Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It’s one thing to achieve mastery over your use of the four vibes to fearlessly and effortlessly get all the women you want.  But what happens when you have a “bad vibe” going on inside you that’s holding you back and stopping you from making your move?

Many guys tell me that they get visions of failure before they even walk up to her.  The visions just sort of “take over”, and when they do, the guy’s girl-getting game gets thrown in the hole, locked up and thrown away the key, and the only thing left on tap is this feeling and vision of failure.

Next time this happens to you, consider the following:

Those images would not be in your mind if you were not choosing to value certainty (even the certainty of FAILURE) over being uncertain.

Look: the real issue here is not even the content of what you are visualizing. Or whether you are doing so deliberately… or, as several students have put it, “It just takes over me”.

You are trying to gain information about what you can do in the world and how people will respond to you from a system/process (in this case, your internal imagery and dialog) that can’t possibly provide that information for you.

In short: you are racking your brain trying to come up with 100% CERTAIN success before you take an actual step. That isn’t possible, of course- so now the system is running the OTHER way, providing certainty for you that you will FAIL.  By doing so, you are REJECTING YOURSELF before she even gets to decide to drag you into her room and fuck your brains out.

Fear of failure isn’t pleasant. But at least you are CERTAIN you are going to fail with all that crap running through your head.

Now What Is All Of This Really Doing At A Deeper Level?

It is reinforcing your self-image as someone who needs guarantees before he takes a step into the real world.

You are so distracted by the content of your imagery and dialog that you aren’t seeing the process it is trying to serve. And you aren’t seeing the underlying self-image that is being fed by this nonsense.

Guess what?

You are NOT a goddamned fragile child.

You will NOT fall apart if someone doesn’t like you or accept your overtures.

It will simply be unpleasant. But you may also find that the energy that is released after you breakthrough and beat your fear feels better than anything you’ve ever experienced in your life.

I recommend you imagine that you can reach in and find the “you” that doesn’t need guarantees. That can let loose, say “fuck it” and just go see what happens.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Imagine your life with no need for assurance or guarantee of success of any kind before you took bold (and fun) seduction steps, as you walked like a giant where other people fear to step? Now, what if you could get off your excuse-making, “I understand but don’t do it” ass, and get moving right now in the real world with the success you’ve always wanted?

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

One of the components of what I call the waiting game (what others call the “dating” game) is this: “dating” is designed by the romance industry to get men to shower women with free stuff – free dinners, free candy, free movie tickets, free dirty weekend in Vegas, etc…

Just the other day, someone asked me this question: “Is there a pattern to turn the tables – to get women to buy ME free stuff – to take me to dinner, buy me clothes, take me to the movies, etc.”

I think there’s a word for that: gigolo.  And how nice would THAT be?

But: you see, there’s a huge PRIMARY error in that way of thinking.

What is that error?

You are thinking in terms of behavior – what you want her to do – BEFORE you think of what emotional states she ought to be in such that it would be natural for her to WANT to give you that behavior.

Rather than try to create a pattern specifically geared to getting her to, say, buy you a Rolls Royce, how about generating such amazing feelings inside of her – feelings that she craves – feelings that she ratifies and affirms that she LOVES – that she then feels motivated to please you in EVERY possible way?

Then, and ONLY then, would I even think about patterns that allow you to embed suggestions to buy you stuff.

Do you see the error?

Remember: as a master of your girl-getting game, you are responsible for creating the state in which she is willing, indeed eager, to go where you want her to go.

Peace and piece,
RJ

P.S. Again, there is NOTHING wrong at all (per se) with wanting to have a woman buy you lots of stuff. It is how you are structuring your thinking FIRST in terms of her behavior before you think about structuring her emotions and state of mind.  To get a ton more on this topic “in a box”, click here.

Dear Speed Seduction® Students And Fans,

It’s an oft-told story…

Boy meets Girl in an “everyday” setting.

Girl smiles and giggles oh-so-cute and Boy sees the door open and beckoning.

Boy strikes up a little convo.  Girl’s answer to his innocent-yet-obviously-leading question (the one where he asks her out without actually f@@king ASKING) leaves him stumped even though it’s plain-as-daylight stuff.

Let’s hear from a student who felt like he just got “traded down to the minors” off such a seemingly innocent response:

The other day, I went to a local clothing store because I needed to pick up a couple things.  I was greeted by a cute, bubbly sales associate.  I said hi and bought a belt and a few other things (I was there for that in the first place).  I commented on her style, then I left.  But – as if opportunity was raining down from heaven, I had forgotten my cell phone, so I went back and said I lost it!

She asked for my number so we could call it and hear it ring.  Lo and behold, it fell off while I was trying on the belt and landed under a rack with fall jackets on it.  Heard it ring and picked it up.  Then I asked where she lived, and her name, and if she had plans for the evening.  She said she was going to relax at her place.

I didn’t know what to say, so I left (with her phone number, and her name). She seemed interested in me, and I was wondering what I could do to get in contact with her, and get her to meet me. Can you help me?

Let me start with the Captain Obvious answer: call her and and f@@king ask her out.

Don’t try to figure out if she really seemed interested… or just being all cute and flirty to loosen up your wallet by tightening up your Johnson (something that, uh, RARELY happens in the real world and is, uh, NEVER done on purpose).  Besides, your memory of actual events is probably distorted by now over hot you think she is… and how hot you wish, hope, and pray she was FOR YOU.

But think about what you’re asking her (or the next woman, when you go back for cuff links):

You asked where she lived (which DOESN’T MATTER until you go back to her place for some EEE-RRR-EEE-RRR), her name (was she wearing a nametag, as a sales associate in a retail store?), and what she was doing tonight (other than breathing and eventually sleeping?)

Were THESE the questions she was being called upon to answer while sidelined from making money so she can pay her rent?  What did her responses tell you about her “vibe” and what inspires her, so you could use it to anchor her emotions and get her excited and irresistibly aroused at-will?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Students and Fans,

There is only one sure thing in this world: the fact that there is no such thing as a “sure thing.” Part of mastering your girl-getting game is gaining comfort with, and mastery of, the unknown.

Here’s an example of what might set things off: You just spent an awesome evening with a hot babe. Everything was perfect and you got her all excited…and the night is coming to a close and you go to kiss her. But before you get a word or a move in, her first response is to tell you “I’m only going to hug you good bye…okay?”

Worse yet, by the time you get home you see she already e-mailed you saying she enjoyed “learning about you” but with no specifics about what specifically she enjoyed, or whether she wants to enjoy more! (Say WHAT?!?!?!)

Man, does that fry your circuits or what??? You thought FOR SURE that you were taking her for a ride on the baloney-pony express tonight! Immediately the thought creeps in… “Uh oh….she doesn’t have interest in going out with me again.”

So what are you going to do? Pick a daisy and start plucking the pedals while saying “She wants to bang me; she wants to bang me not?”

Tell you what…

Leave The Daisies In The Yard, Because Your Ticket To
The Cape Carnal-Virile Shuttle Is Still Valid

When all this happens, you are filtering your experience through a lot of anxiety. Remember: a woman’s first response should NEVER be interpreted as her final response. You’re jumping the gun here, cowboy.

How do you know she’s not just playing hard to get? Maybe she doesn’t know what she’s playing, or if she’s playing at all. And if she doesn’t know, how the he11 can YOU know, based off a hug and an e-mail?

Part of the issue is that your field of energy collapses at the first sign that you MIGHT be “losing” the chick. Then you go into a downward spiral of self-doubt. This leaves you feeling flat and dry as a fluffy pancake.

Then, you pour on the maple syrup: you are still filtering your girl-getting skills through the filter of “I hope she likes me! I HOPE THIS WORKS! PLEASE LIKE ME!” Sticky – as in, it gets you stuck – for sure.

All of this is static that will loop you back into the problem. Does it sound familiar?

Instead, imagine this: how would it be different for you if you walked through the world enjoying being powerful, outrageous and strong and not caring so much if it worked or it didn’t, but caring more about the energy and vibe you were going to express the skills from?

Yep, THAT would sure beat a poke in the eye, wouldn’t it?

Peace and piece,
RJ

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Dear Speed Seduction® Student,

Being able to succeed with women has everything to do with being in the right state of mind.

In the right state of mind, you can even flub up your execution of your game plan and still have the woman leaping into your bed.

With the wrong state of mind, even the best laid plans (pun intended) often go wrong.

So let’s talk about how you can up your state of mind using two key concepts: vibe and meaning.

Key Idea #1: Tapping In To The Power Of Vibe

Let’s talk first about your vibe. My definition of “vibe” is the overall and immediate unspoken emotional atmosphere that you create with your presence. This is usually perceived largely on the unconscious level by women and causes an overall unconscious shift into a positive mood on her part.

Let me bring this even more clearly down to the ground for your so you can immediately recognize this is important and useful. A vibe, generally speaking, is experienced by the women you meet as an overall body sensation.

Now please note: It’s not necessarily intense, but it’s an overall, diffuse sensation. Within that, there could be ripples of local intensity, depending on what kind of vibe it is.

For example, she may feel an overall body sensation of comfort, but inside of that, may be feeling localized ripples of arousal, desire, even deep connection.

(If this sounds a bit “airy/fairy” to you, I can assure you that this indeed is how women experience their subjective feeling world. So knowing this is crucial. )

Key Idea #2: Tapping Into The Power Of Meaning

Next, pay attention to the deeply held beliefs and meaning you attach to the moves you make with women.

One can be, “I have to make this work,” which carries a sense of desperation. And nothing turns women off more than that.

Another less than useful meaning you can give to approaching women is, “I really HOPE this works”. That’s a coming from a frame of despair. Again, a turn off.

Finally, there is the anger frame: “This bitch had better bite down on this”. Again, a less than useful meaning.

The best meaning you can attach to approaching women is, “Let’s have some fun and see what happens. I’m going to learn something” Another good way to phrase it is: “Let’s see. Let’s go let the world show me what I can really do. Let’s go find out and have some fun.”

In other words, take on a fun/learning frame, where you can’t lose. Because you’ll either enjoy getting what you want, or enjoy learning what you need to get what you want, or better.

And that sure beats a poke in the eye, doesn’t it?

Peace and piece,

RJ

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