m going to show you how he not only didn’t get laid, but then he committed a Sargy sin.

First, the result he got when he actually did something Sargingly decent, but then allowed “friends first” to stop him from taking it to the next level:

> Just to take a sidetrack, I did some SS patterns and techniques with a girl I met at work. We were hanging out one night, talking, and we were just talking about ourselves and relationships, and somewhere in the conversation I threw in “yea, that’s why I always go for it, even if the girl does have a boyfriend…because who knows if the guy really is what she’s looking for or if she wants more…but I’m honest with myself. I have to believe that I really am better for her than her boyfriend. Then I have no problem.”

This apparently set off something in her head (she had a bf at the time, although he was far away), because that night she kissed me on the cheek from her own volition.

WOW! A KISS ON THE CHEEK! STOP THE PRESSES!

I am mocking this for a REASON.

I want him (and you, if you consider this a big score) to be slapped awake. YOU are viewing HER as the rare prize to be waited for.

WHAT STOPPED HIM from escalating when SHE initiated?  What was he waiting for, if he thought this set off something in her head that could have gotten her giving HIM head?

Spend some time thinking about rapport and calibration. What are you doing right with these?  Where could you improve to get the results YOU want?

YOU have the gift. You can create these feelings now whenever you like wherever you go. SO MOVE ON.

OK – here’s the part where he Sargily sinned:

> Well, one thing I know I’m doing right is getting feedback from one
> of my female friends. She and I are really good friends and
> understand each other very well. I ran the story of this girl by
> her, she made me realize that I should start off being the friend and
> then move in.

OH MY GOD! HE IS BEING LED ASTRAY! Why would he believe the advice this chick gave him on how to win a woman?

Sinner, please believe in your future. Believe and envision being able to create these powerful feelings as a common, every-day thing, NOT a rare event.

She isn’t the gift for RESPONDING. YOU are the gift for GIVING.

YOU are the rarety; a man who evokes powerful feelings. SHE is the common, a woman who feels strongly when you speak.

So move on. BELIEVE in finding someone more open. And Goddamn it, calibrate to her responsiveness and program in getting physical. YOU CAN DO IT!

Back when I responded to this post, I included this Sargy mantra for him to remember every time he felt compelled to implement Friends First:

Silently Sargy is watching and waiting
Come home, sinner, come home
Walking the back fence
He’s calling you homeward
Come home, sinner come home

He wandered the alleys
And danced on the rooftops
Come home, sinner, come home
So you could get pussy
And pull out all the stops

COME HOME, SINNER, COME HOME.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If you, too, have found yourself astray, let me personally lead you to scintillatingly sweet Sargy success.  See me in Copenhagen in a couple weeks.  Or see me in London two weeks after that.  If you can’t make either of those, see me in Montreal, Sydney, or Melbourne this fall.  But for the sake of your Sarge, see me at a 3-day seminar!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When you “assume” it makes an ass-of-u-and-me.  What happens when you “insist”?

Watch this short video where I share two great attitudes that will help you meet, seduce, and succeed with the women you truly desire:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. This clip is from our April 2011 3-day seminar in London.  Our next seminar dates are in June, and are in Copenhagen and London.  Don’t miss out, click here for details and to sign up now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When this student (who attended one of our recent seminars) first heard of Speed Seduction®, he pretty much thought it was “total shit.”  Watch this short video and find out what happened when he took a step in a new direction and immersed himself in the teachings:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Will I see YOU at an upcoming 3-day seminar?  We can still squeeze you in to Chicago, which begins tomorrow (Friday May 20).  Then we’re in London and Copenhagen next month, with more dates, cities, and continents in the fall.  Will you take a bold step forward by clicking here?

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

When it looks like she’s pushing you away, could be something else is happening.  As a follow up to what we discussed Tuesday about fractionation, watch this clip from a recent seminar where I explore in more detail:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. There’s two ways you can acquire the tools you need to overcome these challenges and attain other points of mastery in your girl-getting game.  You can join us for a 3-day seminar or grab your copy of Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the more common scenarios I get presented with is students who are good at some of the stages of seduction, but tend to choke at “the closing”.

That is, they are good at the pick-up, good at the middle stage, even good at getting a lady to make out with them.

But somehow, when it comes to “going for the goods”, they drop the ball.

In fact, just recently,  I received the following email from a student:

“Ross,

I have had your home study course for a while, but have been tripping over my own dick for the last year.

I feel like I am developing rapport and getting women in the state of mind that I want them, but I have also missed opportunities because I am used to being “shy” to make the move.

My most recent missed opportunity occurred with a nice looking 18 year old.  I did the discovery channel pattern with the daughter and she kissed me.  I still didn’t close the deal!!  Sounds pretty sad huh?

This kind of interaction has happened time and time again, even before I bought your course.

The strange thing is that most of these women seem upset after the fact.  I am willing to do what you outlined in the newsletters in order to become a more calm and confident version of myself, and realize the opportunity when it happens, and not after the fact.

Am I the only student you have had that can’t close the deal when the girl kisses him?

Thank you in advance for your response.”

Ok, let’s get this clear: just because a woman is kissing us and making out with us, does NOT mean she is sufficiently turned on or ready, in her own mind, to “dip the donkey”.

In fact, I have learned that many women need alternating periods of being heated up, then cooled down, then heated up even more strongly, when it comes to getting physical.

We call this fractionation.  Simply put, you put someone in a trance, then take them out again. When you put them back in, they go back in deeper than the previous time.  Each time you take them out of the trance it builds potential to have a stronger trance response when you put them back in.

I think many, if not MOST women, are this way, with being physically turned on. If you make out with them, raise them to a plateau of excitement, then slow down and back up a bit, they will be FAR more receptive when  you turn the heat back on.

So usually, when you start making out with a woman, it’s actually a good idea to get her sizzling for about ten minutes, then drop back down a level. If you are at “third base” back off to light kissing. Even take a break, go to the bathroom, and come back. Or move her to a different part of the house, and then resume.

We men are like rockets with our excitement: we take off straight up. Women respond better with zigs and zags.

Now, as for why this student didn’t “go for it”, I think often it is because we are shocked that the patterns actually work, even more so on women that are hotter and younger than we are used to getting.

Over the years I have seen this happen with many students: the first few times they try Speed Seduction® they do NOT expect it to work! And when it does, they don’t know quite what to do. As if suddenly you are holding a ten million dollar lottery ticket in  your hand and you are staring at the numbers because you can’t believe you won!

I remember one story in particular, about a student who had just gotten his copy of Speed Seduction® and used some patterns on an attractive woman at his church social.

She insisted they go out to the parking lot and then she jumped all over him, performed some “oral fun” on him, and then said, “Bang me. Put me on the hood of the car and bang me.”

The student said, “But the pastor is going to be coming out with the congregation any minute!”

She said, “I don’t want the pastor to bang me! I want YOU to bang me!”

Now, this guy was so shocked, Mr. Pee Pee wouldn’t do the job, so he wound up having to take a raincheck!

The bottom line is, you need to mentally rehearse success! Literally act out what you will say and do in response to a woman really wanting you, indeed insisting on having you.

Peace and piece
RJ

P.S. You can have all the success with women you’ve ever wanted right now, when you join me for 3 days and let me show you how it’s done.  Click here now to register for one of  our upcoming 3-Day Seminars (Chicago is next weekend!)

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In this video clip, taken directly from our April 2011 London seminar, I explain why your “motivation strategy” might be one of the biggest things holding you back from your success with women:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The next stop on the Speed Seduction® 2011 world tour is in Chicago, and it’s in just 15 days.  The room is filling up fast – don’t miss this.  Click here to sign up now (and see our other cities if you can’t make Chicago).

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It happens to beginners… AND from time to time, even to skilled Speed Seduction® masters.  (VERY rarely, but it can happen to ANYONE, so don’t beat yourself up, just keep reading).

You know the feeling.  You see her.  She’s hot.  Real hot. You’ve seen her in your dreams, and now here she is.  Sitting alone.  Wearing that svelte dress that was sewn just for her scintillatingly salacious body.  She might as well be wearing a sign that says “Come Hither” with your name on it. It’s “go” time.  Time to take that bold step forward.

But then it hits you.

First it’s like a weight in the pit of your stomach.  Then it grows, moving up your solar plexus through your chest and up to the back of your throat. Your notice that your face feels a little warm as well. Your heart beat increases, and your breathing becomes more rapid. Your feet also feel heavy, almost like they’re stuck to the floor.

You know how this story ends, right?  MISSION ABORTED.

Well guess what…

…That’s all about to end!

Here’s the key: view this as an opportunity to learn HOW your body produces anxiety.

The next time this happens, just relax, and rather than trying to fight it or push through it, PAY ATTENTION.

Notice where IN YOUR BODY the feelings of anxiety first arise. Where do they start? Where do they spread to? What is the quality of the feeling… is it cold? Warm? Does it run only on the surface or deep inside?

What happens to the rest of your bodily awareness when this happens?  What are you doing with your breathing?  Just observe.

DO NOT TRY TO CHANGE ANY OF IT!

Just observe it, objectively and carefully. Don’t try to get into action or talk to any girl. Just observe your bodily response WITHOUT JUDGMENT.

That is the first step. Do this and see if you can find your way over to her now.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. In our live, 3-day seminars we do numerous interactive exercises just like these that blast you through stuck points and get you on the smooth street-way to Sargy success.  Get your Seduction ass to Chicago (just 3 weeks away), London or Copenhagen (next month) or our other cities this year.  Click here for our 3-day Speed Seduction® seminars now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Really… how was your weekend with women?

Was it a vaginally-victorious, ripe-for-harvest, 69-acre field of moist pink abundance?

Did you meet a great new woman, easily and effortlessly, despite any imperfections in yourself or in her, and powerfully capture her interest and create a new space where the two of you could take things, together, in a new direction?

Did you get laid?

If some hottie threw you a curveball – gave you a nasty glare, shot you down cold before you had a chance to work your Sargy magic (or Magick), or otherwise threw a wrench in the gears – did you know what to do?  How to handle it?  How to turn things around your way to still get the results you want?

OK, so maybe you’ve been seeing someone.  Have you slept with her yet? Things heatings up between you two?

(Or you three, if she, like her salaciously succulent sorority sister, is the freaky girl that many of my students would like to meet at least once… or maybe again and again)?

I get it – maybe you’re in a serious, committed relationship and this is indeed the woman you think you might want to marry.  After all, you did take her home to meet your momma and it was already like your parents “didn’t lose a son, but gained a daughter”. 

Is it a relationship, or a real-hate-shun-ship? Are you sure?  Do you know what to do if you really like her but so far it seems like you real-hate too much?

Seriously, let me know.  I want to hear from you.  Leave a comment below, please.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. If your actual weekend with women didn’t quite add up to the “perfect HB10″ equation I described above, click here and/or click here to learn two ways you can improve things, starting now.  Today.  Getting the ball rolling for wetter, wilder, wonderful-er weekends with women.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

I just received this great note from one of my students who attended our recent 3-day seminar in London.  In case you’re wondering if attending a Speed Seduction® seminar is the right move to help you claim your results with women, listen to Matthew share his experiences in his own words:

I didn’t really know what to expect in London, and with a seminar like this you’re not always certain that you should come.  However, within the first fifteen minutes of listening to Ross Jeffries speak it put my mind at ease.  It was a really comfortable environment with a cool group of guys who were ready to learn from the master.

RJ has a ton of passion for teaching and he knows exactly what you need.  I would definitely recommend this seminar.  I’ve discovered a powerful motivation and inspiration that every guy needs to find for himself.  Ross knows how to help.  If you’re nearby and it’s happening, you must go.  I’d recommend this to everyone!

Matthew Davis
Calgary, Canada

Will I see you at our next seminar?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. We’re ramping up for Chicago, Copenhagen, and yes we’re coming back to London too.  Plus we have even more dates and cities in the fall.  Check it out, and come join us – click here for our Speed Seduction® seminars.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever felt a complete collapse of energy when you don’t achieve the results you wanted?  Particularly when you make your move with a woman and she shuts you down cold?

Some students who have experienced this say it gets to the point where they can almost see the future – they can perceive or predict rejection before it even happens.

Now does past rejection give us the ability to see the future?  Not really.

What happens is you want to move forward, but you also want to be totally certain before you take a step. Since these two things are not logically possible you have two conflicting desires bumping up against one another.

The resulting “friction” is what causes the suffering and the perception of “perceiving rejection”.

The solution is to release the need to be certain and then to feel the raw physical sensations of uncertainty without the internal dialog or imagery. Just track the raw sensations in your body, noting every ten seconds out loud if they are “Same” or “Changing” (veterans of some of my Speed Seduction® seminars are familiar with this technique).

Once you have the raw physical feeling separated from the imagery and dialog, it no longer feeds the limiting ideas in the imagery and dialog – there is no more fuel to power the engine of your ongoing “story” that has kept you limited, so the imagery and dialog just tend to drop without you having to attempt to drop them.

And that is your “get out of rejection jail” card…

This:

1. Frees you to create a NEW story about how you respond, what you can do, etc.
2. Frees up that raw energy to power the NEW story.
3. Quiets the internal “noise/friction” in your system so you can perceive what is going on with other people: the accuracy and speed of your intuition and calibration will skyrocket WITHOUT EFFORT.
4. Quiets the noise for your EXTERNAL communication so that what you say to others will not have to push out through your noise/friction. This means your messages can be delivered with far less “push/voltage/intensity” so they don’t creep people out/blow them out of the water/break rapport etc.
5. Changes your vibe to one that is grounded, quiet, flexible and attractive BEFORE YOU EVEN OPEN YOUR MOUTH.

That’s not bad for one simple process, is it?

For those of you who are familiar with my Magick/PI stuff, can you imagine what this cleaned up state/cleaned up energy could do for your sigils and other forms of ritual work?

Hmmmm…

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I can promise you this: when you untangle yourself like this, it makes you MUCH more appealing, much more efficient a learning machine, creates a charisma INDEPENDENT of external validation or your social skill set, creates an INFORMED, INTELLIGENT motivation and enthusiasm that doesn’t rollercoaster up and down based on how things turn out on any particular day or with any particular woman.

Like this so far?  Click here for much, much more.