Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As I’ve said before, on more than one occasion in fact, one of the lessons I teach is that you use the information, vibe, and feedback a woman gives you to craft your patterning and banter to connect YOU with her erotic desires, wants and needs.

Part of what gets you this information is your ability to be observant and be curious.

Now, note I said BE curious. Not SEEM curious. This student understands the distinction but is still struggling:

> I understand how to SEEM curious, I want to BE curious. I find that 9 out of 10 times when speaking to people (not just women) I couldn’t care less about what they are saying even though I do care about them as a person. My mind starts to go into overdrive thinking about everything else I have going on in life. I find this isn’t helpful at work, with family, friends or SS. I think people can definately see this when talking with them.

Ok: here’s some food for thought…

For me, curiosity is about wanting to know how things REALLY work, beneath the surface appearance. It’s about looking for the large rules, controlling principles, hidden dynamics in ALL of life.

You can’t easily get curious only about women. Get curious about EVERYTHING.

Get curious about the inner processes that drive people that they themselves aren’t even aware of.

I think you’ll find you’ll see a whole ‘nother picture and have a much different (stronger) level of clarity that will boost your success with women, not to mention other areas where your current reality falls short of the potential you know you have.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I can talk until I’m blue in the face about how Speed Seduction® training is the proven formula that gets you the success you want with the women you truly desire.  But nothing quite says it like my own students, in their own words.

Let’s hear from Matthew, who has attended a live seminar, completed Speed Seduction® 3.0, and participated in our Coaching Program:

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Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

I just received this great note from one of my students who attended our recent 3-day seminar in London.  In case you’re wondering if attending a Speed Seduction® seminar is the right move to help you claim your results with women, listen to Matthew share his experiences in his own words:

I didn’t really know what to expect in London, and with a seminar like this you’re not always certain that you should come.  However, within the first fifteen minutes of listening to Ross Jeffries speak it put my mind at ease.  It was a really comfortable environment with a cool group of guys who were ready to learn from the master.

RJ has a ton of passion for teaching and he knows exactly what you need.  I would definitely recommend this seminar.  I’ve discovered a powerful motivation and inspiration that every guy needs to find for himself.  Ross knows how to help.  If you’re nearby and it’s happening, you must go.  I’d recommend this to everyone!

Matthew Davis
Calgary, Canada

Will I see you at our next seminar?

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. We’re ramping up for Chicago, Copenhagen, and yes we’re coming back to London too.  Plus we have even more dates and cities in the fall.  Check it out, and come join us – click here for our Speed Seduction® seminars.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Let me share with you this great testimonial letter I received from a longtime student, who had already mastered Speed Seduction® 3.0, who attended last weekend’s 3-day seminar in London.

As you read this letter now, notice how he draws a distinction between just studying vs. taking action; simply reading vs. immersing in live training:

Hey Ross,

Just wanted to thank you for a fantastic seminar!

I had listened to some of your material over and over again beforehand.  But there is just something different about face to face learning, it just seems to go in better. I certainly had a few ‘eureka moments’ that’s for sure. I should apologise for zoning out at the front a couple of times. That wasn’t me losing interest at all. That was just me drifting off and thinking about how I am going to use what I was learning and how things will be different from now on.

The techniques for change that you taught us were what I have taken most from the weekend.  I have started practising them already and these are what are going to help get what I want out of all the rest the material. I really am excited about what I am going to be able to achieve in the future, not just in this, but also in other areas of my life.

I was really impressed with the way you taught the class and the way you do seem to just like helping people. Everyone in that room deserves the success they are looking for but the way you went out of your way to help Anand was great. I really hope he goes off and practises what you showed him.

Well I think your hypnotic languaging worked pretty well too.  I have actually upgraded to the ‘season pass’ so I am really looking forward to future seminars and the coaching program.

I really hope all things continue to go well for you and I am sure I will be speaking to you soon.

Steven Gooderham
Bury St Edmunds, England

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Next stops on the seminar tour: Chicago, IL in May (our last scheduled US seminar in 2011) and Copenhagen and London in June (our last scheduled European stops for 2011).  Will you be the next smart man to take a step forward and claim your results now?

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Click the Play button below to watch this testical-monial from my latest 3-day live seminar.

Hear Sanjay tell you, in his own words, how using Speed Seduction® tools moved him from fear to charisma, to achieve moist pink abundance.

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Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Next Friday (April 1) the Speed Seduction® 3.0 world tour lands at its next stop – London!  You going to be there?  Click here:

http://www.seduction.com/blog/2011seminar/

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

Just received another success story from a student who has invested in Speed Seduction® products and has used teachings that you’ll find inside my Speed Seduction® 3.0 Course and the Vaginal Victory Vault.

As you read, in his own words, how Ryan claimed his results with the women he truly desired, consider what steps you will take to make success with women an integral part of who you are, and make today the last day of the way you used to be.

Hi Ross,

I got into Speed Seduction® about a year ago, and after only a year of using it, I must say that this success story is long, fat, and hard overdue.

I bought the Deluxe Course in January 2010…spending my mornings on the way to work rehearsing the Unstoppable Confidence affirmations, practicing tonality, my days at work reading your emails, my lunch breaks trying out the material, and my evenings studying the course in depth.  I really surrendered myself to the techniques, with the mentality “lets just see what happens…”

The first thing I noticed was how wrong I was doing it all along…talking in informational terms, waiting for a chance to display “value” with some geeky story about how many girls like me.  So my first change was speaking in themes…universals that get the women speaking…and really involve them, captivate them, into the conversation, using body sensations, visualizations, and sensory descript languaging.

The second thing I noticed was that language really does wield a power to induce states.  In my first month of using SS, I would go to bars with my friends, approach every girl I saw, and one by one deliver the Incredible Connection Pattern.  After only a few tries, paying close attention to feedback, what seemed to work, etc. I finally got the revered “Doggy Dinner Bowl Look” that I had heard so much about, and then she affirmed my attempts by saying “yeah I actually feel that connection right now with you!”

The first girl that was interested enough to kiss and exchange numbers lived a ways away, so she was sort of my test dummy.  I would call her, and practice speaking in themes, in sexual metaphors, in ways that I never thought possible, each time pushing a little bit further outside of my comfort zone and into this incredible new world of language that I would have previously found so ridiculous.

This brought me another realization…how incredibly differently a person can speak to a woman.  I mean saying things that really made no logical sense at all, but in such hypnotic and suggestive language that her heavy breathing on the other end of the phone was all I needed as a go-ahead.

Eventually, living in a mountain town where the man-woman ratio is about 15-1, using my careful languaging and state inducing, (The voo-doo dildo joke was fantastic to get her hot…), I nailed this hottie after about 3 months of practicing the material (Many of the men in this small mountain town find no sex at all, so this is quite the testament).  One night I wanted a blow job.  I talked about the United States, and how the temperature changes.  Yes indeed, the further down you go, you slowly get hotter and hotter.  I talked about indulging, cravings, feeling good and how the more you FOLLOW YOUR CRAVINGS, the more fulFILLED WITH this good feeling, in MY opinion, you beCOME.  I continued this sort of languaging all night, and sure enough, my words were prophecy=)

I can continue this email all night long, talking about how I seduced a Japanese girl in a Zen Monestary (committed to sexlessness? Apparently not…), turned down sex (even turned down threesomes) because the women were not of my standards, and have generally surrounded myself with gorgeous women (the other night I was at a bar, the only dude with 6 slamming women, with many jealous looks from the guys), women that are not only hot, but funny, smart, interesting, and beautiful.  But Id rather skip to something.  The girl that I have chosen to be with now sent me this message online. (By the way she speaks spanish, and even with my mere half fluency in Spanish I was able to give her this gift…)

“You know very well how to integrate my sensations…with my body…its strange, you can arrive at every part of my body…before you I thought I had explored all of my sexuality…but with you I have discovered new things…I can travel to new parts of me…I can build new realities in union with you”

After reading that I just had to send you this message to give you a very genuine thank you.  I have changed myself so much in the last year…I learned NLP at the master prac level, I got into meditation, and best of all, I learned the art of seduction…all of which I did from “modeling” you.  With all the money I spent on NLP, I really wish that I had spent it on your seminars, as I have realized such amazing benefit from your products, and I will definitely continue to be your loyal student.  Everything of value that I learned from NLP, I had already learned from you.  So if this message reaches your readers…skip learning NLP through some bogus institution…learn it from the best…someone who uses it practically…Ross you are the man, and your contributions to society and manhood will always be of utmost value.  Thanks again brother.

Ryan Bae
Boulder, Colorado

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

There’s a big argument/debate on whether you can ever be “kind” to women.

Could she view this as a sign of strength (you are confident enough that you present yourself from a place of kindness and warmth) or weakness (that it makes you a pushover, an AFC, or worse)?

My answer:

Uh uh uh…depends Depends. Depends.

If it reeks of need or pressure (aka desperate supplication or other AFC behaviors), they don’t want it.

If it’s freely given or given from a place of abundance AND you have established authority and respect, it’s usually a-ok.

Most unappreciated “kindness” is unappreciated because:

1. You didn’t establish respect/authority or get any investment from her in the interaction/transaction BEFORE the kindness.
2. She’s a twist and just doesn’t trust any kindness. Ok. They are out there. Best to run away or play the villain only a VERY short while. But aware, please: if you stare into the abyss to get your cues and clues on how to respond and behave, the abyss also stares long and hard into you. And what it gazes at it molds and shapes. So don’t look long. You can glance briefly at the sun but I wouldn’t look too long nor make a habit of it. Get my metaphor?
3. It wasn’t really kindness but need or pressure.
4. She’s a super-twist and not only doesn’t trust kindness, she WANTS to be punished. Run, RUN, R-U-N away.
5. She doesn’t like the psychological pressure of having to live up to the ideal you think of her as; putting her on a pedestal gives her cramps, a nosebleed and a nasty migraine, so she kicks you in the face as she steps off to be human.
6. You are giving her the kindness you THINK she wants or that you enjoy giving and not what the kindness she really needs. If she craves physical affection and you buy her gifts it isn’t her fault that you aren’t paying attention.

Given the right context and a reasonably ok psyche (and it isn’t that rare) most women will soak up appropriate, NON NEEDY, NON PUSHY kindness.

Some are twists.

Some just crave excitement and drama and dominance more than the cuddlies, wuddlies and warm fuzzies.

The most confusing ones crave one over the other depending on their mood of the day or time of the month.

So, women, any given woman, are/is as unpredictable as each is unique in her own way, but there are some ground rules that always apply.

1. Screen your woman.
2. Establish boundaries, self-respect/authority in her world.
3. Those who require punishment or who never trust kindness need to be left behind.
4. Get a good initial read, if you can, on whether they more strongly prefer excitement, drama and being dominated to being cared for and looked after, or in what proportion they want each. I prefer a woman who is a good mix of both; if she doesn’t like excitement she’s probably a lousy fuck. If she can’t take kindness, then I can’t open my heart to her and the sex becomes nothing more than an energy dump; fun,but numbing and draining.

Hint: Learn to read the chakra at the hara or t’an t’ien. which relates to power and will issues and you will get an idea of where they are at. And EXPECT the unexpected because with women, it IS going to happen.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever felt like you got bitten by the “love bug” but you don’t actually want her?  Yeah…it bites.

Let’s say you meet a woman, Sarge on her, but as you explore the encounter and the woman you learn, for whatever reason there’s no way you could be with her in a relationship or any sort of involved scenario.  Either by her choice or yours.

YET, you’ve now become attached to her, maybe want to continue some sort of friendship….but…this has become your involuntary mantra:

…”Damnit, I Don’t Want Her, But I Can’t Get Her Off My Mind!”

A student of mine got fixated on a really hot 25 year old college student who, looks-wise, reminded him more than a little of the real-life chick who voices “Meg” on Family Guy.

She flirted with him like crazy, responded well to the patterns and language and so forth. But, upon getting to know her, how do I put this…this chick…actually WAS Meg Griffin inside Mila Kunis’ body.

There was NO WAY he wanted to be mixed up with her, not his idea of a “steady”.  This didn’t stop him from having the hots for her, to the point where it held him back with other women.

The answer: Reverse SRT Attraction Filter Ritual.

Here’s the procedure in a nutshell:

1. Prepare. Do your meditation, breath exercises, unstoppable confidence affirmations etc. – things you usually do.
2. Go inside and imagine her in front of you.
3. Feel the energy of attraction and see the Attraction Filter between you and her.
4. Watch as the Attraction Filter slowly loses its shape and its energy leaks to the ground.  Then watch the filter itself drop to the ground.
5. Reset. Say: “I release any and all expectation of results.”

After doing this several times….

….the crush was gone!

He simply couldn’t “find” it anymore.

With the fixation out of the way, he is in a place where he can enjoy those aspects of her that he finds appealing, but he’s no longer overwhelmed by the desire to seduce her or the overpowering thoughts of her at all hours of the day.

Seeing things clearly when it comes to women…now if that doesn’t beat a poke in the eye, I don’t know what DOES.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. At my live 3-day Speed Seduction® Seminars, we do actual exercises just like the one above.  Students achieve breakthroughs AT THE SEMINAR.  Not to mention, you get to watch live as I demonstrate the techniques on women so you can see exactly how it’s done.  We’re coming to London, Chicago, Copenhagen, Montreal, Melbourne, Sydney…will YOU be there?  Click here to get the full story and claim your seat before someone else does.

God, I love this job.

The other day, I shared with you the letter from a student in Greece who was concerned that some of the Speed Seduction® patterns and techniques might not work on Greek women because of the difference in how the Greek language works.

I explained to him that the key is to use your words to capture and lead a woman’s imagination and that it doesn’t matter if that woman comes from Athens or Atlanta, Santiago or Shanghai, Chicago or Cape Town: women want the same fundamental basic emotions and feelings.

Now, just to show you how it is your attitude that helps make the tools work better, let me share with you another scenario, this one from a student in South Korea who mastered Speed Seduction® quite suck-sex-fully on women who barely “speekee de Englees”.

He is an American who lived in South Korea for over 4 years and has used Speed Seduction® on women who speak English naturally and those who have had to learn it. He tells me, if he had to choose who to Sarge between the two, he would choose those who have had to learn it.

Why?

Well for one, the ones who have more recently learned English have to LITERALLY hang on every word and focus in more and more on what you are saying (just to understand everything correctly you are saying, and then process it.

Also, the language structure of SS is something they normally haven’t encountered. So they are learning a new style of speaking and so therefore they are automatically very interested in what and how you are saying it, and they don’t think you are manipulating them.

Also bear in mind, they sometimes don’t get the metaphors.  Is this a bad thing? Hell no. What they do is ask you (because they want to learn from you [heh heh]) “what does that mean?” Not only does their interest amplify but also it gives you further opportunities to use more descriptive languaging and amplify some more.

Not only that, but consider this.

If they don’t understand all the words, they WILL understand the frame and theme, and then THEY FILL IN THE BLANKS FOR THEMSELVES!!!!!!   The student tells me that many times he has no idea what he said to cause their overly sexual behavior towards him because they may have only understood half the words – but then he figured out they substituted their own internal processes in the language gaps and THEY JUST RAN WITH IT!

Here’s the thing: girls are very interested in mysteriously exotic things they have not or would like to explore more, and though it may not seem so, you are exotic to those who speak a different language than yours, regardless of your native tongue. So if you find yourself in another country, just stay the course.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

I received a tremendous response to my recent blog posts on women’s B.S. tests, specifically why women put men through them, and how men can “pass” them.

Now, let me give you three scenarios to illustrate these principles in action.

Scenario One: You call to ask her out. Her response is ambivalent, something like, “Well, I’d like to but, why don’t you call me later in the week and…”

Here’s your response: “Let me ask you a question, point blank. Is going out with me something you can take or leave or is it something that you’re smart enough that you really want to do that?” Then shut the hell up and listen for her answer.

Now, what are you doing here? You’re calling her on her ambivalence and letting her know you don’t have time to be put on hold. And you’re also suggesting she’s stupid if she doesn’t grab this opportunity.

Finally, you’re embedding a command that she really does want to go out with you. Will this work? Very often it does. It’s not what she’s expecting, and that always gets attention. Just be as matter of fact and non-hostile as you can.

Understatement works best with this one. What if she still hesitates? Well, say this one:

You: Look. You have my number, and I’m going to leave it up to you. And you know, if you don’t call it’s going to be a loss for me, but maybe what you won’t realize until after you hang up is, that it’ll be a loss for you as well. Ok? Bye.

Scenario Two: She calls and cancels at the last minute without offering to do it again at some specific time.

Look: I’ve heard every excuse in the book, my friend, from “My parakeet is sick” to “I’ve got to shampoo the rug”. Seriously.

Here’s how it works…

Her: I can’t make it. I’ve got a rare tropical disease that’s causing me to shrink by the hour.

You: (dead silence for as long as it takes for her to talk again. Just say NOTHING!!!)

Her: Hello? Are you there? What’s wrong?

You: What’s wrong is I can’t believe the bullshit I’m hearing.

Her: What?????

You: Look…you made a commitment to spend time with me and now you’re blowing me off. You’re disrespecting me and disrespecting my time and I’m NOT going to put up with it. My rule is, if someone makes a commitment to me, I expect them to keep it. If they can’t keep it, I need to know at least a day in advance so I can make other plans. Got it? If you can live with that rule, great…if not, sayonara!

Then, HANG UP!! Now, this may sound extreme, but man does it work well!!!

In fact, she’ll probably call back with five minutes and apologize and ask you out!!! I’m not kidding here; I’ve seen the hardest, jaded bitches go to giggly little girls, eager to please me when I’ve done this. It throws some kind of switch in their heads.

I guess with some people, you don’t really get their attention until…

You Give Them A Swift Kick In The Ass!!

Please note, I’m speaking of an attitude. I am NOT talking about or in any way suggesting or condoning physical violence with a woman. In fact, I am against the use or threat of the use of violence or force against ANY human being, unless there is an imminent threat of violence against yourself or a loved one. I can’t  make this too clear.  I’m talking about using your mind, NOT your fists.

Scenario Three: You go to pick her up at her place and she either keeps you waiting outside for more than ten minutes, or lets you in and then proceeds to talk on the phone for at least that long while totally ignoring you.

Wait for her to finish, and as soon as she does say something like this:

YOU: Can I ask you a question?

HER: Sure.

YOU: Are you being intentionally rude to test me, or are you just accidentally acting clueless?

HER: (mouth dropping open in shock, unable to say anything!)

YOU: Don’t ever keep me waiting like this again, ok? I’ll always treat you respectfully, but I expect the same. Do you understand me?

HER: Uh..uh…yes.

The point is this: when women throw this stuff your way, you want to do the unexpected. Don’t put up with it, like a “nice guy” and don’t lose your temper like a jerk. Walk a middle ground of strength, self-control AND self-respect, and these tests will become opportunities to power her straight into your bed.

And that certainly beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

‘Til next time…

Peace and piece,
RJ

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