Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

It’s one thing to have a woman in your arms on the dance floor.  It’s another thing when it’s a sexytime dance with some movin’ and groovin’ especially if that leads to doin’.

It’s yet another thing entirely to get that delicious dancer OFF the dance floor and onto the next chapter in your adventure together.

Check this out, excerpted from a Sarge report from one of my students:

> …Then I told her that I saw her out one the dance floor, that it looked like she was having a lot of fun out there. She said yes she was, so I told her to give me a couple of minutes and I would meet her out on the dance floor. She smiled and said ok.

> I continued with my conversation with my friends, then went to her with a smile on my face. After dancing for a few minutes I told her that I love dancing. She said she did too. I told her that dancing is fun, and when you are with someone (sp) that you want to keep dancing with even after the music stops.. its even better.

> She looked at me with a puzzled look and asked what I meant by that. I told her the music was too loud to have an exciting conversation like that, but she could meet me outside and I would tell her.

RJ here.  Let’s dissect this. 

First of all, he did fantastic by telling her to “give him a couple minutes” before he joined her on the dance floor.  He didn’t chase her but showed he had something else going on.  Good balance.

Next, let’s look at how he handled the conversation on the dance floor and how it got her doing most of the seduction work:

1. When he said “dancing is fun”, he didn’t specify HOW.  He left it vague. That allowed her to search her own imagination to find what “fun” meant for her.
2. He was vague as to who “someone” means.
3. Suggestion: “you want to keep dancing after the music stops”.
4. Dancing in what way? How is it better? Again, by being vague, he created response potential. She’s curious about what you mean and she searches for her own meaning.

Finally, note how he segued into getting that delicious dancer off the dance floor. Both in terms of moving her to a quieter environment so he could use his voice to better effect, but also moving her to another location creates a sense of having spent more time with her.  Classic move.

That’s how it’s done.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Within the walls of our 3-day seminar rooms, burned into the discs of our recorded teaching products, and locked snugly inside our instant-online-access Secret Training Collection…

… you’ll hear a lot about new directions, what happens below me, and how I close off the past so that today is the last day of the way I used to be.

Some skeptics say, “pretty much any intelligent woman is going to pick up on these double entendres and think you’re stupid.  Not for me, thanks.”

That’s a little misplaced, especially when many of my students get vaginally-victorious results just by asking women what they do for fun.

Exactly right. 

As I keep saying, there are certain questions and themes that are most likely to open up the trains of thought, waves of emotion, flows of feeling that lead a woman to feel strongly attracted, aroused, etc.

Knowing how to get these themes introduced into a “harmless” or “normal” conversation is a key skill.

Here are a few of my “tried and true” seduction questions:

• “When you really want to cut loose… escape… indulge yourself..what is it you love to do? And what’s something you’d like to do… but haven’t found a way to try (pointing to myself subtly).”
• “If you were to meet someone… when you just… feel… that… you know… and it’s not just that but also… you know… it’s ON… now… today(nodding my head)… what do you think is the one thing about you that would keep this person coming back for more….beyond just a one time thing”
• “Do you think men understand women? I don’t know if they do, but I think I can explain the psychology of men to women in just one joke…”  (I then tell them one or more suggestion laden filthy jokes!)

Finally, here’s how a student of mine explained, how HE made it work:

Personally I like to ask them about what they do for fun.  1 chick I was sargin went into a long drawn out description of how she loves to ride a motor bike. She was going thru all the motions as well, really describing it and acting like she was on a bike as she pretended to go around a corner making the noises.  You could actually see her reliving the scene out in realtime. It was even exciting for me to listen to her describe it so I was kinda getting her to relive what she likes to do most and she gets all those feelings of excitement back as she’s thinking about it and describing it.

I thought it was pretty damn cool it was like as if she was entertaining me

Keep learning.  Keep mastering.  Keep Sarging.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

As the latest building block in the “Wall Of Proof” I’ve mentioned to my Facebook followers that I’m building, containing REAL results that REAL students like you get when applying my teachings to claim ultimate success with the women you truly desire, please read the following:

OK, so I tried just a few things I read on your website with a coworker just to see what would happen.  She is a mom with school kids through high school.

When I get to the office, I stopped by her desk.  I didn’t even say hi, I just said, “The best thing about having kids is the worst thing about having kids, (long pause) wet (very slight pause, barely noticeable) moist (same barely noticeable pause) sloppy kisses.”

She totally responded to it! I mean, I set the stage with the whole kid thing, but she still filled her thoughts with whatever she wanted…   Of course I showed disbelief that she thought I was making a sexual comment, “What, I’m talking about my kids, where are you going with it?!”  Then I switched to small talk and snuck in maybe three or four phrases in the next couple of minutes, such as “wide open” “feel so comfortable,” “hard” and I can’t remember what else. I was winging it.

She was visibly hot and not so bothered!  It was crazy, I didn’t even try that hard, just messing around, but yet I was able to create a partial scene and let her mind fill it.  I just left her hanging there, I didn’t want to take it too far.

What I found so interesting is that throughout the day, whenever we had normal conversation, she would just gaze very intently at me, very hypnotic!  I would even just stare back at her just to see when she would break the gaze, expecting her to feel uncomfortable at some point.  She would just lock into a gaze. Her body language and eyes weren’t really telling me, “I want to eat you.”  It was more of a, “you did something to me, I really like it, and I want you to keep doing it.”

She is a lady that keeps her space, is very guarded and discreet, so I was shocked with the amount of eye contact and her physical proximity. She even started sharing about her personal life, and telling me about her husband and wishing he could be home more often (travels a lot and gone 3-6 months at a time), talking about how when he’s home he just wants to play golf and hunt. And she was just very… intense.  It was crazy!

What’s even crazier is that the the only knowledge I have about the seduction scene is reading your blog!  I can’t believe it, I can only imagine what the paid stuff teaches.  I haven’t even read The Game, only a book review that led me to your website!

What do you have that’s specifically sales oriented. I’m in sales and if I can influence buyers to a sale in a 15 minute period like I partially seduced my coworker in just a 5 minute conversation, I am very interested.

Alex Rodriguez, real estate investor
El Paso, TX

See what I mean?  The real power of Speed Seduction® is the ability to master the skills and then apply them to your own unique situations with women.  That sure beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students,

Just how difficult is it to use sexual metaphor and suggestions with a woman? Is it actually, in reality, quite easy, and something you can playfully use to sexualize conversations quite rapidly?

Why, yes, my horny disciples.  Yes indeedy do!

Here is an example:

Last week, I visited a friend in San Diego who runs quite a thriving enterprise. To protect his identity, I won’t say more than that.

In any event, when I arrived, he was a bit busy, so he put me in the care of his assistant, who happened to be quite an attractive German woman.

Just to be friendly, I spoke a bit of German with her (I learned in high school).

She said, “Your pronunciation is very good. You speak like a native!”

I said, “It’s funny, but I pronounce much better than I understand. I find languages have a certain feeling and a CERTAIN SHAPE IN YOUR MOUTH.  When it’s right you can FEEL IT IN YOUR MOUTH.”

She thought about it a moment and said. “That’s very true. I speak a little French and it feels much different in my mouth.”

I said, “That’s right.  French is very soft. But German is VERY HARD IN YOUR MOUTH”.  (This time I leaned on it a bit and put more of a sexual tone to it.”

Her pupils dilated for a moment, she took in a deep breath, and visibly reddened.  As she did I gently nodded my head “yes’ and she mirrored it back, nodding gently in return without being aware of it.

At that point, I started chatting about how close Germany was to Denmark, and how I loved Denmark because my amazing girlfriend is from there.

(Hey-I may play, but I don’t stray.  Once I hook ‘em, I gotta overlook ‘em, catch and release, cause at that point I cease!)

In any case, I invite you to explore how you can/could weave some of the following sexual metaphors into your conversations with women as early on in the conversation as you can:

“So hard…”

“Hard inside you”

“New direction/nude erection”

“Feel your opening/feel you’re opening”

“Suck seed/succeed”

“Go down”

“Put it in your mouth”

When you say these, slightly (slightly) shift your tone to something a bit quieter, and go into just a little bit of a sexual state yourself.  Don’t lean “too hard” (ah ah) on it!

Have fun and let me know how it goes…

Piece and peace,
RJ

P.S. I am seriously contemplating designing an on line program dedicated to the topic of different ways to quickly sexualize your interactions with wonen: verbal, vibe and touch.  What say ye to this?  It would probably run about 5-7 video modules, plus, when I create it, some live video broadcasts with Q and A. Maybe sell it for $97.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

In a recent post I addressed a scenario where a student attempted to persuade a woman to leave her ‘borefriend’ for him by getting her to fall in love with him, based on her statement that she’d never been “in love” before.

I walked through a scenario where, rather than buying into her limits (she listed “vulnerability” as one of the values she needed to see in herself in order to be in love), he used the information she gave him to open her up and get her excited about exploring her feelings and life in a different way.

The narrative I shared got a number of you curious, so let me draw a map for you now. 

Here it is:

1. BEAR IN MIND THE PRINCIPLE THAT 80 PERCENT OF THE SEDUCTION IS POWERED BY HER RESPONSES AND INFORMATION

2. Get the value or quality she looks for that is missing: vulnerable

3. Understand that “vulnerable”, by itself, is not enough to get her to access the feelings and emotions that would flood through her, were she to feel “vulnerable”.

4. Get her to imagine being vulnerable and to tune into what feelings and emotions she would experience in THAT place….have her REALLY get into the fantasy on a deep body feeling and emotional level.

5. Get her even more precisely tuned into those feelings by asking signal recognition questions. What would be the first signal on the inside that lets her know..she’s beginning now to feel X Y Z where XYZ equal what being vulnerable would allow her to experience.

See, what you are doing here is taking what is probably a vaguely formed fantasy on her part and making it VERY vivid and real..and THEN getting hold of those feelings and linking them to yourself.

Final step:

GET HER TO ACT

6. As you fire the anchors say, “so… if you were to realize that at last.. .you really could feel these feelings… that X, Y, Z..as the energy flows from(use her signal recognition answers)…where would you also begin to feel the feelings that let you know… just how strongly… you have to have this… NOW?”

Get it? See the beauty of the new model?  Think perhaps, just maybe, it might beat a poke in the eye?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

According to my customer service manager, one of the biggest things that students ask is where can they get even more word-for-word patterns.

You’ll find them in many of my courses – for example, I cover “Twin Brothers” at great length on the Irresistible Arousal DVD that’s included with the Power Pack.

But for today, instead of “more” patterns, let me state that most guys would be better served by learning to use the patterns they already know more powerfully.

I would also add: the best “pattern” is to evoke a woman’s own responses and processes and use them.

In this respect, the most capable Speed Seducer might be MISTAKENLY viewed as “passive”, in that, rather than seeking to create something that is not there, he instead seeks to evoke what IS there, stimulate it to life, seize hold of it and direct it to his intent.

In other words, we stay VERY strong in our intent, yet we use what is given to us by the other person, once we have them sufficiently stimulated to be responding in useful ways…from the deeper structures and processes in her body/mind.

We tune in…listen…use our intuition..use our ability to stimulate the useful processes and responses in her to life. We may seem to the untrained to be “sensitive” but in fact, we are providing a STRONG lead the entire time.

To balance this strong intent…STRONGLY LEADING…yet being open to her responses. THAT is the balance.

This balance can take months to get good at, and years to master, but once you get it, it becomes very hard NOT to attract.

Now, what are the things that get in the way of this? How can we, like sculptors, remove what doesn’t belong in us so we can get to the essence of the skills?

Removing What Is In The Way

First, we must remove our old ways of seeing women. We can see like any other guy, the things that all guys appreciate: boobs, butts, legs, lips, vulva. All good, all fine, all right…IN THE RIGHT PLACE AND TIME.

We must also learn, however, to see differently and to listen in a different way.

Talk to a woman. Stimulate her mind and imagination in a certain way, and within 2 minutes she is telling you how she can feel her uterus contracting when she is attracted to someone and you get the sound she makes to herself when she feels it..not because she says, “Oh, and I make THIS sound… ummmmmmmmmmmm… when I feel that.”

No, I’m just listening, and as she describes the process, she makes the sound at the end of it. Ummmmmmmmmm.

Now, I am listening for what I can use and NOT what stimulates ME!

Ummmmmmmmmmm is HER verbal anchor for that state.

So, for a while anyway, we must learn to put aside our own stimulation or turn it down. That is the first thing many guys most remove.

Second, we must learn to remove old beliefs about what we have to do to attract women and instead learn to look at HER processes and responses. Like the good Lord, SHE will provide what we need…IF we know how to look and listen for it and how to stimulate it into life..and HOW to use it once we have it.

Listen AND Lead

A student of mine told me he was speaking with a woman on the phone with someone with whom he’d had some brief conversations but they’d been playing phone tag.

He took the lead and said, “Why don’t we make a firm plan to meet for an hour so we can explore what is obviously intriguing us both?”

He suggested time. She said, “okayyyyyyyyy” but he noticed it was not a firm, enthusiastic “ok”. He NOTICED. He used his skill to listen. Then he moved to a STRONG lead.

He said, “you know, I want to make sure this is something we both enthusiastically want and “okayyyyyyy” is not the same as “ok…YES!”. THAT’S what I need to hear if we are going to do this. So why don’t we try later in the evening? 8PM I will meet you at _____________

She tried suggesting another place. He said, “Is it quiet? I want a quiet place to talk, so let’s meet at _____________ as I said before”.

She said, ENTHUSIASTICALLY and with FULL agreement, “OK! I’m looking forward to it!”

Now, this is a SIMPLE example… Not dripping with juice or phone sex, but simple and important. He NOTICED her response, brought it out to the surface, and redirected things WITH A STRONG LEAD.

You see, macho doesn’t work because MACHO DOESN’T NOTICE OR LISTEN. So it only works on women who are dumb or weak or destroyed enough to not want to be heard.

Just listening doesn’t work, because WOMEN WANT A STRONG LEAD. You must listen to her responses then STRONGLY LEAD her using them and what you’ve learned from them.

Do both.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Ever felt like you got bitten by the “love bug” but you don’t actually want her?  Yeah…it bites.

Let’s say you meet a woman, Sarge on her, but as you explore the encounter and the woman you learn, for whatever reason there’s no way you could be with her in a relationship or any sort of involved scenario.  Either by her choice or yours.

YET, you’ve now become attached to her, maybe want to continue some sort of friendship….but…this has become your involuntary mantra:

…”Damnit, I Don’t Want Her, But I Can’t Get Her Off My Mind!”

A student of mine got fixated on a really hot 25 year old college student who, looks-wise, reminded him more than a little of the real-life chick who voices “Meg” on Family Guy.

She flirted with him like crazy, responded well to the patterns and language and so forth. But, upon getting to know her, how do I put this…this chick…actually WAS Meg Griffin inside Mila Kunis’ body.

There was NO WAY he wanted to be mixed up with her, not his idea of a “steady”.  This didn’t stop him from having the hots for her, to the point where it held him back with other women.

The answer: Reverse SRT Attraction Filter Ritual.

Here’s the procedure in a nutshell:

1. Prepare. Do your meditation, breath exercises, unstoppable confidence affirmations etc. – things you usually do.
2. Go inside and imagine her in front of you.
3. Feel the energy of attraction and see the Attraction Filter between you and her.
4. Watch as the Attraction Filter slowly loses its shape and its energy leaks to the ground.  Then watch the filter itself drop to the ground.
5. Reset. Say: “I release any and all expectation of results.”

After doing this several times….

….the crush was gone!

He simply couldn’t “find” it anymore.

With the fixation out of the way, he is in a place where he can enjoy those aspects of her that he finds appealing, but he’s no longer overwhelmed by the desire to seduce her or the overpowering thoughts of her at all hours of the day.

Seeing things clearly when it comes to women…now if that doesn’t beat a poke in the eye, I don’t know what DOES.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. At my live 3-day Speed Seduction® Seminars, we do actual exercises just like the one above.  Students achieve breakthroughs AT THE SEMINAR.  Not to mention, you get to watch live as I demonstrate the techniques on women so you can see exactly how it’s done.  We’re coming to London, Chicago, Copenhagen, Montreal, Melbourne, Sydney…will YOU be there?  Click here to get the full story and claim your seat before someone else does.

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

One of the tricky things when you get good with Speed Seduction® is the thorny problem of having women fall for you and fall for you hard, when all you want is a little bit of fun.

As guys, we have to be aware that even the most bitter, cynical, hardened woman can have her heart burst wide open and her feelings of wanting to be loved really come to the surface when she is properly seduced.

Let’s face it: sex can make all of us feel very vulnerable, and most especially so with many, if not most women.

To illustrate my point, let me share a note from a student facing this situation:

Dear Ross and Bros:

Went out with a young lady I met on the internet on Saturday.

Any way, one Twin Brothers pattern led to another and we ended up back at her place.  No need to go into the details, but when I left we both had big grins on our faces.

The reason I feel a little guilty is that I haven’t called her since.  I’m pretty sure that it won’t do her too much harm, but also pretty sure that it won’t make her feel too good and won’t do her self esteem too much good either.

Although I’m not that interested in developing a relationship with her, I would prefer to be able to  walk away knowing that, at the very least no damage has been done, however small that might be.

Now, I was pretty honest with her and didn’t promise her anything other than an interesting evening.  I did say that I would call her, and  later in the week I shall.  But what would be interesting from you guys would be any thoughts on how to set her up on the date so that they see the evening as a fun, exciting event and are happy not to expect too much after it.

RJ: The key here is to be honest about your intentions if she asks.  The second thing is, if you are not looking for an incredible connection, but just a roll in the hay, don’t use “connection” patterns.

I teach there are 4 doorways into any woman’s mind and emotions:

1. Getting her visualizing vividly.
2. Getting her to feel strong emotional connections
3. Getting her to feel strong, pleasurable body sensations
4. Getting to her core value structures

If you sense a woman wants too much from you, commitment–wise or is looking for than what you want, do not use doorways 2 and 4. They create a very strong emotional bond with most women.

You can use them, lightly, but mostly I’d lean on doorways 1 and 2. There are plenty of patterns to pretty much guarantee you can get in without creating deep emotional bonds.

Of course, if a girl is desperate and needy enough, she will CREATE those bonds, even though you never used any patterns at all! That’s when we can get into some trouble even though we proceeded with care. The problem isn’t with us, but with our “subject”; she’s just too friggin’ needy to deal with it.

If you sense you have a girl who is on the needy edge like this, it might be better to just let her slide and NOT have sex with her.

How’s that for having a life of real choice: you actually have so much variety and choice with women that you can feel great being able to say NO to a girl instead of it being the other way around! Imagine that!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Emotional connection patterns are VERY powerful. They do to women what high heels, push up bras, and boob jobs do to use men; they make the subject loose control!  Use them with caution.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I’m proud to say that Speed Seduction®, which started from such humble beginnings over 20 years ago, has now spread around the world and is being used in many, many different languages.

I guess it’s like I said: when it comes down to it, whether you are black or white or yellow or brown or red, there is only ONE color that counts: PINK.

All men are brothers when it comes to poon-tang.

Anyway, often I get questions about how to apply some of the specific Speed Seduction® methods to a foreign language.  One example I have to show by way of answer is this e-mail, from a Greek student:

Hi Ross,

I have some of your patterns and want to try them, but I have some difficulty with the language as here in Greece things are a bit different. I guess that this may be a common problem non-English speaking students may be facing in the “translation” of your patterns.

The verb “feel”

ENGLISH         GREEK

I feel          Niotho
You feel        Niothis
He feels        Niothi
We feel         Niothoume
You feel        Niothete
They feel       Niothoun

I will feel     Tha nioso
You will feel   Tha niosis
He will feel    Tha niosi
We will feel    Tha niosoume
You will feel   Tha niosete
They will feel  Tha niosoun

I can go on with the verb, but I guess you got the picture already. This seems like a pretty screwed up situation to me. Since we use NLP, I understand that we are talking directly to the woman’s subconscious.  From NLP, I have the understanding that the subconscious understands only the present tense.

However, in Greek, verbs are different for every person and tense. My question is if I can deliver the command using any person and any tense.

Best regards,
Alexander

RJ: Alex, I understand your rather technical question.  I also know that some of the ambiguities in English, like “below me” and “blow me” don’t exist in every language.

Nevertheless, while some specific small pieces may have to be modified, ALL women have a subconscious mind, ALL women have imaginations and emotions and ALL women can have their imagination and emotions captured and lead by language.

It’s sort of like driving a car. In England, people may drive on one side of the road while in the USA they drive on another. But the car still works the same way, with the same fuel, the same engine, the same steering.

Don’t get distracted by the tiny details of language that change from country to country. Just focus on these questions:

1. What can I do to control and design MY state?
2. How can I communicate in a way to capture and lead her imagination and emotions?

Now, consider that Greek is the language of the New Testament AND that the Greeks invented modern theatre, modern story telling, poetry, epics, I would say you guys have  HUGE advantage over the rest of us!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. I have answered over 120 questions through video modules, on specific topics I get asked about often as well as direct, detailed responses to questions from individual students, in the Speed Seduction® Secret Training Collection.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It often comes up that a woman who has recently gotten out of a long-term relationship will be reluctant to sleep with you.  Even though she wants to, really bad.

A student of mine received an e-mail from a woman he had been Sarging and things were really heating up.  A little confusing with a “WTF” aspect to it, for sure.  But, check this out and then I’ll tear it up:

“I’ll be really honest with you here. I enjoy talking to you and I think you would be great in bed.  But there are a couple reasons why I’m not going to sleep with you. One – I am still very in love with my ex boyfriend. Two: I really enjoy talking about sex with someone that I’m not sleeping with. It’s just so much more honest. I’m sure that makes sense. See you Thursday, looking forward to it.”

It’s right in front of your face: this chick has ALREADY made up her mind to sleep with you. 

She needs an excuse in her mind so she can feel blameless; “well, I TRIED not to sleep with him and even told him “NO” but I just couldn’t help myself..it just HAPPENED”.

Note what she said, “I think you would be great in bed”.

STOP! How could she “think” that without FANTASIZING about it?

Just say to her,

Hey…I’m glad for your honesty. Whatever we each and BOTH feel, I don’t want to do anything unless it is BOTH something we are BOTH thinking and dreaming about and totally want to do. So let’s just relax, enjoy each other’s company and only in whatever ways are comfortable and we BOTH want to do.

This takes the pressure OFF. Then keep right on Sarging..when you start to undress her and she resists just say…“We BOTH can’t help ourselves!” then fairly aggressively peel her panties off and enjoy the “lift-off” of the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle.

And that sure beats a poke in the eye!

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Remember: a woman’s first response to you should rarely be taken as her “final answer.”  More likely, she’s responding to what’s in her mind and her world AT THAT MOMENT.  In 24 hours from now, 1,440 minutes will have passed, each with a reason why it’s possible  she’ll think differently.

Sound like a lot to manage?  Not if you have this on your side and in your corner.