Get Laid Lessons From A Viking Vixen
Dear Speed Seduction® Student,
The other night I was hanging out with the Swedish ex-room mate of my Swedish ex-girlfriend.
Let’s call this gorgeous, 5 foot 10, 25 year old, buxom Swedish lass, “Inge”.
Anyway, Inge and I were sitting over coffee at the Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf on Wilshire and 9th when we struck up a conversation with a Persian woman in her mid-thirties.
This lady was talking about a recent date with a guy who seemed so romantic and wonderful over dinner. But then, as soon as they got back to her place, he aggressively jumped on her.
She asked him to slow down a bit. “This is going too fast,” she said she told him. “Can we slow down and talk a bit? A woman needs a bit of talk first.”
This just pissed him off. “We did our talking at the restaurant,” he said. Then he got more aggressive.
When she insisted he slow down and talk, he got up and left!
This lady shook her head and said, “Doesn’t he understand? Women want to talk a bit first. I was ready for him but I wanted him to talk and make me feel a bit special.”
After we left the Bean, Inge said to me, “That woman was so full of shit, generalizing like that. I’ve got lots of sexual confidence and if I want to fuck a guy enough to invite him back to my place, I’m perfectly fine with getting to the fucking!”
(Hey-do you still wonder why I love the Swedish people?)
Here is the point of the story:
- While it’s often safe to have general rules to follow, every woman is different, and you have to calibrate to the unique woman in front of you. (And if you are anal enough to write to me about generalizing about Swedish women, fuck you very much.)
- Almost never take a woman’s auto-pilot responses at face value. In the case of the Persian, her real emotional need was not to talk or to feel special, but rather, to feel comfortable letting go of control.
The guy took it personally and permanently, rather than saying something like, “Of course. Let’s just do what we only both feel comfortable with. Why don’t you give me a little tour of your place?”
His next move? After about half an hour of chat, to say, “I’ve got to make it an early evening. Can you walk me out?”
As soon as he gets to the door, turn around, pull her in, and kiss her passionately.
(By the way, I’m working on a new course on Effective Sexual Aggression And Creative Closing For The Former Nice Guy. Stay tuned for more, because I’ll be going into great depth about how to master this stuff. It’s still a fundamental sticking point for too many guys).
I’d like to hear your comments on this subject and this post.
Peace, piece and hooray for Inge and her lovely countrywomen!
RJ
P.S. Speaking of all lovely things Scandinavian, two weekends from now (June 10-12) is our next 3-day seminar, located in Copenhagen, Denmark. Claim your ticket to immerse yourself in 3-days of total Seduction mastery teaching by clicking here right now.
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