From Neophyte Newbie To Valiant Vaginal Victor In Seven Sure-Fire Steps
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
Sometimes it’s the seemingly softball questions that really get my creativity flowing. A student asked me:
“So Ross, how do you suggest us newbie’s work our way to mastery?”
Wow. If I were to map it out, I would divide it up like this:
1) Understanding. This means you understand HOW women create their emotions. You get that the key is:
- Women already think and talk to themselves and to others in the Speed Seduction® Language. Meaning the “patterns” and such aren’t something I just made up. They are reflections/restatements of the way women think ALREADY. And that is why they work.
- It’s most important to think in terms of what emotions you want women to feel-what emotional states you want them to be in when they think about you. Get the emotions flowing first and the actions you want her to do will follow.
- Think of womens’ psyches/minds/personalities as a big ship with many smaller compartments. You want to activate/energize those “compartments” that contain her emotions/feelings/imagination for escape, fascination, connection, desire, indulgence, arousal, daring etc.
2) State control. You learn to control your state. That means you develop a good working relationship with uncertainty, confusion and frustration as well as being able to create and design more pleasant, “positive” states like confidence, certainty, etc.
State control isn’t just about how you are when you are with women. It’s about how you are when you review your progress with women, the mistakes you made, the things you did right etc.
3) Rehearsal and practice. You learn a good strategy to rehearse how you want to sound, look, act, re-act. You rehearse this outloud before you go out. You then go out and practice IN THE WORLD, as much as you can, whenever and wherever you can.
4) Designing your vibe and meaning. You get that the meaning you give your practice in the world is important. That “sarging” women is best viewed as a fun way to improve your skills, not a “do or die” mission that you MUST succeed at. The meaning isn’t, “I hope this works” or “What if I fail?” The meaning is, “Let’s go have some fun and see what I can do in the world with this person.”
You learn to design a vibe that is grounded, out-ward oriented(instead of attending to the dialog in your head) and willing to f@@k it up and have fun.
5) You get the most useful orientation. This means that first and foremost:
- You always notice what has worked, what you are doing right. You do not allow yourself to look at mistakes, feel frustrated etc UNTIL YOU FIRST ACKNOWLEDGE everything you are doing correctly, even the smallest step or element.
- You develop an action orientation. This means when you feel stuck or don’t know what to do, YOU TAKE ACTION IN THE WORLD instead of trying to figure it out in your head. You let your experiments, over time, with repetition and multiple trials, tell you what really works and what you can do.
- You realize the world has no guarantees other than dying, so you determine to design your life and make it worth remembering, rather than let your past, your peers or even your present situation tell you who you have to be, what you can do, and what you can enjoy.
6) You develop a practice that allows you to see where you have been going wrong, without being upset or believing you have to be that way anymore. The practice gets to the point where you see the mistaken/old ways of thinking and acting BEFORE you do them, so you can correct course BEFORE you hit the rocks. In other words, you have a meditation practice.
7) You get the best goddamn coach and guide in the world – that would be me.
Any questions?
Peace and piece,
RJ
P.S. One of the fastest ways to get me is to join my Coaching Program which includes live interaction – “Ask Me Anything” group coaching sessions as well as one-on-one office hours. Get me fast, get me good, get me live, get me now – click here.
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