Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Has a chick ever given you a fake phone number? (HINT: If it hasn’t happened to you, you’re probably spending more “quiet time at home” with Rosie and her sorority sisters than you are out in the field meeting hot women.)

For the 96 percent of you who have met her, thought you hit it off with her, and then eagerly dialed those digits you scored, only to find yourself on the phone with some dude who has “never heard of Debbie” and repeats “I repeat, Skippy, you have the wrong number“…it leaves you wondering…

Dude…What’s Up With THAT?

It seemed like she was really into you. In her voice, it sounded (to you) like she’d be pretty much be counting the minutes (1,440 per day) until her phone rang and it was you on the other end. So how did you end up calling the Sausage Market instead?

Here’s what probably happened:

1. You didn’t build sufficient interest or rapport. She wasn’t interested and she didn’t like you. Plain and simple.
2. That being said, you were dealing with an insecure chick who didn’t want you to dislike her or feel bad toward her, so she “gave you her number” to maintain your good feelings about her…IN THAT MOMENT.

Once you were out of her sight, you ceased to matter to her, and she couldn’t care less what you thought about her. Now that she didn’t have to look you in the eye, she could go back to hiding behind her game and there’s not a damn thing you can do about it.

Here’s the thing: if your Sarging goal is to score her digits, stop it. Stop looking to add a new number to your Crackberry or get the digits to her i(Don’t-Actually-Answer-My)Phone and instead engage her imagination and her unconscious processes to create connection and desire.

For this chick who just stiffed you on the digits – remember, how a woman behaves early in the seduction scenario is an indicator of how things will go when things get hot and heavy. If she can’t be honest about this one thing, imagine what life would be like if she was your girlfriend?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Most guys have gotten what’s known in some circles as “the gesture” from a hot chick.

You approach her, and before you get in two words, she makes this “waving-off” hand gesture like you’re a bug who’s swarming around her. The worst part is she doesn’t even have the decency to use words, as if you’re not worthy of even that much.

That feels like she just kicked you in the groin, except you feel it… all over!

Listen: having a really attractive woman be disrespectful to a guy she thinks is going to hit on her isn’t exactly a new concept. We’ve all been there.

Typically, guys are expected to be able to act like it’s no big deal or laugh it off, chalk it up as “her loss”, and move on. Most guys, because this is what’s expected of them, try to do this.

The problem is that it doesn’t work.

Why Getting Dissed Is No “Laughing Matter” …
And How To Kick Those Pangs Of Pain In The Jewels
And Get Your Chuckles Back

Being “dissed” triggers your threat response. It’s instinctive (meaning it’s NATURAL) and it happens faster than your cognitive brain can process the information and say “whoa there, Buckaroo, she’s just a random chick, don’t get your boxers all twisted there, pal!”

Furthermore, if it’s an extremely attractive woman who disses you, you also experience a loss of esteem, like maybe you’re not the stud you imagine yourself to be. This leads to emotional pain.

Trying to laugh it off and/or brush it off causes you to suppress your feelings. This builds pressure over time. With each new insult from an attractive woman you react to ALL the previous insults as well.

You can’t be expected to come up with an effective response to a single incident if your subconscious is reacting to every past incident.

Look: you may be scoring with the ladies left and right. A student of mine tells me he had just gotten laid by two different women on two consecutive days and now has them both calling wanting to see him again. But then this other prima-donna stuck-up b%$&h waved him off like he wasn’t even human, and now he’s REALLY mad, and hurt.

So, as you look at how your anger and hurt at being dissed is boiling up within YOURSELF, ask yourself:

• What could you begin to add to it to balance your reaction to getting “dissed”?
• What about properly applying a sense of humor to the situation?
• Could you form new beliefs that you can use to respond differently?

Get these questions answered, and soon you’ll find that instead of pretending it’s “no big deal,” you’ll have a mechanism for how to properly deal with it. And that sure beats a poke in the eye (and your pride!)

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll remain calmly in control as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

Next time she waves her hand at like you like She-Devil, you’ll have a new set of reactions that will keep your pressure-cooker on low simmer and redirect your energy toward meeting women who will “gesture” for more enjoyable, exciting things with you.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

What’s worse than being in that “not so sweet spot” where you’ve met a woman, and you don’t know what to say to her? There she is – right in front of you, this incredibly sexy hot babe who, up until now, you never in a million years DREAMED would be sitting right next to you, hanging on every word you say. Yet…

… you can’t find the friggin’ words!

Rather than dazzling her with smooth banter, you’re internally going berserk while hoping she doesn’t notice the 24-pound giant cat that has sunk his claws into your tongue and stretched it all the way to the floor like a flaccid fruit roll-up.

Later the “right words” will come to you, all right. While you’re back at your place, alone, imagining what it would have been like to score with her.

Well, all that’s about to change. Effective immediately, I hereby declare a “State of Sarge” because it’s time to …

… Get Into The State For Conversating, So You Don’t End Up M*****bating!

Many guys find they don’t have a lot to say when she’s right there, because he’s “been there” before. Say the wrong thing, or even say the right thing but with the wrong pitch, and she’ll drop you faster and harder than an 18-pound bowling ball comes crashing when dropped off an 18-story building.

When you find yourself internally whining to yourself about girls who “shot you down” on the playground in third grade, you’re not going to be in the state of Sarge that gets you to home base with the woman who’s here, right now.

Instead, close your eyes, relax, and alter the “shot down” state you’re in. Visualize the results you’ll be getting when having the right conversations with women. Focus on how you WANT things to be and the way you WANT things to go, and the chances are you’ll get there a hell of a lot faster.

Have you recently had a Sarge that went horribly wrong? Does it seem like your overall “batting average” with the ladies is in a slump? Do you find yourself so wrapped up in what went wrong, that you can’t vision things going right?

When you find yourself reflecting on “Sarges gone bad,” I challenge you to focus on what went RIGHT. Then, release any worry or angst about the “dumb things you said or did” and the moment when she gave you a dirty look and walked out on you. Because now, it doesn’t matter.

Stay focused on where you WANT to go (that being, back to your place for a night or weekend of “screaming with ecstasy ’till the neighbors call the cops, mind-blowing” sex)… and with that vision as your guiding force, you’ll get there faster.

My skills. My results. My satisfaction. My world. Mine.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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It’s time to get that friggin cat off your tongue. Click here to learn more and get yours now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

OK, so it’s time to hit the town… but you’re sitting home alone.

Maybe all your pals are married or in committed relationships (or perhaps “real-hate-shun-ships by default”) so you don’t have a wingman to help you approach the “b#%ch-packs.”

Could be you have no one to go out with (did you actually try asking people, or are you ASSUMING everyone’s busy or not interested?) and you feel awkward going out alone. Maybe you’re out of town and it feels weird going out alone.

Any way you look at it, you’re not out there meeting women. Instead you’re doing something else, involving a word that sounds like “meet.”

The (Likely) Real Reason You’re With Rosie And Her Sisters Tonight
Instead Of Making Out With Dazzling, Delicious Debbie

Perhaps you’re tried Sarging on some hotties, but having gotten the brush-off more often than you expected, you’re coming up with any dang ol’ excuse to stay planted on your Seduction a$% instead of taking to the field.

The easiest one is “I hate going out alone.” Well, join me as I show you …

… Three Surefire Places To Find And Flirt With Fine Women,
Without A Wingman Or A Pu#$y-Pulling Posse

Here are three places you can start looking, right now:\

• Street / store sarging. The best places to meet women are not “meat markets.” Get into the Sarging zone by talking to everybody. Before you know it, approaching a hot woman, anytime, anywhere, will be just a day in your life, not an “event” that you prepare for.
• Organized Social Events. What do wine tastings, dance classes, cocktail parties, party cruises, and networking events all have in common? Lots of hot, exciting women. You already have an “if all else fails” ice-breaker because you know you have at least ONE thing in common.
• Plan Your Flight, Hotel… And Sarging Zone. If you’re going to be out of town, do some advance research before you travel so you know the hot spots to hit while you’re in a new town. Are there organized social events in that town that strike your fancy? Get on Google and let your fingers do the walking. You’ll find something.

  Let me do the math for you… New City + New Women = New Adventures.

Get good at mixing it up and talking to everybody when your friends aren’t around. Then, when you meet cute, available women, your social wheels will already be turning and you’ll be the master of your girl-getting game.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Ready to make life work for you and attract and score with women, anywhere, anytime, with no need for a wingman or social safety net? Everything you need is in my Speed Seduction® 3.0 Course. Click here to get yours today!

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

One of the most important components of Seduction is the “vibe” you put out there – meaning, how women perceive who you are and what you give to the world when you approach them.

There will always be women who are simply unable or unwilling, for reasons that are not yours to figure out, to accept the gifts you offer.

I’m frequently asked: what is the right way to handle women behaving toward you in a very rude manner?

For example, blatantly insulting you while you both wait in line at a pizza shop for no reason? Or being rude to you as if she’s testing you, or as if she has more of a right to exist than you do?

First, realize that anyone who gets rude or angry at your genuine, decent behaviour has a problem. It is about THEM, not YOU.

Here are three ways you can powerfully handle the situation and turn it to your advantage:

1. Use humour. Shake your head, and say, “Wow..I hope you get over the guy who really f@@ked you up…do you spell that “Daddy” or “Papa”?
2. Just hold compassion for them as a person in pain and say nothing, or say, “Wow. I’m sorry I interrupted you while you were being miserable.” (Credit to Stephane Hemon of ideaGasms for that one!)
3. Challenge them to something better, say,“Wow..what a rude, cold way to PRETEND to act”. Emphasize the PRETEND.

A couple months ago, I was at Whole Foods and approached a woman with one of my tried-and-true pick-up lines – one that has worked for me hundreds of times.

Her response (with dirty look and loud disgusted sigh): “What the F@@k do YOU want?”

Me: “You know, I know what your boyfriend looks like.”

Her: “Really now? What DOES my boyfriend look like, since you know it ALL?”

Me: “I see his face in the mirror every morning when I shave.”

Her (really angry and almost shouting, not getting it): “Are you in my bathroom, m^#$*rf@@ker? What the…. F@@K?!?!?!?”

Me: (points to her, laughs hysterically, and then in mock drawl) “Well then…. looks like…. ‘Exit, Stage Left!’ for me!” (walks away, not concerned that she might be giving me the finger behind my back)

Again: when you don’t take crappy behaviour from women (and people in general, for that matter) personally, it doesn’t happen as much. But it still happens. When you approach women with integrity and good intentions… the spiteful behavior of a few meanies won’t trip your game.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. With what I teach you throughout the 7 DVDs and 11 CDS of Speed Seduction® 3.0, you’ll be in charge as the effortless seduction architect of every interaction and situation.

You’ll learn great tools and tactics to use in the initial walk up to guarantee you’ll never have to worry about what to say and that you are firing up her fantasies within minutes. Now, that sure beats a poke in the eye!

Click here and get what you need to powerfully handle the “meanies” – and SO MUCH MORE!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

I absolutely love teaching smart guys like you how to get the steaming hot women you really want without having to resort to what I call the “5 B’s” – bullying, begging, buying, B.S. or booze.

The other day on one of my twice monthly “Ask Me Anything” calls, a member of my coaching program brought up this situation and I asked him to follow it up by posting on the community forum Here is what he posted:

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Ross,

I had an interesting situation come up when I was shopping for furniture. I saw a woman who had such a major league hot body, she could have easily been a stripper or a bikini model.

I went back to the home study courses you’ve talked about before and used the strategies, such as trying to get a sense of her energy.

But there was a sales clerk attached to her. She just kept pummeling him with questions. He’d flit away for five seconds and come right back.

They had an interaction that went on for so long that I felt like I was stalking her. I was wandering from aisle to aisle and killing what time I could, but eventually I felt like I was going to get busted or give her the creeps or something so I backed off.

What do you do? Is it ever doable to interrupt an interaction with an ongoing sales purchase? How can you break into that?

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This is a situation that most guys find themselves in. They want to approach a hottie in her daily life but there’s some co-worker, sales clerk, or other business acquaintance who won’t get out of the way long enough.

Here’s something to think about. Although this chick is smokin’ hot, maybe you’re just not going to meet her today. You can hang around, and maybe the clerk will go away. Chances are, that sales clerk will be there until the time she pays for her furniture – then she’s out of there.

Meanwhile, look around you. Right now. Are there any other beautiful women in the store who are more approachable – who you could approach instead? Is there somewhere nearby (a lounge, a coffee shop) you could look? In my Gold Walk-Up DVD. I cover many types of approaches that you can use in many different situations.

Peace and piece,

Ross Jeffries
Founder, Speed Seduction®

P.S. There are many ways to get her attention at work in a way that isn’t “weird” or “stalkerish” while she’s at work. You just have to think “outside the box” (pun intended) in order to get inside her box.

In my Speed Seduction® Home Study Course, you will learn and use patterns that cover every possible problem and contingency you might encounter when you see a steaming hot woman you just have to meet, so you’ll be able to smoothly exert total power and control from start to finish in virtually any situation – wherever and however you meet her.

Get yours today:

http://www.seduction.com/blog/homestudy/

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Dear Speed Seduction(R) Students,

In this video(which is #3 of 10 in my Youtube  Beyond Dating Tips Playlist) I discuss the nature of approach anxiety-what it really is-and how to destroy it so you can enjoy the ability to approach and pick-up(and seduce) hot women with ease.

I have a radically and fundamentally different view of approach anxiety; I don’t view it as being about fear of rejection or even fear of the approach

Rather I view it as neurological friction; the result of two equally powerful and conflicting desires arising in your neurology at the same time.

What are these?

The desire to move forward and talk to the woman(or women) and the equal and opposite desire to stay right where you are and not say a word until you are certain that what you are going to say and do will work.

Let me give you a metaphor to understand.

Suppose I gave you a radio-controlled toy car.  And you gave it the command to turn left and turn right at the exact same moment.

What would the car do?

I think you know the answer.

It would freeze up and spin its motor until it burned out or the battery ran out.

Is this beginning to make sense?

A huge breakthrough will occur when you now realize that approach anxiety isn’t really that at all. It’s internal conflict manifesting as neurological friction and cognitive confusion.

Now there is one more complicating factor and that is the meaning you give to the feelings of neurological upset.

If you conclude that the anxious, or rather FRICTION feelings means that you face some external threat-that you are about to be rejected, defeated or humiliated in the external world, then you are going to create secondary anxiety about that.

Now, in addition to the internal conflict, you get to add in a nice dose of fight or flight syndrome.

So what is the solution to all of this?

Watch the damned video. And if you’ d like to go directly to Youtube to watch, and so you can help me spread the word by rating and commenting on it, then it’s How To Destroy Approach Anxiety And Approach Women With Ease.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. Hey, could you please do me a favor and help me out? If you’ve found value from this article, and/or the video, could you please help me spread the word by Twittering the video’s Youtube URL: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8R4tJjXqJ7k.

P.P.S. Did you know when you follow me on Twitter you can ask me anything and usually get a reply within just a few hours?

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