Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

A couple weeks ago, I issued a challenge to all of my students.  To repeat:

From now on… for the next 60 days… you will not get or accept a phone number, nor make a plan to later see/spend time with a woman until, unless and AFTER you and she have made out for at least 10 minutes.

How many of you are doing this?

Here’s a perfect example to illustrate why you must stop “getting her digits” and “asking her out” on “a date”.

A student reported this experience with a woman, and I’ll let him tell you in his own words (the names are changed to protect the innocent):

> So, I wanted this bisexual black HB 9 to hang out with us tonight. She verified her number when I ran into her last night, and said that she wanted to pick up women with us.
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> I call her and leave her this message: “Hi Debbie, this is Dick Dickerson. I’m not sure if you’re the type of woman to be fun and adventurous enough to hang out with us and meet some beautiful babies tonight, but if you are, call me at XXX-XXXX. We’re going to be at X area all night. Bye.”

His full Sarge report contains more detail that can all be summarized in one sentence: They texted back and forth a few times that evening but she never showed up. 

So, listen:

Someone like this moves toward whatever is most stimulating in her environment in THAT moment, whatever it might be. She’s not reliable and can’t make plans and seldom thinks beyond the next few hours.

You either f@@k this kind right away, or not at all, or serve as their attention supply when they are bored, lonely or feeling alone.

SHIT CAN IT and move on.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Every time I’m out and about, living my life, and I’m in a public place and I overhear the phrase “I got her digits” (as in, a guy boasting about this to his pals as if this is a great victory) I think to myself…

“WOW…a phone number.  What’s he gonna do next, add it to his iPhone?”

A couple weeks ago I was at a local coffee shop where I sometimes hang out and I got treated to hearing someone go on and on and on about all the numbers he gets from women, all the time, everywhere.

If you ever watched “Cheers” you may remember some of the plot lines about Sam Malone’s little black book, filled with phone numbers of hot women, with her rank on Sam’s personal rating scale (similar to the HB scale that Speed Seducers® use) next to each name.

Those who REALLY remember will recall, some of the episodes showed Sam’s inability to actually get one of those women to meet up with him, no matter how many numbers he dialed.

No, I’m not referring to the episode where the young kid stole the black book, called the women pretending to be Sam and arranged meetups, then didn’t show up.  It actually happened more than once where Mayday Malone spent the night alone, just him and his little red Corvette.

Why the “hit or miss”?

Because it was a book of phone numbers with notes and commentary on PAST experiences Sam had with women.

So before you decide to go build your own “little black book” and use the number of entries as an indicator of your success with women, consider the following.

What you aim at, you tend to get.  What you focus on, you amplify.

So…you are aiming at getting phone numbers? You’ll get phone numbers.

If you program your alarm clock to ring at 11:00 AM, what time do you think it’s going to ring? 10 AM? 11:30 AM?

If you’re driving your car and you set cruise control to go 65 MPH, how fast do you think the car will go?  25 MPH?  100 MPH?

What is it about your mind set that is having you fixated on phone numbers?

A phone number is just a punctuation point. Sometimes it leads to a full paragraph, sometimes it’s a semi-colon, often it’s a question mark or period.

Instead: what energy/attitude are you coming from and displaying when you meet women?  How much time are you spending talking with women? Building interest? Intrigue?

Sure, you want to have a little black book, a steady stream of scintillatingly sensational women who want to spend time with you.  But remember, it’s not the book itself – it’s the EXPERIENCES, that are your ultimate success with women.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S.  A running joke about Sam Malone’s black book was that many of the women within were among the loosest, easiest, and/or most air-headed women in Boston.  YOU need to decide YOUR own definition of a “top quality” woman – and go for women like her, and even better!  Click here to learn how.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

Why in the world would any guy in his right mind want to take a step backward down the intimacy ladder with women?

Yet that is exactly what many men are doing by following stupid-ass advice from “PUA GURUS” to use text messaging with women they’ve just met.

Listen: using your voice is far more powerful, conveys far more emotional meaning, and enables you to evoke far more powerful states of emotion than even the most cleverly worded text.

Hey: if it is true that 70% of communication is not the actual words we use, but facial expressions and the tone of our voice, then what in the world do you think is the result of just typing words?

Is it just me, or does that seem like screwing when your dick is soft?

The only time you should ever use text messages with women is after you have already “hooked up”. Once you’ve done that, then texting can be a way to easily arrange meetings or stay in touch, but even then it has to be used judiciously and sparingly.

A few other things to bear in mind:

• My students often tell me about women who at the end of a phone call will say “text me” or who will want to hang up, yet immediately continue the conversation via txt msg-ng.  Is she serious? Don’t you want her to take a step forward, TOWARD you?  Will texting “hey wassup?” pull her closer?
• So she’s into “sexting.”  Like cybering, you have to wonder, is she visioning you when she types all that naughty stuff, or is she thinking about a guy she’s actually fckng who isn’t there rite now 2 srvce hr 2day?

Remember: txt mssgs sck dck and only asshls use them on chicks they hvnt fckd.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. When you can use your language to capture and lead a woman’s imagination and emotions within minutes of meeting her, she’ll probably text you something like, “Cn I cme ovr and sck yr dck?” So guys, clck here 2 get the cmplte systm dat gets u wmn U desire 2day wo hving 2 txt.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

So, you have this scandalously hot ex-girlfriend, or fuck buddy, or whatever. It’s in the past, you’ve moved on and she’s moved on, but you still think about her…about it…about how amazing it was. And, if you had the chance to do it all over, yeah, you’d still do her.

They’ve been saying it for ages, we all know: “ex sex” can be a great thing.

You crack open your little black book and take a chance. Yes, that’s still her number. Yes, that’s her answering. And ohhh yes, she’s glad to hear from you because YES, she’s been thinking the same thing you have. You say those things to bring up the good old feelings, running those patterns that get her breathing really hard and loud. Just like old times.  OH YES.

Then, when you think you’re about to go for a reunion ride on the Cape Carnal-Veral Shuttle, she’s all “well it was nice talking to you again” and “yeah, I agree, let’s get together…sometime.” Subsequent calls to that phone number seem to find their way to her voicemail after just one ring.

What Put The Kibosh On The Ex Sex?

Why did she pull back, JUST when you HAD her? Simple: BECAUSE YOU DIDN’T PULL BACK!

You handed the thrill to her without her having to work for the reward, confirm or ratify she is enjoying it, etc etc.

Because it’s phone fantasy, why would she bring it to real life and risk losing it? After all, some night YOU will be horny, and she still has YOUR number, too, right?

I’ve learned over and over until I finally got it: don’t do too much over the phone because then they won’t want to risk ruining the fantasy with real life exploration!

Also, it’s so powerful, it’s overwhelming and therefore terrifying. You took her so way, wayy beyond what others can give that now she is scared. It’s human nature, unless you:

1. do things on a gradient. Start with just what she can take, then build up from there.
2. make her work for it.
3. give suggestions that she MUST get more for herself; how it takes an ability to find and follow your desire to HAVE more..you know where the source of this is and you just have to CUM…back…TO THE SOURCE to really get what it is you are seeking…ME…
4. get her ratifying that she wants more and let her know that if she wants more she has to say “MORE PLEASE”.

Do this, and yeah it won’t be as exciting of a phone call, but what DOES happen next WILL beat a poke in the eye.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. To bring your ex back to sex, it’s crucial to recapture her imagination, get her back into those intense positive emotional states, and get them linked back to you. Only you. Not some guy she just met who sort of reminds her of you. How? It’s all inside Speed Seduction® 3.0.

Dear Speed Seduction® Master-In-Training,

Join me as I once again reach into my mail bag and pull out another excellent question that was e-mailed to me by one of my best students, someone who has invested in my courses and who regularly follows the Steaming Hot Seduction Secrets.

This one deals with an issue that often comes up: what happens when you call or e-mail or text and leave a message and you don’t hear back from her. Here’s the question:

I normally don’t have problems getting girls, but I recently moved to a new city. I met a local girl who works at the pub just around the corner. She expressed great interest in me, giving me her number (without me asking) and even asking ME out on a date. On this date, she invited me to her place to order take out and watch movies. The conversation was great, and by the end of the night I even gave her a back rub. She gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek before I left, also expressing interest in making another date very soon.

The next day I texted her, just asking how see was doing, she responded by saying she was great, and asked me how I was. I responded by saying I had an awesome day, and left it at that. So I gave it two days before I messaged again, with a short text “What’s going on?”  It’s been three days, and I haven’t heard back. I would greatly appreciate your insight on this, and what I should do from here?

Alright, a few key points here:

First, foremost, important-most, and uppermost: maybe she was at a concert or something when you texted her, wasn’t able to answer, and got sidetracked.  Are you persistent, much? And what’s up with texting?  If you can text her, you have her phone number.  Give her a call.

Here’s the even bigger question: when she expressed interest in setting up another meet very soon, what stopped you from setting up the date and time, THEN AND THERE?  Why did you wait?  You know what they say about guys who wait.

You might also want to check this out, since you’re “new in town.”

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

The terms in which we’re programmed from early on to think of “dating” is what’s tripping so many smart guys up.

Click the Play button below to learn more and then comment to tell me your thoughts:

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. The video clip you’ve just watched is a sample of what I teach at my live, 3-day seminars.   The next dates are in New York in June and London in August.  Have YOU signed up yet?   Click here to learn more.

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

So, you’ve approached and met and are now in conversation with that incredible hottie you just spotted from across the room. You’re in your Sarging “zone” and the rapport is building faster and hotter than the greatest orgasm you’ve ever experienced.

You dig this chick but right now, you’re running late for your appointment / client meeting / dentist appointment / picking up your dog or cat from the groomer and you need to pick this up another time.

This is the “moment of truth,” pal.

Handle it right and you’re off to the races… botch it and your next mind-blowing sex will be with Rosie and her sisters. What do you do?

The following student reports he has been “scoring” with a long string of answering machines:

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Hi Ross, I have to say that your pick up line approach and getting a girl to hand her phone number out is the most unbelievable thing I have seen. I am approaching girls anywhere I see them! Now I am getting women’s numbers, but when I call her I have like zero rapport with her because we talked for 60 seconds before she gave me the number.

What steps do I take to get women to return calls when I call them to ask them out on a date, since women rarely answer their phones and I usually have to leave a message. What’s the best phone message pattern you use to get the best callback response?

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First, let me clarify something. If you’ve spent 60 seconds with a woman and gotten her phone number, you’re not going to be asking her on a date. “Dating” is what you do with women you’re already sleeping with. Unless you’re a “minute man” I don’t think you’ve had sex with her yet.

That said, why are you getting her phone number, then calling her up later to set up a meeting? When you wait till later, all you’re doing is… waiting. Every single day that goes by is 1,440 LOST minutes you could have spent (at least some of) with her, sharing adventures and hot wild experiences.

If you’re doing a “five minute close” on a woman you’ve just met, either because you’re pressed for time or are still mastering your walk-up technique and use the “short and sweet” approach to get her involved, don’t get her phone number so you can call her up later to set up the next step.

Close her on the date and time of the next meeting then and there – BEFORE you move on to otherwise living your life.

First close her, then experience dripping wet sex with her, and then worry about having her phone number… so you can call her the next day before you see her again.

That is what I “call” a plan for Seduction success.

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Among many other things, I teach you three new and different ways to use the initial walkup to open and access the most hyper-erotically responsive aspects of her psyche. Do this instead of getting her damn number so you can call her “later.”

Claim yours, and start picking up the pace and shortening the distance to ultimate Seduction success, now!

Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Yesterday on my blog, I told you about my student who had sex with the super-squirting babe who dried up and flaked on a planned meeting.

24 hours before their next scheduled meeting, she texted him with this: “I have to cancel our plans for tomorrow. I totally forgot about a previous engagement.”

He knew immediately (as did I when he told me) that it was a flake, a line of total malarkey, because she didn’t say she was sorry, didn’t immediately offer to reschedule, and tried to hide behind texting rather than calling him.

A few minutes after I wrote yesterday’s Steaming Hot Seduction Secret, I found myself AGAIN in teacher/mentor mode (the place where I thrive). I wrote out a brand-new Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern and e-mailed it to him. As you know, I do my best work when I am hands-on with my students, helping them succeed in their specific situations with women.

[For those who are joining me this Sunday (October 25) for our "Afternoon With Ross Jeffries," I will share this message pattern with you, word for word. And if you can't make it, click here anyway and pre-order the DVD recording of the event, and you'll receive the message pattern too.]

Some of the key points of the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern (spoken in my student’s voice) are:

• I’m trying to figure out what’s going on and want to open the opportunity for you to tell me
• I’d rather have it on the table or in my face, then behind my back (I use this in one of the screening patterns I use when I Sarge)
• I’ve enjoyed being with you and want to hear what’s going on

As a smart guy who is serious about success with the hottest of super-hot, wet women, he called her that evening and she answered the phone. After she tried to play him off and tell him she wasn’t “in the mood to talk” he had her pause and focus on listening, and then he spoke the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern to her, word-for-word.

For a “use a knife to cut the tension in the air” 20 seconds, she was silent. I would venture her previous men have been Average Frustrated Chumps (AFCs) and she’s never been in the presence of a real Speed Seduction® Master who powerfully claims his desire, his skills, his success, and his future. Now she was confronted by a man who doesn’t mess around when it comes to getting what he wants, and realized the “game” she is used to playing with men wasn’t going to work on him.

Then she said, slowly, “I’ve given this a lot of thought and I just don’t think we have much in common. You’ll make a woman happy very soon, but I’m just not feeling this. I’m sorry, I’m really bad at this.”

Whether or not this was THE truth, it was, as far as he’s concerned, “her truth” at the moment. And it wasn’t his job to “figure her out.” In fact, in my debriefing with him he said the only part he really heard was when she said “You’ll make a woman happy very soon.”

Like this pattern? Pretty cool eh? It clears things up so you can focus your energy and efforts on women who will be worth your time. That sure beats a poke in the eye!

And again, if you spend this Sunday afternoon with me (or pre-order the DVD if you can’t make it), I will share these, and others of my brand-new, best-of-the-best Seduction/Pick-up/Personal Change Breakthroughs with you.

Peace and piece,

RJ

P.S. The goal of the Anti-Flake Phone Message Pattern is to get her to step out from behind her game and claim her truth (if she can). In this case, she couldn’t. This is an indicator of how she would behave toward him if their interactions progressed to “seeing each other” and then “boyfriend/girlfriend.” By using the Anti-Flake this early in the interactions with her – the VERY FIRST TIME she flaked on him, he sidestepped a landmine so he can refocus his Sarging efforts toward finding the RIGHT women for him.

P.P.S. Would you like to get your greedy little hands on word for word seduction patterns, INCLUDING the “forbidden” Gemini and Dark Sun patterns that induce permanent behavioral change in the women you desire, allowing you to mold them to the exact erotic specifications you require, demand and dream of?

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